Anger Management and Counseling in Lemon Hill, CA.

You find you get angry at other people and it lands you in trouble with your boss, your spouse or your family. It can be hard to manage your anger when circumstances frustrate you. I know you have tried to stop your anger, but it has not worked. There is a way to not be angry and to feel better. I have been counseling people who have anger problems for many years. I understand and can help you figure it out. Give me a call now at 916-847-8053 to see how my services can help you manage your anger.

Anger often stems from deep hurt. I can help you discover the origin of your anger, and in doing so can help you to work on healing the wounds that continue to hurt you and cause you to lash out at others. I can help you learn new coping strategies and healthy outlets for those times when anger seems to control you, and more effective ways to relate to those around you.

Everyone feels angry from time to time. It is a natural and healthy emotion that can benefit us in many ways. However, anger is a problem in our lives when it is felt during inappropriate situations, or if we express it in ways that are counterproductive to our well-being. Learn what your anger stems from as well as new tools to help you develop healthy forms of expression. Stop the cycle that causes a downward spiral.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Often times anger management issues come from feeling like we are not being heard or understood. In the majority of anger management cases I have ever worked with, the anger stemmed from people being unable to communicate needs, frustration, fear, & disappointment in a healthy way. Sometimes anger problems are the result of a history of being hurt by others. In these cases people struggling with anger management become sensitive to any signs that someone might hurt them again, and they develop a quicker, stronger fight/flight response. It is my job to help anger management clients to recognize anger as it is building, create ways to relax and stay calm, & to communicate their needs/emotions.

It is normal to have and feel anger periodically, and it is even an innate part of being human. However, some of us cannot help but express our anger in unhealthy, even damaging ways. I will help you learn to create healthy ways to release your anger and work through it so that it doesn't affect your partner, family and friends. What I will teach you are appropriate ways to catch and release the anger brewing insde of you before it spills over and out in a harmful barage of words or violence.

Anger Management helps you to recognize frustrations early and resolve them in a way that allows you to express your needs--and keeps you calm and in control. Some signs you need help controlling your anger include: Often feeling that you have to hold in your anger Frequent arguments with your partner, children or co-workers that escalate frustrations Trouble with the law Physical violence, such as hitting your partner or children or starting fights Out of control behavior, such as breaking things or driving recklessly If you need help learning skills to manage your emotions, please contact me for support.

Every person who has struggled with anger knows that it is a feeling that can be very difficult to control even when you want to. I can help you learn to respond to anger triggers and cues more effectively, and to change how you respond to your angry feelings. The biggest damage occurs when we act on the angry feelings, and I will help you learn to identify and reduce reactivity to those external or internal anger triggers. We all have angry feelings; it's what we do in response to those feelings that contribute to a life of free of needless suffering and emotional injuries.

Anger is an important emotion, though it often gets a “bad rap” being associated with violence and emotional injury. There is mobilizing empowering energy in anger. It becomes a problem only when it becomes stuck, pent up, and then periodically erupts like a volcano. I assist clients in taking responsibility for the understanding and care of their underlying emotions. Mindfulness is a powerful yet gentle way of developing capacity for productive emotional expression. This kind compassionate practice ultimately leads to greater congruence and authenticity in one’s sense of self.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger is never just anger at face value. Oftentimes it is a "secondary emotion"--the visible tip of the iceberg. It is common for our fears, frustration, hurt, vulnerability, and sadness to manifest as anger. There are many useful tools and insight-oriented interventions that can help manage our distress, improve communication and relationship functioning, and positively impact how we view and care for ourselves. You deserve to be heard and validated in ways that are respectful and productive. I can help you achieve more meaningful communication as we work toward greater understanding of your feelings and needs.

Anger management has received a bad rap. Comedic movies, such as Anger Management, have poked fun at the idea and practices. Whether anger is a sign of weakness, or simply a primal human emotion, may be the subject of long debate. Regardless of the source, the expression of anger has become more prevalent and unhealthy as the world has become more stressed, crowded, alienated, and complex. The idea that we should simply "let it all out" and hope that that will solve the problem is ineffective and harmful to all concerned. If anger is destroying your relationships, I'm available to equip you with the techniques which will allow you to tame the beast and take back control.

Has your anger gotten out of control? Are your relationships suffering because of your uncontrollable outbursts? Do you find it difficult to understand just why you get so mad out of nowhere? There is help available for you. In session you will learn how to identify patterns of behavior, adjust responses to triggers, become more mindful, and repair relationships that have been damaged. Call today.