Great Couples Counseling in Lakewood, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

I have been assisting couples in their relationships as a professional, objective marriage counselor for 30 years. Couples counseling calls for specific techniques and abilities and I pride myself on being able to get to the core issues in a relationship and begin working to change those immediately. I incorporate many strategies to accomplish your goals which may include: new communiction tools, breaking old patterns, homework assignments--reading or exercises to practice, and role playing. Every couple is different, but many of the problems have similar root causes. We set goals together initially, and then effectively work together to reach those goals in simple and effective sessions

Are you struggling with your relationship? It is important to understand that is is more than just having good communication skills. That can help, but the real part of making a relationship work is understanding how your partner connects. A great relationship thrives when couples know how to respond to each other in the way the each need based on their attachment styles. I can help your relationship grow by helping you respond both physically and emotionally to your partner in they way they need it and in the way you need it to feel understood, safe, and connected.

Helping couples is my specialty! I feel such a passion for this because I know how great it is to be in a supportive, fulfilling, and intimate relationship. I also know how awful it can be when the relationship is not working--feeling unhappy, dissatisfied, neglected, attacked, disrespected, betrayed. I have been helping couples improve their relationship and regaining intimacy for a number of years. For some, it means decreasing the verbal fights by talking through past hurts, forgiving, and rebuilding trust. For others, it is rekindling the fire of passion and falling in love all over again. Whatever the case, I can help your relationship get to where you want it to be!

Couples counseling will provide the opportunity for couples to focus on their marriage by doing deeper work in a safe and confidential setting. Couples will explore and understand effective communication, love styles and form a deeper connection and intimacy. Couples counseling is available for any two people in a committed relationship. It is a great investment in any meaningful relationship!

How do you rate your partner? Do you just KNOW your relationship could be better? With Kevin Bergen, you'll find a specialist who can get you over your hurdles to relationship bliss. Are you tired of arguing? Is trust a problem now? Has one of you checked out of the relationship? Feeling alone or more like roommates? Kevin understands what you're feeling. He understands each of you equally, he'll affirm you when your partner is off track, and kick your butt when it's you who's out of line. If you want understanding and honesty, call Kevin for your couple's needs.

I specialize in couples and marriage counseling. My approach is based on recent research in marriage science showing what habits successful couples have that other do not. My approach is skills based and practical, teaching both of you how to communicate more effectively, how to understand each other, how to decide what is changeable and what is not in your relationship, how to deal with perpetual issues,on which you may be deadlocked, and different ways to view issues and problems in your relationship to reduce conflict. I also help you identify what is working in your relationship, (or what used to work) so that we can build on the positive.

All couples experience challenges. I specialize in helping couples through challenging times. Whether you are struggling with communication, sex and intimacy, or parenting, we work collaboratively to gain understanding and insight into the issue(s) so that the relationship can deepen and grow. I also help couples who are considering marriage and are not sure if they are a good fit. Even the best of relationships can feel difficult or discouraging at times. Together we can work through such difficulties so that your relationship can feel rejuvenated and fulfilling again.

Couples therapy should not be about hashing over old wounds. Getting what you want from a relationship involves good communication and active listening, tolerance and forgiveness, emotional intelligence, having common goals and working cooperatively and, like all the bets things in life, presents us with a challenge. Relationships can be hard work but the work is rewarding and life-enhancing. I love to work with couples who are committed to improving their future rather than reliving their past.

Are you pulling your love apart? I can help you put it back together. There are 7 habits that pull love apart: Blaming, Nagging, Complaining, Bribing, Threatening, Punishing, Criticizing. If you or your partner engages in any of these behaviors, I can help you to stop doing them using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Behavior Therapy. I can help you to start putting your love back together by engaging in relationship enhancing behaviors: Supporting, Trusting, Encouraging, Respecting, Accepting, Listening, Negotiating differences. Knowing what not to do is not enough. Knowing HOW not to do it is key. I can teach you how. Call 818 575-9049 today to arrange a FREE 20 MINUTE SESSION.

The two most important keys to a healthy relationship is communication & understanding how your partner wants to be loved. Clear and authentic communication is essential for a healthy relationship. A mindful partnership involves a place of understanding from where an individual is coming from. Clear boundaries and a respective responsibility of each other, as being unique is central for growth and belongingness. If a connection is fragmented, individuals cannot exist as one, than the relationship cannot be whole. Partners develop a dance around one another’s problems and develop dysfunctional patterns that are projected on the partner and world.

Is this you? All we do is fight! It seems like we never hear each other and neither of us listens anymore! It is so frustrating I do not want to come home and try. I have been successfully helping couples to develop the tools necessary to communicate effectively for more than 20 years. Having disagreements is not unusual. Learning how to resolve disagreements is a key element to healthy relationships. Conflict resolution is about learning to fight fairly by listening in an atmosphere of Respect, Trust, Safety and love and not placing my desire to be right over the relationship.

According to a leading couple's therapist, David Schnarch, differentiation is a crucial aspect of intimacy for couples. My approach to couples therapy emphasizes the importance of differentiation in couple relationships. I believe that a healthy couple is one where individuals can share deeply personal parts of their selves with their partner, while also being secure enough to handle however their partner responds. This approach also incorporates exploration of attachment style and intergenerational relationships. I also incorporate aspects of Gottman therapy when treating couples and helping them to enhance intimacy and differentiation.

