Anger Management and Counselling in Surrey, BC.

In order to effectively manage anger it is important to understand the purpose of it. Anger is always when you believe a person or situation has done something unfair to you. This feeling or unfairness or resentment piles up and comes out in inappropriate ways. I will assist you in resolving these feelings so you can move forward and enjoy life and relationships in a new and different way. I will also help you understand the familiar pattern that resulted in the build up of pain, hurt and anger and together we will find a new and more comfortable way to communicate and interact with others.

Anger mangement is primarily based on Cogntitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), though is integrated with other approches considering the needs, age and situation of the individual. Art and Play therapy may be used with children, (as well as Art Therapy for adults) in the understanding, expression and processing of anger in intent to reduce the experience of anger and its expression. Positive coping and management are promoted and families (parents+kids) in conflict can expect to explore ideas / models of conflict reduction. In this way, parents of kids should expect to be involved in learnining how to deal with anger and how to assit their children in learning improved ways of anger management

What has anger accomplished for you? Anger can be a devastating emotion, that if not managed can cause problems in your life. By working with me, we can work together to help manage and better understand why you get angry. I can help you understand that anger is not the first emotion that we feel, but it is usually the first emotion people see. I can help you better understand and communicate your underlying feelings that lead to anger. It is important what you do with anger that counts. It is important to understand that you can use your anger in a constructive and positive manner to help you get what you want in your life. Call now to see how I can help you create a more fulfilling life.

I have successfully helped many clients over the years with anger management. The reality is we all have anger that sometimes becomes just too much to contain! This obviously could quickly cause us serious ramifications! If you ever get to that point, anger management can be incredibly helpful in many ways.

I will help you to understand your anger, how it affects you and those around you, how to change from being destructive in your anger to being able to understand and work with your anger. Anger can cover up feelings that seem unacceptable, scary, like they will overwhelm or overtake you. As we work together, I will help you to acknowledge, understand, and accept those feelings and to express them in ways that are beneficial to you and your relationships.

It is my hope that clients will learn strategies to assist them in more effectively managing emotions of anger and the accompanying negative behaviours. Clients will explore and identify underlying causes of such emotions, as well as situational “triggers”. It is also my hope that clients will develop communication skills that will promote healthy interactions and successful resolutions of conflicts should they occur.

In many situations, it is most helpful to find the wound under the anger, the place where the person took the hit. Then, we can attend to the wound. We see what needs help in that place and what it might need to begin healing instead of festering. Many times the same place is getting hit over and over, without any resolution. It is also helpful to have some effective coping strategies for what to do to deal with anger when it comes. Working from both ends, anger begins to subside and leaves room for forward movement and new life experiences.

It feels urgent! When you’re angry, or dealing with someone else’s anger, you want something to help right now. So, that’s where we’re going to start. Together we will look at what anger is and what it isn't, identify those areas that make you angry, look at your description of anger, your responses and then develop tools that help you respond to anger in a constructive way. Let me help you see anger and its results in a whole new way. I can help.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

You did it again. You lost your cool and you blew up. And this time, the consequences aren’t going away. Your job is at risk, your family is hurt, or your partner has finally said, “this is it.” But for some reason, you just can’t seem to stop it. One minute you’re fine, then BOOM – overdrive. Know this: there is a path to change. Using evidence-based and cutting-edge techniques, I can help you: cool down from intense stress, communicate with others in a way that inspires both love AND respect, catch anger-flare-ups (before they happen), and have healthy outlets for when they do. Together let's keep your relationships, career, and emotions in harmony. There is an answer to anger.

Anger is not an emotion....did you now that?? It came as a surprise to me, since my whole life I just assumed it was. However, instead, anger is a type of communication we choose to use when we are hurt or feel that we are being treated unfairly or taken advantage of. Now this is good news! Methods of communication are a lot easier to change than are the feelings we encounter - although even feelings can be changed. Don't let your ANGER communication style- cramp your relationships or prevent you from getting want you need out of life and from your loved ones. If you want to change, help is a close as a phone call away. Marriage-Works, is focused on helping you find the peace you want

I will support you in acknowledging, accepting and expressing your feelings in a safe way. Together, let's develop a plan to help you move forward and start on your healing path. Through Mindfulness, CBT, and clinically proven, anger management strategies, we will support you through this process. Let's move through this together. **Please note that working with us will not provide a course certification, but a letter will be provided for court purposes if required.**

Anger can take control of your life, and your reactions to anger can jeopardise your personal and professional life. I work with males and females clients that are mandated by the court to take Anger Management Therapy, The treatment plan allows you to identify the triggers, recognise what behavioural patterns needs altering and how to transform unhealthy anger and healthy anger.

Angela understands that anger is a normal feeling and that everyone experiences anger from time to time; however, when anger begins to negatively affect our relationships, our self-esteem, our job/school performance or our role in community, it may suggest it's time to seek counselling support to gain new insight and skills to change unwanted patterns. Angela provides both individual and specialized women and men's group anger management sessions. She provides a safe, non-judgmental environment to increase skills related to self-awareness, communication, assertiveness, self-control, anxiety & stress management. Angela welcomes you to call today for your free consultation.