Jonathan Gerard, DMin
208 Sunset Dr, Chapel Hill, North Carolina 27516
My goal with clients with anger issues is to extinguish the emotion. How to do this varies with clients but can involve finding substitute behaviors for expressing anger, creating consequences for the anger, or finding rewards for controlling the anger. It is also important to understand the function of the anger in a relationship. If anger is a distancing mechanism, for example, then the client needs to find alternative ways to find more "space" in his life and a partner might also need help becoming more independent. One must use care, however, not to blame the victim when anger is an issue in a relationship. Yet another approach to managing anger is through insight: as did Jung.
Paul Feiger, MS
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #97796
21 Colony Pl., #250, Durham, North Carolina 27705
All too often anger moves us to do acts we would almost never do. The basis of anger has been found to be fear. Fear of being out of control, fear of not knowing what to do, fear of an unwanted past coming back. Working with individuals, couples, and families, I help them find the behavioral resources to deal with the fear and thereby reduce the anger. The reduction of the anger through processes learned in our therapy, gives the client the power to control reactions to events. That power is the means to manage any anger, present and in the future.