Anger Management and Counseling in Sutter Creek, CA.

Are you at risk of losing your job or your partner because of your anger? Is your family afraid of you because you seem out of control? Has your anger led to violence or arrests? Anger is a valid emotion that has a bad reputation because of the way it can be expressed. Learn to understand your own anger as well as coping skills that can help you feel more in control. And get to root of your anger. Anger is a complicated emotion that is often protective of a more vulnerable emotion or side of yourself, i.e., fear or sadness. As you learn the skills of self support, you can get your needs met while feeling more in control of yourself and the way you interact with your world as well.

Anger when used appropriately can be a useful tool to give us the aggressive energy we need to take action when we are feeling helpless or victimized. Unfortunately, it is often misused and becomes abusive, creating whole new problems for relationships and careers. I work with clients to first learn to control their emotional expressions, define the underlying feelings creating the hostility, and learn new skills to better utilize their feelings to resolve conflict in more adult ways.

Rightful anger has an important place in life where and when it must be expressed. However, there are many forms of anger that are internally destructive and can become externally dangerous to ourselves and others. Some forms of anger come from long term contentious relationships and occurrences which can never go away or decrease in pain and agitation. Some forms of anger are explosive on the moment and other anger comes as a gradual escalating irritation that then reaches its limits. Counseling serves to teach skills of anger management and can defuse and even prevent out of control anger from erupting. Counseling is known to be very effective for addressing and safely controlling anger.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Every person who has struggled with anger knows that it is a feeling that can be very difficult to control even when you want to. I can help you learn to respond to anger triggers and cues more effectively, and to change how you respond to your angry feelings. The biggest damage occurs when we act on the angry feelings, and I will help you learn to identify and reduce reactivity to those external or internal anger triggers. We all have angry feelings; it's what we do in response to those feelings that contribute to a life of free of needless suffering and emotional injuries.

I work with clients on anger using the Relational Life Therapy model, asserting that our child-like Adaptive Child mindset is allowed to operate in our adulthood where our adult mindset should be operating. Typically, we learned in childhood that someone else was allowed to get angry at us, someone else was allowed to get angry in our presence, or we were allowed to get angry without someone (like our parents) correcting our behavior. Anger is a natural emotion. Anger becomes a problem when we allow it to be expressed like a 5-year old child. We throw tantrums, throw things, and hurt others. Sometimes people's anger causes them to commit crimes. I help clients keep anger manageable.

If you or a loved one has an anger problem, the first thing that I want to say is, "There is a reason for it!" Understanding the anger, it's function, what prompts it, how to manage it's expression and it's intensity until it is resolved, and how to resolve are the tasks of therapy. I have worked in the area of anger & stress management for years with men & women on probation and with many who came to me with an additional drug and/or alcohol problem. I am happy to talk with you about your unique concerns.

Anger management has received a bad rap. Comedic movies, such as Anger Management, have poked fun at the idea and practices. Whether anger is a sign of weakness, or simply a primal human emotion, may be the subject of long debate. Regardless of the source, the expression of anger has become more prevalent and unhealthy as the world has become more stressed, crowded, alienated, and complex. The idea that we should simply "let it all out" and hope that that will solve the problem is ineffective and harmful to all concerned. If anger is destroying your relationships, I'm available to equip you with the techniques which will allow you to tame the beast and take back control.

Has your anger gotten out of control? Are your relationships suffering because of your uncontrollable outbursts? Do you find it difficult to understand just why you get so mad out of nowhere? There is help available for you. In session you will learn how to identify patterns of behavior, adjust responses to triggers, become more mindful, and repair relationships that have been damaged. Call today.

You find you get angry at other people and it lands you in trouble with your boss, your spouse or your family. It can be hard to manage your anger when circumstances frustrate you. I know you have tried to stop your anger, but it has not worked. There is a way to not be angry and to feel better. I have been counseling people who have anger problems for many years. I understand and can help you figure it out. Give me a call now at 916-847-8053 to see how my services can help you manage your anger. Or schedule an appointment now: https://kim-mclaughlin.clientsecure.me/client_portal

Anger is never just anger at face value. Oftentimes it is a "secondary emotion"--the visible tip of the iceberg. It is common for our fears, frustration, hurt, vulnerability, and sadness to manifest as anger. There are many useful tools and insight-oriented interventions that can help manage our distress, improve communication and relationship functioning, and positively impact how we view and care for ourselves. You deserve to be heard and validated in ways that are respectful and productive. I can help you achieve more meaningful communication as we work toward greater understanding of your feelings and needs.

Anger can damage relationships and erode ones own self-esteem. Together we will explore and identify the source of anger as well as learning anger management skill. With identifying the source and the use of skills, you will be able to maintain more balance in your life, balance in your emotions, improve relationships, and improved self-esteem.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!