Anger Management and Counseling in Westlake, TX.

When working to address anger management issues, I help people learn how to identify stressors, take necessary steps to remain calm, and handle tense situations in a constructive, positive manner. Once someone has better understanding of anger and their triggers, they are able to develop skills and tools to help them respond to stressors or triggers in a more healthy and effective manner.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is one of the most power and expressive human emotions, but unless it is understood and channeled appropriately it ends up destroying lives. The uniqueness of anger comes from its ability to hide and consume other emotions. Through counseling you will learn how to distinguish anger from other emotions. You will also learn the source of your anger, to appreciate your anger, positive ways to express your anger, and ways to control your anger instead of it controlling you.

Do you get furious when you're behind a slow driver? Do relatives get upset because you get so angry so often? Are you ashamed or embarrassed when you see yourself having temper tantrums, or saying things to co-workers or strangers that you wish you hadn't said? Have you lost friends or jobs, or been arrested, due to actions you took when you were angry? If any of those things apply, you need help learning that anger is normal, but expressing it appropriately is a skill you can learn. I can help you learn to de-stress and deal with life's everyday trials in a better way.

Anger is usually caused by shoulds or demands that you impose upon others. You argue with what is, demanding that what you want is what should be. Anger is truly one of the hardest emotions to shift out of when you're really feeling it strongly. In working with you on your anger, I will start by just listening and trying to understand why you're feeling hurt, betrayed, abandoned, abused, neglected, or deprived in some fashion. Then I will teach you to evaluate what is in your control & what isn't, so we can help you to focus upon what is in your control. In addition, I will teach you appropriate ways to express yourself, and to shift out of demandingness, into stating what you prefer

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.