Anger Management and Counselling in Kingston, ON.

While anger is one of our five basic emotions, it is often the one that gets the worst rap. Anger makes people uncomfortable, and for understandable reasons. When we are angry, our brains go off-line and there is no reasoning with us. We are illogical, we are loud, we might yell or swear or blame others. Frustration is often a cause of anger, but it’s not the only root cause. Stress also plays a critical role in anger building up. Thankfully there are a lot of great concrete strategies that can help lessen the intense flames that burn within. Having a fire extinguisher is not necessary… just a quick call to a therapist will do.

Anger is a normal and healthy emotion and we all get angry from time to time. However, when anger turns destructive and/or self-destructive and brings problems into your personal and professional life, you need to seek support to learn how to manage your anger better. In the process, you will learn how to relieve the symptoms and recognize the signs of anger, increase your confidence and self esteem level, enjoy stronger and healthier relationships with your loved ones and coworkers, learn how to express yourself and your emotions with confidence and without anger, and live more balanced life both mentally and emotionally.

Have you ever felt like you needed to hold a piece of yourself back, fearing that people won't accept you? Do you feel you can’t be your true and authentic self around others? Are you constantly saying yes to things you want to say no to? Wouldn’t you rather feel like you’re in control? Others are more worried about how you act when you're angry than about why you're angry.

Anger is often thought of as a negative emotion, but I like to think of Anger as the part of you that loves you and wants to stand up for you when you’ve experienced something “unfair.” Anger does not always make the best decisions about when to stand up for you, so I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore how anger shows up in their lives, and to strengthen and develop strategies to minimize the impact it has on living the life you want to live. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

Anger is really the outward expression of internal pain. Often it is easier to be angry than to feel painful emotions such as sadness, loss, and grief. But it is not easy to work through the underlying foundations of anger. By recognizing and understanding the feelings that are driving your anger, I can help you get to the bottom of your anger issues and support positive change in your life.

Anger is a natural emotion, that often comes secondary to the initial emotion. Anger is a behavioural response to unmet needs, not being heard, not listening to the primary emotions, and/or not voicing your concerns. Counselling may help you slow down the behavioural response and focus on performing more effective behaviours (e.g., communication). Through improved self-awareness, identifying emotions, addressing thinking patterns, and having behavioural options improvements can be seen. If individuals are willing to put in the work, they can lead more fulfilling lives and develop better personal and professional relationship.

If anger has a hold on you and your life, therapy can help you feel free again. I can help you learn the necessary skills to manage overwhelming emotions that arise due to anger and help you identify the roots of your anger. Therapy can also help a person address underlying emotions and memories that may be contributing to the distress. With time and patience, anyone can learn to control their anger, and I am here to help you through this journey.

Are you finding it difficult to manage your anger? Anger is often a result of loosing your sense of control, feeling frustrated, or being blocked from something that is important to you. Psychotherapy can help you develop better self-understanding, reduce stress, cultivate better judgement, develop your communication skills, and increase empathy and connection with those around you.

My approach to anger management is centered on cultivating healthier ways to express and manage your feelings. I provide practical tools and a supportive environment for understanding and managing anger constructively. We will work together to help you identify and better understand your triggers, develop healthier coping mechanisms, and fostering emotional regulation. If you're ready to take control of your emotions, reach out for a free consultation.

My approach to anger is that it is an emotional response based on thoughts that are often irrational and habitual. The thoughts can be so fleeting and difficult to detect that they become automatic and feel as though the anger springs fully formed out of nowhere. But anger can be controlled if its origins are understood. Often, it is a learned response based on watching our parents and other formative influences in our lives handle problems. We can be socialized to be angry. It can feel empowering at times if it is directed outward toward injustice and hurt, but it can also be directed inward or misplaced because we perceive injustice and hurt where it does not exist.