Anger Management and Counseling in Los Altos Hills, CA.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Your anger is an attempt at reclaiming power and control. The problem is that when others feel victimized in some way by your angry outbursts, they naturally become defensive and perhaps angry as well. I can help you find more effective ways of expressing yourself and getting your needs met. Underneath the angry feelings are the vulnerable feelings of fear or hurt. Once these are acknowledged and cared for, either by yourself or another, there is movement towards ease and contentment. I can help you slow down the powerful reactions, and get to the core so that you find your real needs and your abilities to connect healthfully with others.

Do you have trouble naming your triggers? When you become angry, is it difficult for you to take a step back and think before you react? I have found that problems arise when a person reacts immediately when angry instead of taking a moment to think about the possible consequences of their reactions. I work to help clients identify the things that make them angry, notice when their anger begins to form, and slow down their reactionary processes once the anger hits.

Anger is one of the most common feelings and at the same time one of the most denied and repressed. How many of us can say that we were ever taught how to "do anger" in a safe and respectful way. Most of us saw as children various forms of dysfunctional expressions of anger: violent, abusive, misdirected, or none at all. In therapy with me you will be able to explore the lessons of anger you learned as a child, so you can choose new ways of expressing this common emotion... Ways of expressing anger that are not destructive to you, your family, your friends, or your work.

Managing anger is an opening of the door to the Self. Therapy is of tremendous value for anyone who wants to learn more about responding in the world rather than reacting in the world -and later wishing you hadn't....again and again and again.Managing anger has nothing to do with willpower and everything to do with gaining consciousness, setting intentions, and learning about the wounded parts of the self that are lurking below the surface that can trigger such chaos in one's life. ready to get off the roller coaster of reactivity and begin to feel empowered and happy like never before? Please call to learn how i work with anger management today at 925-520-5263.

ANGER....something that we all have negative (if not traumatic) experience with. We are taught from a young age that it is no o.k. to feel or express anger. Unfortunately, simply because we ignore or suppress does not mean that it disappears. If left unacknowledged, it remains in our minds, hearts, and bodies. Further, the inappropriate expression of (or LACK of healthy expression) can cause severe damage to our most cherished relationships. Therapy is the ideal place for articulating, as well as learning how to effectively express, our anger. Remember, anger is only an internal alarm system telling us that something needs attention. It's what we do with it that matters.

Anger is an emotion that is generally not allowed in our culture. It is something that we tend to either avoid or overuse. The first step is awareness and taking ownership of what feelings belong to you and why. The second step is to find healthy ways to release the anger. And thirdly, therapy can help you express your feelings in a healthy format so that you can take better care of yourself and be the person you truly are.

Do you regularly find yourself frustrated and angry at the people you want to be closest to and that you love the most? Do you strive to stay calm and balanced, but then find yourself going off on people at home or at work? I work with people to recognize how anger comes from unenforceable rules you create for how others, or you yourself, "should" behave. Unrealistic rules create expectations that you waste your life & energy trying to enforce in yourself and others. We will work together to understand the rules you have made that are realistic and helpful, and to give you the choice to change the rules that are creating unnecessary grief for you and the people who want to be close to you.

Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage. Do you have a "short fuse", go from "0-100 in 20 seconds"? This is typical for people who are struggling with anger management. If you are reading this listing it might mean that you've been thinking about the ways that anger has affected your life and your relationships and are hoping that things can get better. They can. Anger management work requires active participation and engagement from clients, but fortunately, excellent, proven, interventions exist for this issue. Not only will you be better able to manage your anger, but you will feel more balanced overall. I have helped many clients with this issue. Call me for more information.

Do you find it difficult to distinguish between experiencing the emotion of anger and the behavior you exhibit when angry? While "anger-management" techniques are somewhat helpful, the results are often not sustained. Appropriate attention to the underlying issues of depression and anxiety is critical in effectively addressing anger-related difficulties. A combination of Cognitive-Behavioral and Psychodynamic therapies focused on these issues can greatly help you to learn with and accept your "emotion" of anger without needing or being triggered into "behaving" in an angry and destructive manner. If you have trouble controlling your anger and want help, feel free to contact me.

If you struggle with anger, therapy can help. Many people find that anger is the easiest emotion for them to access. Maybe under the anger you are hurt, lonely, afraid, jealous, sad or ashamed. Wouldn't it be great to have a whole range of emotions again? I use mindfulness to help you learn to sooth your nervous system and psychodynamic therapy to identify what's behind your anger. If you have experienced difficult or traumatic events that are weighing you down, EMDR therapy can free you up to live and act in the present.

Anger is a natural feeling that everyone experiences. It is what we do with out anger, how we handle it, that can cause us trouble. I help my clients understand their thoughts and their reactions by beginning with an understanding of what happens in their bodies when they get angry and or frustrated (they go hand in hand). We look at ways to recognize when anger is building and importantly to recognize the triggers, what is going on just before the feelings build. Together we explore the thoughts and feelings, help change some of those thoughts and learn important ways to manage them.

Think before you speak. Express anger when calm, not in the heat of the moment. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. I teach clients to express frustration in an assertive, non-confrontational way. To state concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. There are several useful, evidence-based methods to use in the face of unhealthy behaviors such as anger mismanagement. I teach my clients to become aware of these habits, and work on changing them by engaging them in talking about what lies underneath anger which is a secondary emotion.