Anger Management and Counseling in St Petersburg, FL.

Anger and rage can incapacitate you to the point of poisoning all your relationships, career and all aspects of your life. This also would include hindering your relationship with God. This ministry is successful in bringing you deliverance, healing and peace from the removal of your anger/rage and restoring you to relationships and your fellowship with God. Do not wait. Contact me today!

Anger is the emotion that we need when we feel we must protect something or someone, vital to our lives. It is useful and necessary but if we do not learn that it also can be over used by blocking our more vulnerable emotional experiences. It sounds so simple when you read about this concept but so many of us miss all of the tedious details that have lead us to get into the habit of over using anger. My approach is slow and methodical, unwinding and reverse engineering anger until you understand it well enough to honor it, by putting it in its proper place. Then, we begin the work on processing, in a safe and nonjudgemental space, the emotions that have been protected for all this time.

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions. It's often considered one of the "villains" of the emotional world. But, actually, anger has a lot of energy in it which could be productive if managed right. So the problem isn't really anger but unmanaged anger. My approach is to help a client develop understanding of what anger is and what it is not, and to apply this knowledge skillfully in his or her own life.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger is a tough emotion. It feels so real and raw in the moment, that we forget that it’s simply a defense mechanism. As human beings, we like to feel powerful. Vulnerable emotions are dangerous. Sadness, fear, jealousy, hurt, and betrayal make us feel weak, so what do we do? We try to look strong, scary, and powerful. Anger is the most efficient way to do this. If we can sit with our more vulnerable feelings and care for them, we are able to see our anger evaporate. We’ll work together to create a safe space for you to explore what’s hiding beneath your anger. The freedom that comes with vulnerability is where your true power lies.

Anger is one of the more destructive emotions in one’s life. It ends relationships, marriages, and careers, and brings daily suffering to the angry person. Techniques of “counting to 10” “venting anger” and “going for a walk” are not effective to resolve anger. To successfully overcome anger, we go to the root of our anger and change the self-talk that causes our anger. There are effective tools to learn and accomplish this.

Destructive, uncontrolled anger damages relationships, marriages, children, entire families, career advancement...and oneself. It can destroy lives. Anger needs management, harnessing & work to use its energy for productive lives. Good can come out of the chaos - it takes work and a commitment to change. It is possible. My clients learn to control anger, use the energy for good and repairing damage to relationships. Whether dealing with current or past events, or both, my clients learn to make sense out of their lives and move past and forward in ways that bring personal and relational health, healing and practical ways to move to better places in their lives & the lives of others.

Many times anger is the only acceptable emotion, especially for men. Uncovering the feelings, emotions and frustrations that are behind that anger can completely change the dynamic. Let's work to understand what that anger is about and heal it. Decreasing anger can completely change your relationships and increase a sense of calmness and peace in your life. It is never too late to have a happy life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.