Anger Management and Counseling in Los Altos Hills, CA.

Anger can, especially be, a difficult problem for men. Most men are not able to easily identify their emotions nor describe them in words. Men have enormous difficult feeling the subtlety of their anger. They often feel nothing or rage. Healthy anger management requires us to be aware of how we are feeling. We also need to calm ourselves down, in other words - regulate our feelings. Using Affect Management Skills Training, you will have the opportunity to learn how to apply the basic skills to become the person you hope to be. When we are able to regulate our feelings in a healthy way, our relationships change.

Donald Dufford,Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist, has specialized training and experience in Anger Management. Dr. Dufford provides a safe, non-judgemental environment to overcome anger, frustration and relationship issues. Where appropriate he can help uncover and clear past trauma or underlying emotional patterns that fuel frustration as well as teach specific tools and techniques to change behavior in the present. Learn how to be calm and effective in any situation. Call now for a free ten minute phone consultation.

Anger is an emotion that is generally not allowed in our culture. It is something that we tend to either avoid or overuse. The first step is awareness and taking ownership of what feelings belong to you and why. The second step is to find healthy ways to release the anger. And thirdly, therapy can help you express your feelings in a healthy format so that you can take better care of yourself and be the person you truly are.

Do you find it difficult to distinguish between experiencing the emotion of anger and the behavior you exhibit when angry? While "anger-management" techniques are somewhat helpful, the results are often not sustained. Appropriate attention to the underlying issues of depression and anxiety is critical in effectively addressing anger-related difficulties. A combination of Cognitive-Behavioral and Psychodynamic therapies focused on these issues can greatly help you to learn with and accept your "emotion" of anger without needing or being triggered into "behaving" in an angry and destructive manner. If you have trouble controlling your anger and want help, feel free to contact me.

Your anger is an attempt at reclaiming power and control. The problem is that when others feel victimized in some way by your angry outbursts, they naturally become defensive and perhaps angry as well. I can help you find more effective ways of expressing yourself and getting your needs met. Underneath the angry feelings are the vulnerable feelings of fear or hurt. Once these are acknowledged and cared for, either by yourself or another, there is movement towards ease and contentment. I can help you slow down the powerful reactions, and get to the core so that you find your real needs and your abilities to connect healthfully with others.

Do you have trouble naming your triggers? When you become angry, is it difficult for you to take a step back and think before you react? I have found that problems arise when a person reacts immediately when angry instead of taking a moment to think about the possible consequences of their reactions. I work to help clients identify the things that make them angry, notice when their anger begins to form, and slow down their reactionary processes once the anger hits.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is one of the most common feelings and at the same time one of the most denied and repressed. How many of us can say that we were ever taught how to "do anger" in a safe and respectful way. Most of us saw as children various forms of dysfunctional expressions of anger: violent, abusive, misdirected, or none at all. In therapy with me you will be able to explore the lessons of anger you learned as a child, so you can choose new ways of expressing this common emotion... Ways of expressing anger that are not destructive to you, your family, your friends, or your work.

Many of us experience anger and/or rage in the course of our relationships. Anger in and of itself is not a problem - in fact its a good way to let you know that there is some vulnerable feeling underneath that is too painful to reach just yet. Its what we DO with our anger that gets us in trouble. I can teach you tools to manage your anger without denying your entitlement to it.

IS ANGER MAKING YOUR LIFE MORE DIFFICULT? Are concerned about losing your relationships or job due to anger? Have you tried ways to control it but nothing worked? I can help you learn effective strategies to manage your mental state so that you will be in control of your life instead of being the slave of your emotions. Call me for a free telephone consultation session today to be one step closer to the kind of life you truly want.

Do you regularly find yourself frustrated and angry at the people you want to be closest to and that you love the most? Do you strive to stay calm and balanced, but then find yourself going off on people at home or at work? I work with people to recognize how anger comes from unenforceable rules you create for how others, or you yourself, "should" behave. Unrealistic rules create expectations that you waste your life & energy trying to enforce in yourself and others. We will work together to understand the rules you have made that are realistic and helpful, and to give you the choice to change the rules that are creating unnecessary grief for you and the people who want to be close to you.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.