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I count it a privilege to walk with my clients into a new version of themselves through sessions in the therapy room. I work to deeply hear and understand my clients. We will look at how they got where they are and work to change the perspective/dynamic that's keeping them in this painful place. We will look at how past and current relationships have impacted them and changes they can make to improve their relationships.

I work with an entire person--the mind, emotions, body, spirit, relationships. I offer an alternative approach to traditional psychotherapy because sometimes we are stuck beyond our thoughts. I believe we are often stuck beyond how we think about something, but by how our body holds and remembers the experiences. After all, we feel the anxiety in our chest, shoulders or stomach. When we are depressed, we struggle to move, sleep, concentrate etc. I work to remove the block from wherever it is stuck. My clients come to me after years of ineffective therapy. They are looking for more than talking about their struggles or identifying how they think about them in favor of a change in living.

In laymen's terms, psychotherapy is the opportunity to talk about and process your problems or challenges with a trained therapist. Sometimes, we don't need someone to try to fix our problems for us, which is what most of our friends try to do when we talk about them. Sometimes we need someone who will listen and be a sounding board so we can think through and process for ourselves. I want to support you with your goals and your needs and we can make a therapy plan (psychotherapy or other types) that you feel will best suit your needs. Most importantly, I provide that safe environment for you to be able to be vulnerable, talk about, and process whatever is on your heart and in your mind.

While I am technically a psychotherapist, I do not like the word "psychotherapy" for two reasons. First, when people hear the word, they usually think of a troubled person reclining on a couch. I like to think of myself as an advanced coach because I can help people regardless of the severity of their challenges, but we can get deep into the nitty-gritty emotional content of a relationship if we need to. Second, I work with more than one person, because I help improve relationships, which *may* involve two or more people in the room.

In order to understand why one feels and acts as they do requires exploring early childhood experiences that influenced current behaviors. Through this understanding one can learn new behaviors. There are messages you received as a child that live within your subconscious and affect how you feel about yourself. Gaining some insight into those early childhood messages you received from your caretakers will help you understand why you feel as you do and with that understanding you can choose new self-concepts and behaviors.

Because I work with clients regarding a variety of issues; my first goal in therapy is to discuss what is bringing you into treatment and what you hope to gain from your time with a therapist. Together, we will develop a plan for how to work on the issue you are seeking to address. My training includes therapies such as : DBT, CBT, EMDR, and compassion focused therapy to name a few. I believe in getting to the root of the issue and exploring what therapeutic intervention would be the best fit to meet your needs. It is possible to experience a positive change when going to therapy.

James Hillman once said, "We've had a hundred years of psychotherapy and the world is getting worse." While there are many occasions where the validation and listening endemic to psychotherapy makes sense, there are times where we over assume that "feeling better" and "changing behavior" are the same. Grey Matters International, Inc. goes after the forgotten brain laws to behavior change that therapists miss when processing hours and hours of dialogues with people. Utilizing a cutting edge technology to facilitate the emotional process of change, we can make the therapy process way more effective, faster, and with less money spent. Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

My approach to psychotherapy is collaborative in that I work with my clients to unearth dysfunctional patterns of behaving or relating that are keeping them from the fulfilling lives and/or relationships they seek. As a solutions-focused psychotherapist I use complementary therapy approaches and techniques to teach clients new skills, increase understanding and insight, and build healthier lifestyle habits that are customized to address their unique therapy goals. My clients are encouraged to practice these new behaviors and ways of thinking between sessions so that the changes they make through our work together produce more satisfying and fulfilling lives.