Great Couples Counseling in Playa Del Rey, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

At the heart of a strong and intimate relationshp are two keystones - 1) Trust and 2) Commitment. The higher the trust, the higher the commitment in the relationship. The lower the trust, the lower the commitment. When trust and commitment is low, its the perfect breeding ground for unending fights, arguments, and betrayal in all forms. Couples therapy gets to the root of these 2 core issues and empowers the couple with effective tools to restore and renew their trust and commitment to each other.

Without conflict, couples do not achieve intimacy. The challenge is helping you and your partner learn how to have healthy conflict that leads to intimacy, rather than destructive conflict that destroys the relationship. While I work with all couples, I specialize in working with neuro-diverse couples. I usually start with helping you learn ground rules for being able to have safe, constructive, healthy conflict to reduce and eliminate destructive relational patterns. I also use Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) to help you reconnect, learn healthy communication skills, rekindle the flame that you once had, and start talking to each other again. If you are willing to work, I am here for you!

In my Couples Counseling work I help partners build on the strengths of their relationship while we work together to create new skills for communicating and solving problems. My approach is collaborative and I teach each partner to learn how to listen and hear what the other is expressing and needing as well as ways to be heard and understood better. I provide a safe place where difficult problems can be discussed and solutions explored and practiced so that couples can better resolve ongoing problems.

Intimate, committed relationships can start off beautifully where you cannot get enough of your partner. Then, before you know it-the desire and passion are gone, you hurt each other's feelings, you feel misunderstood and resentful. Often times, couples go to counseling to work on "communication" "regain desire" and to "build trust". Communication is more than just the words we use, I can help you and your partner understand each other and ensure what needs to be said-is said. The desire that you once felt can be found again. Trusting each other can happen again-I will help you and your partner regain the intimacy, connection and bond that made you commit to each other.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.