Whatever the cause of your emotional pain, know there is HOPE.
Do you sometimes feel like you will always be sad? Like grief is your "new normal"?
Are you upset about conflicts in your relationships but have no idea how to fix them?
Are you bothered by well-wishers' attempts to cheer you up or encourage you to "try again" after losing your child?
Do you often feel no one understands you or your emotions?
Everyone experiences pain at some point in life. It is inevitable. Most of us reach out for help with physical pain, but tend to suffer in silence with emotional pain. Seeking counseling is not a sign of weakness and does not mean you are “crazy.” It is actually one of the bravest and most courageous decisions you can make.
With over 10 years of counseling experience and 20 years of marriage, I understand all of these questions and others you may be having - and I am here to help you. I would like the opportunity to walk with you on your journey toward healing and wholeness. "Just take the first step in faith."
Who I Am
I am Dr. Nikki Watkins, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in stillbirth grief counseling as well as general individual, couples and family counseling. I have over 10 years of experience in therapy and have completed extensive training working with those struggling particularly with substance abuse, domestic violence, depression, anxiety, PTSD, psychosis, relationship conflicts, and grief.
Stillbirth loss is a common, but often hidden, form of grief that many families deal with. I am personally acquainted with the pain of this type of loss. In 2012, my family and I learned that our daughter's heart stopped beating just three weeks before delivery. It was the most devastating loss for our family to date. All hopes and dreams were dashed and we were left to grapple with the emptiness and confusion that followed. I understand the unique journey of adjusting to a "new normal" after such a great loss.
What I Believe
I believe working with a trained, compassionate professional can prove very instrumental in the long journey of healing that follows trauma and grief. Well-meaning friends and family may not know how to be there for the family struggling with grief. And even those who do offer their comfort, eventually go back to normal day-to-day life. You need an advocate who can support you beyond well-wishes - someone to walk with you towards real, impactful healing.
If you or someone you know has experienced this type of loss, or a similar loss, know that you are not alone. There is a community of helping professionals, which I am a part of, willing and ready to support you.
What I Do
In addition to grief counseling, I specialize in the following areas:
- Miscarriage/Infant Loss
- Anxiety & Depression
- Marital Discord
- Stress due to Life Transitions
- Domestic Violence
- Substance Abuse Recovery
- Premarital Counseling
- Shame/Guilt after Abortion
I have also done extensive research in the area of adoption and the impact on future relationships. There are unique struggles and challenges for the adoptee, birth parents, and the adopting family. Even in the most financially stable and loving family, adoptees may still struggle with identity, belonging, emptiness, and rejection. This is especially true during the adolescent years. Walking through this journey with a caring professional can help with the adjustment process.
One of my favorite quotes says "You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step in faith." In life, there are many unpredictable "twists and turns" and sometimes those turns can take us completely off track. Talking through your issues, decisions, and areas of struggle with someone can prove beneficial. Get in touch with me today and begin your journey towards healing and wholeness.