Anger Management and Counseling in Olivenhain, CA.

Anger is a normal human emotion. The manner in which individuals exhibit their emotions, particularly anger can be constructive or destructive. If individuals are able to constructively channel their anger, the experience and management of anger leads to neutral or positive outcomes. However, if an individual manifests their anger in a unhealthy manner, it can negatively affect any facet of their lives from their personal relationships to their professional lives. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is key to learning to effectively manage anger. With this approach, clients learn to identify and substitute unhealthy trigger thoughts with healthy thoughts and to utilize anger-reducing strategies.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

I help clients understand that anger often points to some other issue that may need their attention, then teaching them the skills to recognize and attend that issue effectively. Emotions often occur in clusters, like constellations of stars in the sky. When anger occurs, fright might be an underlying cause. Usually the angry person is not aware of feeling afraid, but is very aware of fury. Another example could be when boundaries are violated. We get angry when someone "steps on our toes". Then the task is to reset the boundary, not just "manage" anger.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

For some, anger can be a difficult emotion to control. Learn skills to be in control of your anger rather than having your anger control you. If you are someone who struggles with managing anger and other negative emotions, Dr. Peck can teach you effective coping strategies to regulate your emotions to prevent emotions from becoming negative actions. Emotion regulation strategies can both prevent upswings in negative emotion and teach you effective ways to tolerate painful emotions without acting on them. Skills taught are based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy, biofeedback training, and behavioral relaxation skills.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Sometimes bursts of anger seem to come out of nowhere. Other times you might have a sense that your anger is simmering just below the surface. Anger can be destructive to your health, your relationships, your children and your career. I can help you not only with ways to control your anger, but also discovering and healing the reasons underneath the angry outbursts. Life can be more peaceful, and I’d like to help.

Does it seem that your anger controls and overwhelms you? Has it gotten in the way of the relationships that are most important to you? I can help you unpack the reasons for your anger and help you to understand it's roots. I can also help equip you with strategies and skills that will help you to control it. Find freedom from the bondage of unresolved anger!

Do you have angry outbursts that leave you feeling frustrated with yourself? Do you feel stuck and unsure if you can change? Are you looking for more than methods to 'manage' your anger? I help people with anger issues to deal with the emotions that trigger the anger -- such as hurt, fear or shame. When those deeper issues are dealt with, people no longer 'go from zero to sixty' and are able to feel good about how they react to stress. I look forward to working with you.

Often anger is a form of protest of some injustice that has been done. The adaptive action tendency when one is flooded with anger is to help one assert themselves with an advocacy of self in healthy ways. Managing your anger vs. having your anger manage you is a way to be in healthy control of yourself which will benefit your close relationships with others and within yourself.

As the anger within a person builds, the world in which it lives increasingly reflects the anger that it must heal, so that eventually, the person will see that it is creating its own experiences and perceptions and that its righteous anger originates with itself. I will help you get to the core of the anger which is really an expression of unhealed pain. There is no need to continue to push those you love away through your anger, which creates the loss you fear most.

Anger can control our lives and destroy relationships. Often anger is an emotional response to unmet needs in our lives, sometimes beginning from when we were children. I work with my clients to help them recognize their unmet needs, the source of their anger, and to identify the different kinds of anger they may be experiencing. At the same time, we work to together in a safe and non-judgmental environment to learn how to manage anger, focusing on one's own responsibility and building a healthy sense of self.

Understanding anger and its components can transform your relationship to others and yourself. Through increased clarity about the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that create and maintain anger states you can learn to create the space and conditions needed to release anger and create a more peaceful and compassionate approach towards yourself and others. Anger can be a powerful motivator when clearly understood. Seeing the innocence in another's behavior can prevent the old habits of blame and resentment that have a poisonous effect on relationships and on ourselves. Developing patience and compassion can contribute to the growth of happiness in ourselves and in others.