Anger Management and Counseling in Los Altos Hills, CA.

Do you have trouble naming your triggers? When you become angry, is it difficult for you to take a step back and think before you react? I have found that problems arise when a person reacts immediately when angry instead of taking a moment to think about the possible consequences of their reactions. I work to help clients identify the things that make them angry, notice when their anger begins to form, and slow down their reactionary processes once the anger hits.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Do you find it difficult to distinguish between experiencing the emotion of anger and the behavior you exhibit when angry? While "anger-management" techniques are somewhat helpful, the results are often not sustained. Appropriate attention to the underlying issues of depression and anxiety is critical in effectively addressing anger-related difficulties. A combination of Cognitive-Behavioral and Psychodynamic therapies focused on these issues can greatly help you to learn with and accept your "emotion" of anger without needing or being triggered into "behaving" in an angry and destructive manner. If you have trouble controlling your anger and want help, feel free to contact me.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Here at My True Temperament Christian Counseling, LLC, we teach anger management skills through the lens of the Bible and also teach better communication skills and relaxation techniques. Anger is a natural emotion which more often than not is a signal that something in the client's environment isn't working. We discuss with the client what upsets him/her and we try and eliminate it. During the anger management therapeutic process, we remind all our clients about the importance of keeping a sense of humor.

Think before you speak. Express anger when calm, not in the heat of the moment. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. I teach clients to express frustration in an assertive, non-confrontational way. To state concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. There are several useful, evidence-based methods to use in the face of unhealthy behaviors such as anger mismanagement. I teach my clients to become aware of these habits, and work on changing them by engaging them in talking about what lies underneath anger which is a secondary emotion.

Donald Dufford,Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist, has specialized training and experience in Anger Management. Dr. Dufford provides a safe, non-judgemental environment to overcome anger, frustration and relationship issues. Where appropriate he can help uncover and clear past trauma or underlying emotional patterns that fuel frustration as well as teach specific tools and techniques to change behavior in the present. Learn how to be calm and effective in any situation. Call now for a free ten minute phone consultation.

Anger can be a difficult emotion to manage. Do you have a "short fuse", go from "0-100 in 20 seconds"? This is typical for people who are struggling with anger management. If you are reading this listing it might mean that you've been thinking about the ways that anger has affected your life and your relationships and are hoping that things can get better. They can. Anger management work requires active participation and engagement from clients, but fortunately, excellent, proven, interventions exist for this issue. Not only will you be better able to manage your anger, but you will feel more balanced overall. I have helped many clients with this issue. Call me for more information.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

Anger is one of the most common feelings and at the same time one of the most denied and repressed. How many of us can say that we were ever taught how to "do anger" in a safe and respectful way. Most of us saw as children various forms of dysfunctional expressions of anger: violent, abusive, misdirected, or none at all. In therapy with me you will be able to explore the lessons of anger you learned as a child, so you can choose new ways of expressing this common emotion... Ways of expressing anger that are not destructive to you, your family, your friends, or your work.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.