Great Couples Counseling in La Mesa, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Licensed therapists for relationships and marriages in La Mesa, California. Discounts available (see profiles).


John Kane, AMFT, APCC
Couples Counselor

John Kane, AMFT, APCC

Associate Marriage and Family Therapist

In 92154 - Nearby to La Mesa.

Without conflict, couples do not achieve intimacy. The challenge is helping you and your partner learn how to have healthy conflict that leads to intimacy, rather than destructive conflict that destroys the relationship. While I work with all couples, I specialize in working with neuro-diverse couples. I usually start with helping you learn ground rules for being able to have safe, constructive, healthy conflict to reduce and eliminate destructive relational patterns. I also use Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you reconnect, learn healthy communication skills, rekindle the flame that you once had, and start talking to each other again. If you are willing to work, I am here for you!

Vanessa Hughes, MA, MFT, MAT, MAICS, SEP
Couples Counselor

Vanessa Hughes, MA, MFT, MAT, MAICS, SEP

WELL COACHED LIFE| GRIT Kids Coaching

Available for Online Therapy

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

Tami Chelew, MA, CSAT
Couples Counselor

Tami Chelew, MA, CSAT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - LMFT #79759

In 92131 - Nearby to La Mesa.

I am an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist (EFT) which is the most empirically validated and proven couples therapy to date - helping couples go from distress to a more secure, lasting love, which after a 2 year follow-up, couples report a happier and more fulfilling relationship. I help couples understand their painful disconnection that creates distance and frustration, learn to be more clear in their communication and needs, helping couples begin to heal and repair rifts to bring about a deeper felt sense of security within their relationship. I desire couples to experience with one another that they matter, that they are cared for, they are unconditionally loved by their partner.

Ross Kellogg, LMFT
Couples Counselor

Ross Kellogg, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

In 92101 - Nearby to La Mesa.

Using a combination of Gottman Method Couples Therapy as well as Sue Johnson's Emotionally Focused Couples therapy, I will help you and your partner identify your problem areas and negative cycles that keep you stuck and support your relationship moving back into a pattern of ease and intimacy. We will support increased core emotion expression, identification of each individual's needs, breaking down old negative habits, and reconstructing new habits that will keep your connection strong for the long term. Let's discuss your needs today in a free consultation.

Paul Santero, Psy. D.
Couples Counselor

Paul Santero, Psy. D.

Licensed Psychologist

In 92037 - Nearby to La Mesa.

Couples counseling is an area I specialize in and have helped couples repair and rebuild their relationships. I start with what are the goals that the couple wants to accomplish during therapy (usually repairing or strengthening their relationship). Next we look at each persons areas of strengths and weaknesses as well as their reasons for the difficulties in the relationship. I then help the couple through a "atonement, attunement and attachment" process that repairs and strengthens the relationship along with achieving the established goals of the couple.

Pamela Polcyn, Ph.D, MFT
Couples Counselor

Pamela Polcyn, Ph.D, MFT

Licensed Marriage And Family Therapist

In 92024 - Nearby to La Mesa.

What attracts us to an individual can become the seed for problems later in a relationship. Therapy can assist in identifying the emotional , thinking, and behavioral patterns that diminish the possibility of satisfaction and love in relationships. Therapy can help you to find new ways of relating that bring joy and happiness in sharing your life with another person. Skills can be learned and approaches to challenging situations modified that harmonize and balance conflicting points of contact with a loved one. Learning to relate in a way that increases your contentment in your relationships is only a few steps away. By opening your heart to the possibilities of love, you can heal injury.

Jonathan Kramer, PhD
Couples Counselor

Jonathan Kramer, PhD

Psychologist

In 92037 - Nearby to La Mesa.

I've been a licensed Psychologist for 30 years, been married for 30 years, and know both professionally and personally what it really takes to make a relationship succeed. I've worked with hundreds of couples to help them have happier, more satisfying relationships, turning tug-of-wars into teams that pull together. I'm practical, straight-forward and results-oriented. It may not be easy to be happy as a couple, but it's definitely possible. Let's work on it together, so your tomorrow will be happier than today..

Christi Lindsay, PsyD
Couples Counselor

Christi Lindsay, PsyD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Available for Online Therapy

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

Ronald Reichard, MA, MFT
Couples Counselor

Ronald Reichard, MA, MFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

In 91910 - Nearby to La Mesa.

My approach to couples and marital therapy includes several components which are: relationship enhancement skills, communication and conflict resolution strategies, increased awareness of relationship needs and empathy development. It has been my expericence that when couples are committed to improving their relationship and apply the tools taught in therapy, they find that communication improves significantly and appear more motivated to meet the needs of their partner. As each person committs to meeting the needs of their partner it tends to generate good feelings and respectful behavior bewteen the partners, which can result in greater relatinship satisfaction.

