Great Couples Counseling in Rose Hill, VA. Therapy to heal relationships.

There are two most basic fears of intimacy that we all have: one is fear of abandonment, the other is fear of being taken over, of losing my autonomy. In a relationship, people often become polarized with one clinging and the other seeming distant. With awareness of our fears and how to take care of ourselves and each other, we will bring out the best in each other. Everyone knows how to speak and listen, right? Not so. The most difficult skills to learn are to speak self-responsibly about your own experience and to truly listen and understand the other person's experience even when you don't like it. To learn these skills enables love. I can help.

Too often we tend to our relationships after life's obligations have been met. However, that extra time is as mythical as a unicorn. Thus, our relationships get treated like a cactus, instead of the orchids that they are. And, like any orchid treated like a cactus, they wilt and their survival becomes threatened. But, if we treat an orchid like a cactus we don't blame the flower, unlike how we tend to blame our relationships. My approach to couple's counseling is mechanical. First, I help a couple to diagnose the problem(s). Then we do exercises to enhance intimacy, followed by exercises for solving problems and improving communication. I help couples to flourish as they used to.

Couple counseling often help improve communication and many other issues that come up in relationships . Even Couple that have been married or engaged for long time sometime get stuck when approached with how to handle situations in there relationship. Stanley Tamale Counseling Services has therapist that can address issued of lack of communication .

Relationships are hard! They can bring out the best in us...and also the worst. What's more, its easy to feel confused and unable to see what is happening clearly when things in your relationship are troubled. Relationships can be up & down, and often it is that one familiar pattern or issue that triggers everything. As you and your partner are so 'in it', it is pretty difficult to find your own way out of the same old behavior. I work with couples, providing an unbiased and neutral perspective, helping you gain greater understanding into what is happening and how you want things to change. Yes, relationships are hard, but also contain infinite potential for healing & renewal.

Sometimes a couple reaches a place where they need to work on resolving different conflict in their relationship. There may be communication issues and the ability to make thoughtful decisions about the relationship is lost. I use the Gottman approach to help you identify where the major issues are and interventions to help improve communication. I will be your neutral mediator, I do not take sides. My focus will be on the relationship and both of you will get time to give your story. The couple will have an opportunity to talk through the issues and at times figure out what the issues are.