Great Couples Counselling in Kingston, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

An intimate partnership is a strong and powerful connection between two people, and it is often a complex dance of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. In couple and relationship therapy my goal is to assist couples in resolving problems and conflicts that they have not been able to handle effectively on their own. Therapy involves both partners sitting down with me to discuss their thoughts and feelings. My aim is to allow each partner to gain a better understanding of themselves and their partner and help them to decide if they need and want to make changes in their lives and in their relationship. I provide a supportive safe space to help couples learn new ways to relate to each other.

As a therapist, I work primarily from an attachment perspective with individuals and couples. My training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) allows me to provide evidence-based interventions to support both individual clients and couples to create lasting change in their lives. **EFT Externship, EFT Core Skills, EFiT (Individual EFT Therapy), Applying Polyvagal to EFT In individual therapy, this type of therapy is an attachment process (the formation of safe connections) between the therapist and the client, as well as between the client and previous and current relationships; and in Couples Therapy, within and between the couple, where your relationship is my client.

Our couples therapy sessions are flexible and tailored to the needs of the relational unit. Whether you need longer sessions, evenings, or weekends, we're here to help you work through the difficulties in your relationship. Grounded in principles of Emotion Focused Therapy and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, our couples therapist will work with both of you in a neutral, compassionate, and balanced way to try to bridge the divide that exists between you two.

I specialize in working with couples in crisis because of a betrayal, trauma, PTSD, addictions, and ADHD. I am a registered gestalt therapist with somatic experiencing training out of California. If you or your partner's trauma is impacting your relationship I am here to support you both. Healing can happen. If you are unable to leave your home because of the lack of childcare available we can arrange sessions for you and your partner once the kids are all tucked in or during the weekends! Couples therapy can be done very effectively via tele-therapy. Give me a chance to help you rescue your shitty relationship! -The tile of my soon to be published book- The Shitty Relationship

Couples therapy is not just for times of trouble, it is also important for building a strong foundation to an already strong relationship. Our couples therapists focus on learning about your unique relationship and what each of you bring to the table. We tailor this process to what your relationships needs, which could be healing from a trauma, infidelity, loss, and/or life stress. We are here to help and to support your relationship.

Couples often come for counselling when one person is seriously contemplating leaving the relationship. The person who wishes to hold the relationship together is often the one who initiates and it can be a challenge convincing your partner to try one more time to resolve seemingly impossible issues. I employ the Gottman method of couples counseling. By examining the positive aspects of your relationship and its strengths - which may seem to have faded and become undetectable - we can find ways to overcome the challenges. If there are underlying individual issues that need examination, we can do that so that both persons feel strong and resilient and able to move forward together.

Romantic relationships can be hard work. They require regular care to keep them functioning well. Many couples expect romance to go on forever without doing the necessary work only to face the realities of relationships. Relationship issues become more magnified when one or both parties carry a history of trauma. Couples counselling can help individuals learn about one another, communicate effectively and grow as individuals while becoming loving partners. The therapist is an unbiased party who is there to help both partners function together well as a unit by providing solution-based interventions.

Relationships are like two people singing at the same time. Sound beautiful? But imagine if the two songs were not similar in tune or harmony and didn’t match each other at all. That’s where couples therapy comes in – separating clashing issues and perspectives, so the harmony becomes more like a well orchestrated symphony. Many couples will often try to manage their challenges for years, struggling to feel connected and heard, before ever seeking therapy. Repair and reconciliation have been futile. Therapy can help couples see the role they each play within the relationship and help them learn new strategies and communication techniques to overcome unhealthy patterns of interaction.

Would you like tips on how to communicate with your partner? How about learning how to argue fairly and come to a compromise or solution? Would you like help in restoring the gratitude you once had for your relationship and loved one? My therapeutic technique(s) using both talk therapy and active therapeutic strategies I.e. worksheets, couples homework assignments, etc can help you acknowledge areas in your relationship you would like to improve and provide practical strategies toward accomplishing both your individual and partnership goals.