Anger Management and Counseling in Stafford, TX.

Anger is our response to stress. Sometimes we feel anger to avoid some other emotion such as anxiety or hurt and other times anger is a way of mobilizing ourselves in the face of a threat. Regardless of the reasons for your anger, you may find that it is unproductive in your relationships with others. Our therapists can help you develop new responses to stress and help you stop the spiral of anger. Our approach to working with anger is both physiological and psychological. We will help you recognize and manage the physical signs and symptoms that occur when you're angry as well as finding new ways to express yourself and get your needs met in a way that others can understand.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger doesn’t have to equal rage. We can learn how to express angry feelings in ways which don’t cause fear in the people around us. Sometimes our feelings for a person are more possessive than loving. We can use humor in the form of sarcasm, masking our anger instead of sharing our feelings in a healthy way. It might feel like we go from 0-100 on the anger scale quickly, but it is a process similar to dominoes falling one after the other. If we can learn to recognize the process that occurs and slow it down in our mind, we can make better choices and express our feelings without the trauma, emotional and even physical damage that rage and anger inflicts on ourselves and those around us.

You can learn to manage your anger by recognizing where emotions come from and learning alternatives to getting angry, ones that are far more likely to get you what you really want and need. Anger is generally a secondary emotion. You can learn to identify what feelings are underneath the anger and how to express those appropriately instead. Anger is not necessary or helpful.

Explosive anger expression can be an addictive cycle which damages or breaks relationships. Anger ranging "black out rages" to chronic irritability takes a toll on the one who is angry and those who love and care for him or her. Anger is a normal, healthy, appropriate emotion at times. When it takes charge and causes additional suffering, it is time to seek help. If loved ones indicate it is a problem, then it is time. My approach includes a belief that there is a reason someone is deeply angry. We will look at the root of the problem as well as use cognitive-behavioral and self-management strategies to intervene in physically and emotionally harmful behavior. Please call.

You'll find a secure, accepting environment to explore and comprehend your emotions in our workshops on managing anger. We'll identify the causes of anger and develop useful coping mechanisms so that it may be expressed and dealt with in a healthy way. We'll strive toward long-lasting emotional control and resolution by exploring the underlying issues. I'll provide you useful tips and tricks so you can respond to difficult circumstances with more poise and clarity. You will gain the abilities and self-awareness necessary to promote better relationships and handle life's issues with a more impartial viewpoint through our therapeutic partnership.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Learning better ways to manage your angry feelings starts with understanding fully the reasons for anger, what one hopes to accomplish by getting angry and better tools for communication. Finally for lasting change, one can learn to have alternative feelings rather than anger in the first place by understanding frustrating and hurtful situations in a new light. An anger management approach will be customized to your needs and your issues.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.

We have all faced circumstances in life that provoke anger. It is a very healthy and natural reaction to some stressful and problematic situations. Sometimes, however, these reactions go too far and hurt the people we love. There are several techniques that work well to reduce angry outbursts and aggressive responses directed at others. I can help you or your child discover strategies to remain calm in stressful situations and channel energy into emotional problem solving that leads to healthier and more positive outcomes.

I approach counseling for anger and anger management from a Cognitive Behavioral perspective. This means that we would work together to identify your thought patterns that fuel anger, recognize the actions you take when angry, and explore the emotions (fear, sadness, disappointment, shame, embarrassment, to name a few) that exist alongside your anger. Anger management counseling may also include developing patterns of thinking that are more helpful to you, practicing activities that help relieve your anger, and processing the emotions related to your anger.

Anger can negatively affect someone’s life in numerous ways, as well as hurt loved ones, colleagues, or strangers. It’s impossible to be joyful and angry at the same time. When you work with one of our professional counselors you will gain an understanding about what’s causing your anger and how to overcome it. Anger usually masks one or more deeper emotions and experiences, such as a perceived injustice, fear, and hurt or sorrow. Once you gain insights about what’s beneath your anger then you can begin to make some real progress in addressing it in healthier ways and overcoming it.

Very often we look at emotions as good or bad, right or wrong. Anger is a natural part of our emotional experience of life. We experience challenges and frustrations in our daily lives and sometimes it can be difficult to work through the experience with the intensity of anger we may be experiencing. Learning to understand what the anger is about and why it is as intense as it is can help us to move into a new relationship with our anger which allows us to experience it the way we want without guilt or shame.

Anger, like other emotions, is neither good nor bad. Anger alerts our body and mind to know, simply, a problem exists that needs to be solved. Without anger, we become “door mats” where people “walk all over us”. Finding the solution that anger seeks can be tricky. The anger goal is to solve the problem; with the “rule” of not hurting ourselves, someone else, and actually making the problem smaller, not bigger. The challenge is when our “stuff” gets in the way. We “lose our cool”; allowing aggressiveness versus assertiveness to run the show. My approach allows people to find their voice, keep their personal power, while preserving relationships and solving the anger problem.

Anger can be an emotion which is frightening and repulsive for some and addictively powerful for others. The power to be afraid of or which to gain control can be both seductive and empowering. Together we will explore the meanings of anger to you and your family of origin. Together you will be able to identify warning signs and triggers, and gain skills to help you express your emotions without shame and guilt taking you hostage.

Anger is not necessarily a bad emotion and one that can be used for progress. Together we can examine your anger and come up with a plan on how to manage and be comfortable with this emotion. I can help you with a number of coping solutions and show you ways to bring the emotion under your will. If there is an underlying root of your anger we can expose it and help it to heal.

Whatever the issue, road rage, workplace frustration, interpersonal relationships, let me help you work through your anger. I utilize a combination of Mindfulness and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. The goal is to help you first recognize your anger as it manifests in your body, and then as you relax think through what your triggers are and how to keep your emotions from getting out of control. I look forward to hearing for you.