Anger Management and Counseling in La Mesa, CA.

Does it seem that your anger controls and overwhelms you? Has it gotten in the way of the relationships that are most important to you? I can help you unpack the reasons for your anger and help you to understand it's roots. I can also help equip you with strategies and skills that will help you to control it. Find freedom from the bondage of unresolved anger!

Often anger is a form of protest of some injustice that has been done. The adaptive action tendency when one is flooded with anger is to help one assert themselves with an advocacy of self in healthy ways. Managing your anger vs. having your anger manage you is a way to be in healthy control of yourself which will benefit your close relationships with others and within yourself.

When you want something and you can’t get it or when you’ve had enough and it keeps coming you get frustrated and then angry. This is a natural emotional response that if not managed can really damage relationships. There are a few acquirable attitudes and skills that will enable you to recognize when anger arises, calm down and communicate your wants in a productive way. Many years of working with families involved in domestic violence and individuals whose anger has damaged themselves and others have given me some tools that people find user friendly and can help you deal with frustration without hurting the important people in your life.

Here at My True Temperament Christian Counseling, LLC, we teach anger management skills through the lens of the Bible and also teach better communication skills and relaxation techniques. Anger is a natural emotion which more often than not is a signal that something in the client's environment isn't working. We discuss with the client what upsets him/her and we try and eliminate it. During the anger management therapeutic process, we remind all our clients about the importance of keeping a sense of humor.

Anger is a secondary emotion that often masks one's try feelings. There are often feelings of sadness, guilt, low self-esteem, and anxiety that cause people to lash out in anger. Displays of anger are ineffective attempts to communicate. While anger management is intended to diminish to fits of verbal and physical rage and outbursts, I am a firm believer that developing communication skills should also be part of the process. I will help you get to the root of your anger filled responses and give you tools to improve your ability to communicate your thoughts and feelings in ways that others can understand.

Anger can control our lives and destroy relationships. Often anger is an emotional response to unmet needs in our lives, sometimes beginning from when we were children. I work with my clients to help them recognize their unmet needs, the source of their anger, and to identify the different kinds of anger they may be experiencing. At the same time, we work to together in a safe and non-judgmental environment to learn how to manage anger, focusing on one's own responsibility and building a healthy sense of self.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger can stem from many sources and momentary or brief bouts of anger are normal ways of generating the energy to defend and protect oneself and one's family. But when anger and outbursts are out of proportion to a situation, or are frequent or too easily provoked, then anger can be a serious problem. Managing anger just as managing other strong emotions is done by first recognizing the early signals or triggers, such as unfairness, feeling offended, intrusions, or frustration. Then to develop alternative ways to respond, such as postponing or delaying a response, or rapid self-calming.

For some, anger can be a difficult emotion to control. Learn skills to be in control of your anger rather than having your anger control you. If you are someone who struggles with managing anger and other negative emotions, Dr. Peck can teach you effective coping strategies to regulate your emotions to prevent emotions from becoming negative actions. Emotion regulation strategies can both prevent upswings in negative emotion and teach you effective ways to tolerate painful emotions without acting on them. Skills taught are based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy, biofeedback training, and behavioral relaxation skills.

Sometimes bursts of anger seem to come out of nowhere. Other times you might have a sense that your anger is simmering just below the surface. Anger can be destructive to your health, your relationships, your children and your career. I can help you not only with ways to control your anger, but also discovering and healing the reasons underneath the angry outbursts. Life can be more peaceful, and I’d like to help.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Anger is a normal human emotion. The manner in which individuals exhibit their emotions, particularly anger can be constructive or destructive. If individuals are able to constructively channel their anger, the experience and management of anger leads to neutral or positive outcomes. However, if an individual manifests their anger in a unhealthy manner, it can negatively affect any facet of their lives from their personal relationships to their professional lives. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is key to learning to effectively manage anger. With this approach, clients learn to identify and substitute unhealthy trigger thoughts with healthy thoughts and to utilize anger-reducing strategies.

I specialize in Anger Management. Controlling anger can be a challenge. Anger is a protective response that indicates some kind of violation has occurred. It is a secondary emotion, meaning that there is always a more vulnerable feeling underneath such as hurt or sadness. It is helpful to learn how to express the primary emotion underneath the anger. It is also helpful to learn strategies to be able to take a break and walk away before things get out of control. There are usually triggers that get activated in the present but are fueled from the past. I also use techniques to help release the anger from the original event so that you can respond more calmly in the present.