Anger Management and Counselling in White Rock, BC.

Anger mangement is primarily based on Cogntitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), though is integrated with other approches considering the needs, age and situation of the individual. Art and Play therapy may be used with children, (as well as Art Therapy for adults) in the understanding, expression and processing of anger in intent to reduce the experience of anger and its expression. Positive coping and management are promoted and families (parents+kids) in conflict can expect to explore ideas / models of conflict reduction. In this way, parents of kids should expect to be involved in learnining how to deal with anger and how to assit their children in learning improved ways of anger management

You did it again. You lost your cool and you blew up. And this time, the consequences are serious. Your job is at risk, your family is hurt, or your partner has finally said, “this is it.” Yet, for some reason, you just can’t seem to stop it. One minute you’re fine, then BOOM... 0 to 100. Know this: there is a path to change. Using evidence-based and cutting-edge techniques, I can help you: cool down from intense stress, communicate with others in a way that inspires both love and respect, catch anger-flare-ups (before they happen), and have healthy outlets for intense feelings. Together let's keep your relationships, career, and emotions in harmony. There is an answer to anger.

My approach is to use a step-by-step process that follows an evidence based approach: goal setting; self awareness; cognitive reframing; behavioural modification; review of progress. Fundamental to the work is a good therapeutic relationship. That is, we have the collaboration and trust to combine your knowledge of yourself and your situation and my skills and knowledge of the clinical issues to make change happen.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

I am committed to helping my clients develop the skills necessary to manage their anger in healthy and productive ways. I understand that anger can be a complex and powerful emotion, and that uncontrolled anger can have a negative impact on your relationships, career, and overall well-being. If you are ready to take the first step towards managing your anger in a healthy way, I invite you to reach out to me. Together, we can work towards your goals and get to the root of what is causing these issues.

I will go over with clients situations that result in them being angry, triggers of their anger and what their thoughts are when they are angry. We will go over how we think affects how we feel and how we feel affects how we behave. We will go over ways to help clients regulate their emotions better when they are angry. Strategies can include ways to manage impulse control, breathing exercises, and relaxation exercises overall.

There are many approaches to anger management but many of these don't work when you're angry! Being logical about the feeling or trying not to express the feeling rarely works! There are legitimate reasons for anger and the underlying cause must be understood if we are going to manage this complicated emotion. It may be coming up to protect us or to mask something even more difficult. You may notice that anger comes up in certain contexts and perhaps with certain people. If you are willing to do some hard work and face some difficult truths, understanding your anger can turn your life around. When we learn from anger you may be amazed how much better your life can work and feel.

It sucks to be angry and loose control of our emotions. Anger can have a devastating impact on the people we love the most. I will support you in addressing the emotions, trauma and pain underneath anger and learn to identify your triggers and patterns. I will teach you tools to address your stress and help you learn to better deal with your emotions. Learning to communicate our needs in a way that will be received is also a part of how I address anger issues.

It is my hope that clients will learn strategies to assist them in more effectively managing emotions of anger and the accompanying negative behaviours. Clients will explore and identify underlying causes of such emotions, as well as situational “triggers”. It is also my hope that clients will develop communication skills that will promote healthy interactions and successful resolutions of conflicts should they occur.

I believe anger management ultimately comes down to emotional regulation and finding an alternative way to still express yourself, but in a more safe and effective way. The goal is not to get rid of the emotion, but to work with it before it overcomes you. What is underneath the anger? What message are you trying to get across when you feel angry? How was anger expressed to you growing up? What emotions did you feel safe to express growing up? How did you learn to deal with your anger over the years? These are questions that I would explore and build skills from here to help you reach a better understanding of the processes behind the intense anger that you are feeling.

Anger can be understood as a secondary emotion. This means that oftentimes, there is another emotion, such as sadness or fear underlying our anger. Anger can be a strong and uncomfortable emotion for many; my approach is to help clients first regulate their feelings of anger, help them identify the triggers, and connect with their underlying emotions to bring awareness and healing.

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.