Great Couples Counseling in Rossmoor, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Many couples present in distress with a strong desire to enhance their relationships. I like to work with communication styles as well as explore some old patterns of relating that may have their history in early childhood experiences with their own families. Being able to identify these old patterns of relating to a significant other can help couples to understand why they bring these old patterns into their current relationship. After these patterns are identified, new ways of relating and communicating are explored and practiced. Listening skills and acceptance are important areas of exploration throughout therapy as well. Couples find new & satisfying ways of relating with each other.

Couples have come to see me for a variety of reasons throughout the years, but I find that no matter what the presenting problem may be, being able to effectively communicate with each other is vital to restoring the relationship. Often couples have a completely different style of relating to one another and resolving conflict. I work with couples to better understand their partner and I help each person to communicate in a way that they can finally be heard. It doesn’t matter what you are fighting about if the other person can’t hear what you are saying. Call 714-751-0888 so I can help you express yourself more effectively so you can stop the fighting and start the healing process.

My work with couples begins with teaching ways to communicate from a calm place, avoiding escalation and rebuilding trust. I help you see the conflict as a third entity, with the both of you (and me) on the same team, tackling it. With new tools on how to better communicate, I can help you restore the love and passion that brought you together in the first place.

The main thing I notice couples coming in for is to work on trust issues, communication problems, and lack of intimacy within the relationship. This can manifest into anger, affairs, shutting down, and a number of other behaviors. I work with couples FIRST on what does work, so that they can build upon skills they already possess within their relationship. 2: Teaching basic listening skills so that partners feel heard. 3: Teaching the couples how to communicate without attacking. 4: implementing those skills at home. Therapy is much more complex than this, and there are many more aspects of communication, but building strengths is very important to relationship success.

Couples therapy combines techniques from the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy. After gathering a comprehensive history about your relationship, we will specify goals and work to build strong emotional alliances. The goal is to help lead you to a deeper understanding of each other, and then move toward more effective problem solving and accountability for communicating your needs within the relationship.

I specialize in couples and marriage counseling. My approach is based on recent research in marriage science showing what habits successful couples have that other do not. My approach is skills based and practical, teaching both of you how to communicate more effectively, how to understand each other, how to decide what is changeable and what is not in your relationship, how to deal with perpetual issues,on which you may be deadlocked, and different ways to view issues and problems in your relationship to reduce conflict. I also help you identify what is working in your relationship, (or what used to work) so that we can build on the positive.

Whoever said relationships should be easy was wrong. This myth is one of many that have perpetuated a sense of failure in couples. Relationships do in fact take work, and sometimes an extra set of eyes and ears is needed to alleviate some of the frustration and pressure that this work can bring up. Sometimes it might seem easier to run away from it, but then there is something that pulls you back. To get your relationship back on a path of growth, understanding and passion we'll work to unpack all the other myths and histories that have impacted your relationship. We'll improve communication such that it becomes easier to be seen and heard, making room for greater closeness and love.

Relationship therapy is the process of counseling the parties of human relationship in an effort to recognize, and to better manage or reconcile differences and the repeating of unhealthy patterns within a relationship. Couples therapy enhances insight and is an amazing self discovery process. In therapy, I encourage an open and nurturing safe environment to help couples unlock deep rooted issues,mast traumas that have been holding back the growth of the relationship

Relationships can be hard and wonderful and overwhelming and exciting. Building a relationship involves really knowing all parts of your partner as well as expressing affection and appreciation for your partner. Fights happen. It's normal. If the fights are ugly and mean and out of control, let me help you learn a better, kinder way to fight that won't hurt the friendship of your relationship. Call me today at 714-432-9856.

I specialize in Couples Therapy at the Narrative Couples Center. I help partners to achieve new stories for the future. My approach is strength-based. It explores what couples hold most precious in their lives and relationships and brings people closer to their hopes and preferences. My counseling offers tools and collaboration to help each member of a relationship to move towards shared understanding.

Being in a relationship is a complicated thing. Often people do not realize the magnitude the past impacts our ability to love, to handle conflict, to accurately communicate. Until you understand what each of you is bringing to the table, you are truly handicaped. Our early role models and messages about love and the opposite sex can create issues in our relationships. Unresolved issues from previous loves can create walls which make authentic love difficult. Helping to unlock the "gridlock" and get you moving again in a healthy direction is my goal. Don't wait for things to "magically" get better. Invest in your relationship and enjoy it once again.

In my Couples Counseling work I help partners build on the strengths of their relationship while we work together to create new skills for communicating and solving problems. My approach is collaborative and I teach each partner to learn how to listen and hear what the other is expressing and needing as well as ways to be heard and understood better. I provide a safe place where difficult problems can be discussed and solutions explored and practiced so that couples can better resolve ongoing problems.

I am a Level 3 Trained GOTTMAN METHOD COUPLES THERAPY (GMCT) counselor. GMCT is a research-based approach that will help you and your partner understand each other on a deeper level, better manage conflict and differences, turn toward each other, reignite intimacy, and make your life dreams come true. I work extensively with infidelity and betrayal, pre-marital, discernment (do I stay or do I go?) addictions. My practice is open to all sexualities, as well as non-monogamy couples.