Family Counseling Services in Belton, TX.

Familes create complicated systems and part of my work is to identify the systems that are in place. Some of what I look for include identifying the roles each member takes, the communication patterns, power issues, where aliances form, the rule system (both spoken and unspoken rules), Family work is both challenging and rewarding as we work together to establish strong family bonds, heal past wounds and improve communication

Do you feel disconnected from your wife or kids? Does it feel like you’ve lost control of your home? Or have you experienced something difficult within your family that’s not been resolved? If so, I can help. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I’m an expert in relationships, and have been trained to identify the patterns within families that aren’t working, develop healthier ones, improve communication and understanding, and help families forge a new path forward. This often looks like a combination of family sessions, parent sessions, and individual sessions. I provide online therapy over HIPAA-secure video, and if given the opportunity, would be honored to serve your family.

With my LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist), you can rest assured that I have extensive experience and knowledge of the assessment and treatment of families. Family therapy differs from individual therapy by focusing on how the relationship dynamics are affecting the overall psychological health of family members and the functioning of the family as a whole. Often, one family member is "scapegoated" as the "identified patient," when there are a host of issues that need to be addressed. Boundaries need to be defined in a healthier way, and often the parents need to reexamine their parenting style for better results. Having an objective observer and family coach can be a real asset.

In counseling with families, I use the approach known as "Family Systems" theory. Basically, Family Systems theory views the family an an integrated whole, rather than simply separate individuals who live together. So, presenting problems in family therapy are treated with various family dynamics in mind. Family members are helped to gain insight into possible ways each individual may be contributing to conflict and inadequate relationships within the family unit. In family therapy sessions, family members are encouraged to address issues with each other in a safe setting of the counseling office. Communication skills, including appropriate assertiveness, are given strong focus.

None of us grow up in a vacuum sealed container free of the influences of others. The most powerful influences are our family, both past and present. AND rarely is the distress leading a person to seek counseling in isolation from family. Typically the distress in drenched in relational dynamics. The most powerful and enduring change takes place in the context of relationships. Even if the family is not present for all counseling, the family perspective is critical to take into account. When family members can be present, counseling can often be the most productive. Larger families may require longer than typical sessions.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Families can be extremely frustrating. No one knows better than our family how to push our buttons. Fights tend to go the same way every time. I work with families to discover their underlying patterns and work to change those patterns to lead different outcomes. The family therapy process can be chaotic, but my approach leads to peace at the end of the chaos.