Aleksandra Drecun, Psy.D.
Couples Counselor

Aleksandra Drecun, Psy.D.

Licensed Clinical Psychologist

In 92130 - Nearby to La Mesa.

Couples therapy involves working with partners who are in a committed relationship. Individuals attend couples therapy to learn how to work through their differences, communicate better, problem-solve challenges in the relationship, work through parenting differences, improve their intimacy or their overall satisfaction with the relationship. Couples therapy involves assessing the strengths and weaknesses in the relationship, formulating goals and working diligently toward attaining those goals to establish and maintain healthy, loving and exciting romantic relationships.

Vanessa Villasenor, LMFT
Couples Counselor

Vanessa Villasenor, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

In 92108 - Nearby to La Mesa.

We do have therapists that provide couples and marriage counseling throughout the week. Therapists have been trained in techniques that will assist you in making progress and improving your relationship. Throughout the course of a relationship we can have struggles and stressors that impact us and we can overcome them through therapy and arrive at a healthier state in the relationship.

Jace Draper, LMFT, MA
Couples Counselor

Jace Draper, LMFT, MA

Marriage and Family Therapist

Available for Online Therapy

Married or not, romantic relationships are hard work! Whether you’ve been working on yourselves individually and are looking to now come together and work-or you’re here for the couples and individual work in a combined session, I’m here to support your needs as a couple to find out what it’s like to like each other again. I work to support you in navigating both the typical and unexpected life events as a couple, helping you heal from past wounds and develop new habits towards each other. Are you ready to stop the crazy cycle? Let’s get started.

David Peters, MS, MFT
Couples Counselor

David Peters, MS, MFT

Marriage and Family Therapist

In 92108 - Nearby to La Mesa.

Our committed relationship or marriage is often the greatest trigger of stress and anxiety. This is because our very identities (our experience of ourselves) is threatened. This may be caused by a) unresolved issues from our family of origin, b) unresolved disagreements in lifestyle or child rearing, c) conflicts over sex, romance, and intimacy, or d) sometimes just the management of everyday stressors. The sad result is a "disconnect" between partners, and resulting loneliness. Working in collaboration, we will finding the cause, and build a strategy to reconnect you and your partner. Yes, you can recapture the love, attraction, and joy you deserve together. Let's get to work!

Philip Kolba, MA LPC NCC
Couples Counselor

Philip Kolba, MA LPC NCC

Psychotherapist

In 92105 - Nearby to La Mesa.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

Jenny Liu, MEd. MFT. NLP. Confidence Coach
Couples Counselor

Jenny Liu, MEd. MFT. NLP. Confidence Coach

Online Therapist & Coach, Online Career Counselor

In 93065 - Nearby to La Mesa.

FRUSTRATED ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? Stressed out about what to do next? Are you considering breakup or divorce but really want to give it a last chance? Would you like to take one more look before making any permanent decision? I can help you gain clarity, confidence in your decision making in regards to a very important matter in your life through a brief and focused counseling process.

Sue Cates, MA, LMFT
Couples Counselor

Sue Cates, MA, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

In 92014 - Nearby to La Mesa.

Humans experience the world through relationships with others. We are made to connect! When connections with our significant others are fractured, it can impact our mood, our health, our work and family relationships. We fear being abandoned, alone, and a disappointment to those important to us. Emotionally Focused Therapy can help us to reconnect, feel cared for, and to feel loved and valued again by our partners. You do not need to remain stuck in repetitive cycles of isolation and pain. Whatever your partnership arrangement, you are welcome. Things can change for the better! Maybe you are a couple on the brink of divorce. Discernment counseling can help get clarity on the path to take.

Kevin Fleming, Ph.D.
Couples Counselor

Kevin Fleming, Ph.D.

Coach/Change Agent/Consultant

In 92101 - Nearby to La Mesa.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php


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La Mesa is located in San Diego County, California. It has a land area of 9.09 square miles and a water area of 0.01 square miles.  The population of La Mesa is 60,089 people with 23,785 households and a median annual income of $54,667. .


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Affordable with Planning

Therapy in La Mesa is generally within financial reach for the average family, but some budget planning may be needed for a real commitment to weekly counseling. Remember that your mental health and happiness are important. Check with your La Mesa therapist about insurance coverage or ask about sliding scale fees if there are any difficulties with accessibility. Low cost counseling and affordable therapy are also sometimes offered by listed city and university level clinics, check with your local La Mesa public health department.