Anger Management and Counseling in Lockport, IL.

Anger management is an important skill to master in our ever changing world, which brings increasing amounts of stress into our lives. I would utilize two tools: discussing an individual's background to discover possible causes for the behavior, and teaching positive approaches toward stressors. I have assisted both individuals and couples with anger management issues.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

The key to anger management is learning not to respond to the small things in life. It is learning to focus on impulse control with emotions and learning to filter the impact of words. Not controlling anger will cause a lifetime of chaotic and destructive relationships. Another focus of anger management counseling is to heal the emotional hurts and trust issues that brought you to a place where your natural tendency is be defensive towards others instead of accepting and loving.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

Clients seeking support for anger management will find a nonjudgmental space to understand what’s behind their anger and how it shows up in daily life. Together, we’ll explore triggers, identify underlying emotions, and develop practical strategies to respond rather than react. The goal isn’t to get rid of anger—but to learn how to express it in healthier, more constructive ways that support your relationships, goals, and overall well-being.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

I support individuals with anger difficulties through empathy/emotion-coaching, as well as teaching them tools and strategies to manage their anger and frustrations. While decreasing and managing anger, we are able to take a deeper look into the individual. I am able to guide them via talk therapy to enable And empower them to help themselves while achieving new insights.

We look at anger as a secondary emotion. It is very easy to characterize a person as "angry" and not explore where the reaction or response truly stems from. Our approach is to provide healing at the root. We explore what other emotions may be operating, so that we can address what has really provoked a negative response. We also try to find ways to replace the thoughts that evoke an angered response with something that helps our clients feel more in control.

Anger is an emotion that can be very hard to manage and respond to effectively because most people often have a very automatic and impulsive response when they experience anger. Through dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) we can begin to identify emotions and begin to slow down in order to recognize ways to respond to emotions rather than react to them. This will help you feel more in control of your emotions as well as improve your relationships with others because of your ability to manage and respond to anger effectively.

You know your anger has made real messes in your life--at work, with friends, in your love life. I can show you many ways to get to the roots of your dark demons and fiery dragons. There are reasons and excuses that have been fueling your anger and you can only benefit from studying yourself. Saying you are sorry hasn't stopped your anger from returning. Anger that you understand and manage can serve you. Without looking inside yourself, anger will control you and cost you a lot more than time and money.

Anger is so much more than just anger. Under Anger there are a lot of deeper feelings that have usually gone repressed or unvalidated. The first step in working with anger is addressing those underlying thoughts and feelings to get to the root of the anger. We'll find new ways to cope with life's stressors and incorporate new ways of interacting with others.

Lynette provides anger management group and individual therapy using cognitive-behavioral approaches based on the What's Good About Anger? curriculum. Clients will benefit from using this approach and curriculum since it is evidence-based. This model of anger management is described and widely distributed over the Internet in various newsletter and other online publications and has been extremely well received by hundreds of local, national and international anger management participants. It is currently being used by self-referred clients, court-referred clients, HR referrals, corporate executives, physicians, law enforcement, and others needing qualified anger management services.