Anger Management and Counseling in La Mesa, CA.

I specialize in Anger Management. Controlling anger can be a challenge. Anger is a protective response that indicates some kind of violation has occurred. It is a secondary emotion, meaning that there is always a more vulnerable feeling underneath such as hurt or sadness. It is helpful to learn how to express the primary emotion underneath the anger. It is also helpful to learn strategies to be able to take a break and walk away before things get out of control. There are usually triggers that get activated in the present but are fueled from the past. I also use techniques to help release the anger from the original event so that you can respond more calmly in the present.

Anger is a secondary emotion that often masks one's try feelings. There are often feelings of sadness, guilt, low self-esteem, and anxiety that cause people to lash out in anger. Displays of anger are ineffective attempts to communicate. While anger management is intended to diminish to fits of verbal and physical rage and outbursts, I am a firm believer that developing communication skills should also be part of the process. I will help you get to the root of your anger filled responses and give you tools to improve your ability to communicate your thoughts and feelings in ways that others can understand.

Anger when used appropriately can be a useful tool to give us the aggressive energy we need to take action when we are feeling helpless or victimized. Unfortunately, it is often misused and becomes abusive, creating whole new problems for relationships and careers. I work with clients to first learn to control their emotional expressions, define the underlying feelings creating the hostility, and learn new skills to better utilize their feelings to resolve conflict in more adult ways.

Rightful anger has an important place in life where and when it must be expressed. However, there are many forms of anger that are internally destructive and can become externally dangerous to ourselves and others. Some forms of anger come from long term contentious relationships and occurrences which can never go away or decrease in pain and agitation. Some forms of anger are explosive on the moment and other anger comes as a gradual escalating irritation that then reaches its limits. Counseling serves to teach skills of anger management and can defuse and even prevent out of control anger from erupting. Counseling is known to be very effective for addressing and safely controlling anger.

Often anger is a form of protest of some injustice that has been done. The adaptive action tendency when one is flooded with anger is to help one assert themselves with an advocacy of self in healthy ways. Managing your anger vs. having your anger manage you is a way to be in healthy control of yourself which will benefit your close relationships with others and within yourself.

Anger is a basic human emotion and is fundamental part of our human experience. It is crucial for giving us important information about when boundaries have been crossed or when expectations have not been met. However, when the anger alone takes control of how we react to a variety of triggering situations, we can find ourselves suffering even more, both mentally and physically. Thankfully, as a licensed psychologist, I can help clients cope with anger through proven methods that help clients better understand their anger, re-establish their boundaries, express their disappointments, and move forward in a more balanced, healthy, and productive way.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Is your anger interfering with your relationships at home or at work? Understanding your triggers can help! Working together, we will slow down your experience, recognize your triggers, use mindfulness to be with these in a healthy way, and be on the road to helping you to regulate your emotions. There is help available! Contact me for a free phone consultation.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger can control our lives and destroy relationships. Often anger is an emotional response to unmet needs in our lives, sometimes beginning from when we were children. I work with my clients to help them recognize their unmet needs, the source of their anger, and to identify the different kinds of anger they may be experiencing. At the same time, we work to together in a safe and non-judgmental environment to learn how to manage anger, focusing on one's own responsibility and building a healthy sense of self.

Anger is a normal human emotion. The manner in which individuals exhibit their emotions, particularly anger can be constructive or destructive. If individuals are able to constructively channel their anger, the experience and management of anger leads to neutral or positive outcomes. However, if an individual manifests their anger in a unhealthy manner, it can negatively affect any facet of their lives from their personal relationships to their professional lives. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is key to learning to effectively manage anger. With this approach, clients learn to identify and substitute unhealthy trigger thoughts with healthy thoughts and to utilize anger-reducing strategies.

For some, anger can be a difficult emotion to control. Learn skills to be in control of your anger rather than having your anger control you. If you are someone who struggles with managing anger and other negative emotions, Dr. Peck can teach you effective coping strategies to regulate your emotions to prevent emotions from becoming negative actions. Emotion regulation strategies can both prevent upswings in negative emotion and teach you effective ways to tolerate painful emotions without acting on them. Skills taught are based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy, biofeedback training, and behavioral relaxation skills.

Sometimes bursts of anger seem to come out of nowhere. Other times you might have a sense that your anger is simmering just below the surface. Anger can be destructive to your health, your relationships, your children and your career. I can help you not only with ways to control your anger, but also discovering and healing the reasons underneath the angry outbursts. Life can be more peaceful, and I’d like to help.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is an incredibly powerful and motivating emotion. However, when anger isn't properly managed and contained it can become like a buring enferno that destroys everything in its path from family relationships to carrer opportunities. I work with clients to address their agner on two levels. The first level involves developing basic skills that help the client control their behavior when experiencing anger. The second level involves assisting the client in identifying the primary source of their anger, which may be rooted in other emotions or painful life experiences. When these root issues are successfully dealt with, much of the anger that has been so debilitating tends to subside.

Understanding anger and its components can transform your relationship to others and yourself. Through increased clarity about the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that create and maintain anger states you can learn to create the space and conditions needed to release anger and create a more peaceful and compassionate approach towards yourself and others. Anger can be a powerful motivator when clearly understood. Seeing the innocence in another's behavior can prevent the old habits of blame and resentment that have a poisonous effect on relationships and on ourselves. Developing patience and compassion can contribute to the growth of happiness in ourselves and in others.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

If you have been confronted by others that you have a "problem with anger", it certainly is worth taking a look. What most people don't know, is that those struggling with anger management are most often merely reacting to stress, anxiety, shame, fear, or depression. In men, depression is often experienced more as irritability than as sadness. While you may not know how to make the change others are asking for, be assured that with the right help, you certainly can make very meaningful change, and enjoy the result. Don't for a moment think that controlling your anger means you don't get to be heard. You will enjoy the experience of really being heard and respected.

When you want something and you can’t get it or when you’ve had enough and it keeps coming you get frustrated and then angry. This is a natural emotional response that if not managed can really damage relationships. There are a few acquirable attitudes and skills that will enable you to recognize when anger arises, calm down and communicate your wants in a productive way. Many years of working with families involved in domestic violence and individuals whose anger has damaged themselves and others have given me some tools that people find user friendly and can help you deal with frustration without hurting the important people in your life.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

During a crisis when everyone is feeling stress, we can feel pushed more into a corner when it comes to getting our needs met and getting along with loved ones, partners, friends and family. Everyone can get angry or irritable, and therapy can help develop easy to use skills for communicating our needs in focused ways BEFORE we lose our tempers. Sometimes it's best to "strike when the iron is cold."

IS ANGER MAKING YOUR LIFE MORE DIFFICULT? Are concerned about losing your relationships or job due to anger? Have you tried ways to control it but nothing worked? I can help you learn effective strategies to manage your mental state so that you will be in control of your life instead of being the slave of your emotions. Call me for a free telephone consultation session today to be one step closer to the kind of life you truly want.