Anger Management and Counseling in Olivenhain, CA.

Do you have difficulty managing and expressing anger? Anger is an important emotion but is often communicated in a way that interferes with relationships. When anger is stored up and not resolved, it often magnifies into greater frustration that is not easily controlled. I have tools to help you process anger and express it in ways you can be heard and understood.

I specialize in Anger Management. Controlling anger can be a challenge. Anger is a protective response that indicates some kind of violation has occurred. It is a secondary emotion, meaning that there is always a more vulnerable feeling underneath such as hurt or sadness. It is helpful to learn how to express the primary emotion underneath the anger. It is also helpful to learn strategies to be able to take a break and walk away before things get out of control. There are usually triggers that get activated in the present but are fueled from the past. I also use techniques to help release the anger from the original event so that you can respond more calmly in the present.

As the anger within a person builds, the world in which it lives increasingly reflects the anger that it must heal, so that eventually, the person will see that it is creating its own experiences and perceptions and that its righteous anger originates with itself. I will help you get to the core of the anger which is really an expression of unhealed pain. There is no need to continue to push those you love away through your anger, which creates the loss you fear most.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a valid feeling. Anger is not bad. How we express anger can be either healing or damaging. I provide a safe-place to express and therapeutically process anger, identify triggers to anger, and learn healthy ways to express anger without hurting ourselves or others. Through the therapeutic exploration of anger, one can discover the deeper underlying feeling and address those feelings in a healthy and safe environment.

Do you have angry outbursts that leave you feeling frustrated with yourself? Do you feel stuck and unsure if you can change? Are you looking for more than methods to 'manage' your anger? I help people with anger issues to deal with the emotions that trigger the anger -- such as hurt, fear or shame. When those deeper issues are dealt with, people no longer 'go from zero to sixty' and are able to feel good about how they react to stress. I look forward to working with you.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Sometimes bursts of anger seem to come out of nowhere. Other times you might have a sense that your anger is simmering just below the surface. Anger can be destructive to your health, your relationships, your children and your career. I can help you not only with ways to control your anger, but also discovering and healing the reasons underneath the angry outbursts. Life can be more peaceful, and I’d like to help.

Is your anger interfering with your relationships at home or at work? Understanding your triggers can help! Working together, we will slow down your experience, recognize your triggers, use mindfulness to be with these in a healthy way, and be on the road to helping you to regulate your emotions. There is help available! Contact me for a free phone consultation.

I help clients understand that anger often points to some other issue that may need their attention, then teaching them the skills to recognize and attend that issue effectively. Emotions often occur in clusters, like constellations of stars in the sky. When anger occurs, fright might be an underlying cause. Usually the angry person is not aware of feeling afraid, but is very aware of fury. Another example could be when boundaries are violated. We get angry when someone "steps on our toes". Then the task is to reset the boundary, not just "manage" anger.

Anger is a normal human emotion. The manner in which individuals exhibit their emotions, particularly anger can be constructive or destructive. If individuals are able to constructively channel their anger, the experience and management of anger leads to neutral or positive outcomes. However, if an individual manifests their anger in a unhealthy manner, it can negatively affect any facet of their lives from their personal relationships to their professional lives. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is key to learning to effectively manage anger. With this approach, clients learn to identify and substitute unhealthy trigger thoughts with healthy thoughts and to utilize anger-reducing strategies.

Anger can stem from many sources and momentary or brief bouts of anger are normal ways of generating the energy to defend and protect oneself and one's family. But when anger and outbursts are out of proportion to a situation, or are frequent or too easily provoked, then anger can be a serious problem. Managing anger just as managing other strong emotions is done by first recognizing the early signals or triggers, such as unfairness, feeling offended, intrusions, or frustration. Then to develop alternative ways to respond, such as postponing or delaying a response, or rapid self-calming.

Does it seem that your anger controls and overwhelms you? Has it gotten in the way of the relationships that are most important to you? I can help you unpack the reasons for your anger and help you to understand it's roots. I can also help equip you with strategies and skills that will help you to control it. Find freedom from the bondage of unresolved anger!