CHAYE CAN HELP YOU WITH:
· Couples therapy
· Individual therapy
· Relationship Issues
· Life Cycle Issues
· Binge Eating
BENEFIT OF THERAPY WITH CHAYE:
· Improving communication
· Improving closeness and connection
· More intimacy
· self confidence and empowerment
· Improved coping skills
· Acceptance of Self
· Better understanding of impact of Family of Origin
· Improved mood
· Better decision making
· Better understanding the interaction between emotion and food
· How to navigate the grieving process
CHAYE USES THESE THERAPIES TO HELP:
· Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) – see video on my website
· AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy)
· Attachment Based
· Systems Therapy
· Narrative Therapy
· Humanistic Therapy
· $150 per 60 minute session (applies to couples and individuals)
· I can provide a bill for you to submit to your insurance company
· If you are struggling financially, a sliding scale is possible on a case by case basis
· 12 Underwood Rd., Monsey, N.Y. 10952
· Master Degree from New York University
· Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT)
· Advanced Training: Ackerman Institute for Couples and Families
· Advanced Training: AEDP (Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy)
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY - EFT
IS THIS YOU:
· we are always arguing
· we are always short with each other
· we find ourselves passionately arguing about insignificant issues
· we find ourselves drifting apart
· we feel more like roommates than soulmates
· we yearn for the secure connection we felt when we first got married
· we feel despondent/hopeless about our future together
The good news is that you can be helped. EFT is an empirically based model with sixteen outcome studies that show that 70% - 75% of couples move from distress to recovery while 90% show significant improvement. This compares favorably to the next leading model of therapy which has success rate of 35%.
EFT is a model that brilliantly sees the cycle of interaction, the patterns that the couple engage in as the enemy and not each other. This takes away any blame that can be felt in the therapy room. The cycle of interaction is the enemy and this is what we work on: identifying the patterns of behavior, the reactive emotions, the meaning that they carry and the impact that these patterns have on each partner. With this understanding the couple can come together to fight this negative cycle and not each other. In this model we discuss how unprocessed pain and fear are fueling their cycle of interaction and keep the signals that they send each other scrambled. With the therapist’s nonjudgmental manner, caring and compassion the couple is guided to start exploring the more vulnerable emotions that are driving their negative cycle. My goal as an EFT therapist is to help my couple turn towards each other in a way that will pull their partners to respond to them.
Many couples are under the misguided perception that they are lacking negotiation skills, communication skills, not having enough date nights with each other, but we know that this is not the case. As an EFT therapist, I see this as a sense of pain, a sense of disconnection and a desire to connect. I see a couple calling and calling and not knowing what it is they need and not knowing how to respond. They are missing each other and protesting the distance and disconnection because they matter to each other. I see negotiations as a band-aid and it lasts only as long as the band-aid can stay on but will be insufficient to stand the test of time. I know the couple has to make sense of their relationship, make sense of their pattern of interaction, and understand the cues that trigger them into spiraling into disconnection. I see setting rules and boundaries as a drain on the quality of the couple’s intimacy and connection. They will never experience the fullness of this special bond called marriage.
In addition, I work with individuals that have relationship problems and help them triumph over the adversity in their lives. I help individuals suffering from anxiety, depression, loss, grief, stresses, stresses of change, turmoil in their families and work-related changes. Together we work on replacing negative ways of dealing with difficult circumstances with more positive alternatives. We will rediscover together how to tap into your reservoir of strength, growth and love and transform you into the best possible person you can be.
Today Emotionally Focused Therapy is being heralded for individuals and families drawing on cutting- edge research on adult attachment – and providing an innovative roadmap for clinical practice. Dr. Susan Johnson model explores the central role of attachment in human functioning and how a focus on attachment can promote successful psychotherapy. Dr. Susan M Johnson, founder of EFT, argues that psychotherapy is most effective when it focuses on the healing power of emotional connection. EFT aligns perfectly with attachment theory as it provides proven techniques for treating anxiety, depression, and relationship problems.
It would be my honor to work with you and help you grow your capacities for building a better relationship with yourself and others. I am a caring and compassionate person who works from a place of non-judgment and curiosity about your internal world and come from a place of wanting to get to know the real you. I admire your courage for trusting me to help lead you to a place where you can feel safe and secure and more bonded in all your relationships.
Emotionally Focused Therapy has been proven to effectively help couples and individuals strengthen their emotional bond. Why not give it a try and see if it can make you happier as well?