Anger Management and Counseling in La Mesa, CA.

Anger is a normal human emotion. The manner in which individuals exhibit their emotions, particularly anger can be constructive or destructive. If individuals are able to constructively channel their anger, the experience and management of anger leads to neutral or positive outcomes. However, if an individual manifests their anger in a unhealthy manner, it can negatively affect any facet of their lives from their personal relationships to their professional lives. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is key to learning to effectively manage anger. With this approach, clients learn to identify and substitute unhealthy trigger thoughts with healthy thoughts and to utilize anger-reducing strategies.

Do you have difficulty managing and expressing anger? Anger is an important emotion but is often communicated in a way that interferes with relationships. When anger is stored up and not resolved, it often magnifies into greater frustration that is not easily controlled. I have tools to help you process anger and express it in ways you can be heard and understood.

Sometimes bursts of anger seem to come out of nowhere. Other times you might have a sense that your anger is simmering just below the surface. Anger can be destructive to your health, your relationships, your children and your career. I can help you not only with ways to control your anger, but also discovering and healing the reasons underneath the angry outbursts. Life can be more peaceful, and I’d like to help.

When you want something and you can’t get it or when you’ve had enough and it keeps coming you get frustrated and then angry. This is a natural emotional response that if not managed can really damage relationships. There are a few acquirable attitudes and skills that will enable you to recognize when anger arises, calm down and communicate your wants in a productive way. Many years of working with families involved in domestic violence and individuals whose anger has damaged themselves and others have given me some tools that people find user friendly and can help you deal with frustration without hurting the important people in your life.

If you have been confronted by others that you have a "problem with anger", it certainly is worth taking a look. What most people don't know, is that those struggling with anger management are most often merely reacting to stress, anxiety, shame, fear, or depression. In men, depression is often experienced more as irritability than as sadness. While you may not know how to make the change others are asking for, be assured that with the right help, you certainly can make very meaningful change, and enjoy the result. Don't for a moment think that controlling your anger means you don't get to be heard. You will enjoy the experience of really being heard and respected.

Anger is an incredibly powerful and motivating emotion. However, when anger isn't properly managed and contained it can become like a buring enferno that destroys everything in its path from family relationships to carrer opportunities. I work with clients to address their agner on two levels. The first level involves developing basic skills that help the client control their behavior when experiencing anger. The second level involves assisting the client in identifying the primary source of their anger, which may be rooted in other emotions or painful life experiences. When these root issues are successfully dealt with, much of the anger that has been so debilitating tends to subside.

Understanding anger and its components can transform your relationship to others and yourself. Through increased clarity about the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that create and maintain anger states you can learn to create the space and conditions needed to release anger and create a more peaceful and compassionate approach towards yourself and others. Anger can be a powerful motivator when clearly understood. Seeing the innocence in another's behavior can prevent the old habits of blame and resentment that have a poisonous effect on relationships and on ourselves. Developing patience and compassion can contribute to the growth of happiness in ourselves and in others.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Do you have angry outbursts that leave you feeling frustrated with yourself? Do you feel stuck and unsure if you can change? Are you looking for more than methods to 'manage' your anger? I help people with anger issues to deal with the emotions that trigger the anger -- such as hurt, fear or shame. When those deeper issues are dealt with, people no longer 'go from zero to sixty' and are able to feel good about how they react to stress. I look forward to working with you.

Anger is a valid feeling. Anger is not bad. How we express anger can be either healing or damaging. I provide a safe-place to express and therapeutically process anger, identify triggers to anger, and learn healthy ways to express anger without hurting ourselves or others. Through the therapeutic exploration of anger, one can discover the deeper underlying feeling and address those feelings in a healthy and safe environment.

Does it seem that your anger controls and overwhelms you? Has it gotten in the way of the relationships that are most important to you? I can help you unpack the reasons for your anger and help you to understand it's roots. I can also help equip you with strategies and skills that will help you to control it. Find freedom from the bondage of unresolved anger!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger can stem from many sources and momentary or brief bouts of anger are normal ways of generating the energy to defend and protect oneself and one's family. But when anger and outbursts are out of proportion to a situation, or are frequent or too easily provoked, then anger can be a serious problem. Managing anger just as managing other strong emotions is done by first recognizing the early signals or triggers, such as unfairness, feeling offended, intrusions, or frustration. Then to develop alternative ways to respond, such as postponing or delaying a response, or rapid self-calming.