I am a Level 3 Trained GOTTMAN METHOD COUPLES THERAPY (GMCT) counselor. GMCT is a research-based approach that will help you and your partner understand each other on a deeper level, better manage conflict and differences, turn toward each other, reignite intimacy, and make your life dreams come true. I work extensively with infidelity and betrayal, pre-marital, discernment (do I stay or do I go?) addictions. My practice is open to all sexualities, as well as non-monogamy couples.

Is your relationship in need of healing and strengthening for increased connection? I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified Prepare-Enrich Couples Counselor and offer professional couples counseling, premarital counseling, and marital couples counseling. I utilize communication skills, Attachment Theory and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help restore your emotional bond and intimacy. Take the first step towards a fulfilling and lasting relationship and I look forward to working together with you!

A couple doesn't need to be married to experience struggles in their relationship. We bring all our past into our today, and this sometimes obscures our vision of the person who shares our today with us. Therapy will help you see yourself more clearly, and see the person your are connected to more clearly. This is especially important for a couple that is looking forward to a lifetime commitment.

Conflict and discord often are a factor of poor communication and feelings that both partners must agree in order to be compatible. This kind of thinking can result in angry standoffs that lead to a feeling that in order for one to win the their must lose. I teach couples how to communicate and understand that difference in needs does not mean incompatibility. Working towards win-win solutions can enhance your marital satisfaction and increase intimacy. I enjoy working with couples and have a good success rate. Let me help you find happiness in your marriage.

Marriage counseling can be the best thing you can do for your relationship, whether you’re having marriage problems or not. Either way, the skills learned in marriage counseling can help you find happiness and satisfaction with your spouse. If you are having significant problems, and you want marriage counseling to work, you need to be willing to put everything into it. You cannot shut down and refuse to participate because you “already made your decision.” Give your marriage a chance. Give yourself and your spouse a chance to be happy. I have helped many couples, and I have found that the majority of them benefit from the therapy and gain happier marriages. Unfortunately, many couples wait ye....

Dr. Eris Huemer is the author of "Break-Up Emergency. A Guide to Transform Your Break UP into a Break THROUGH" and a media consultant for various national television networks. Dr. Eris holds a doctorate degree in marriage and family therapy She guides people toward making positive & lasting life changes and helps them create relationships that they want and deserve. Dr. Eris helps people bring their Sexy Back in relationships while helping individuals and couples reinvent themselves from the inside out. She has helped many coulples "save" their relationship when they thought it was over or on the brink of divorce.

The general goal is to reduce conflict and increase intimacy. In the safety of therapy, and with a trained professional as a third party, you each will have the opportunity to learn about yourself in depth, in addition to gaining insights into the complex dynamics of your relationship. The increasing of knowledge, communication skills, and relational tools can combine to create the intimacy and connection that is so necessary in marriage.

I believe that good relationships are built on secure attachments, ones that are engaged and emotionally responsive to one another. In my experience working with couples, and research supports this idea as well, a combination of strategies that teach them to be more accepting of each other while at the same time working to change some of their assumptions and automatic behaviors are at the root of change. I see this in my private practice with partners attacking, often forgetting what brought them together in the first place; I guide them back into each other's arms, and back into a safety zone with a combination of attachment and communication techniques that have shown to be effective.

Relationships are hard and they take work. AND they can be rewarding and nurturing. One of the most satisfying feelings is to have a connection with another human being. When there is a disconnection, though, it can leave you feeling abandoned, alone, fearful, and even angry. Let's talk about how you can avoid disconnection or reconnect. I support you through this process by helping you to examine your communication style, family dynamics, and your individuality. How do you, an individual, function within the partnership?

Do you envision a loving, respectful relationship with your partner? Would you like to strengthen your bond & gain a better understanding of your spouse? Are you interested in avoiding divorce & keeping your family together? I have some ways to help. In session I help couples improve communication, so that each person in the relationship feels heard, & solutions are fair & effective. I help you understand & respect your partner’s perspective & develop ways to compromise, to improve your relationship, without compromising your personal values. I also teach couples ways to discuss issues without arguments, establish fair rules and boundaries, & make your relationship rewarding and fun.

Married, dating, heterosexual, gay, or bisexual? I specialize in emotional intimacy, sex, addiction, and trauma, any of which can derail a relationship. You can heal your relationship or end it. I can help either way. Improve communication and handle conflicts better. Get your emotional baggage out of the way so it doesn’t hurt your relationship. Better for the couple and especially better when there are kids. Have kids and you’re divorcing? You’re still tied together. We can make that less damaging for everyone. Kids do better when their divorced parents work together for the kids’ best interest – dealing with emotions and communication better and not putting kids in the middle.

You can create a satisfying relationship regardless of your childhood, past injuries, or current circumstances. A new relationship requires new strategies and tools that can be learned. Your problems, including betrayal, are opportunities. Even a crisis can be the motivation to learn the right tools to succeed. I will help you repair, recover and rebuild a new relationship based on principles of fairness, justice and sensitivity.

In a relationship that you feel is stuck where neither partner feels loved, heard, or validated? I can work with you to change unhealthy patterns, learn new ways of communicating, and build a loving relationship. We will work together to create a new relationship vision for the future, a shared vision. I want to help you find the love you want and deserve.