Anger Management and Counselling in Cloverdale, BC.

You may have noticed that anger is affecting your relationships, your work or how you feel about yourself. Perhaps someone close to you has raised concerns, or you regret things you say or do when frustration builds. Together, we can explore what triggers your anger, recognize early signs of escalation and practise ways to pause before reacting. We can work on expressing your needs, setting boundaries, managing conflict and repairing relationships. My approach is honest and practical: helping you understand what your anger is telling you while giving you more choice about what you do next.

“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Ambrose Bierce Anger is often an intense emotional response that can negatively affect people’s lives. Many people struggle to manage and express their anger effectively due to often intense and overwhelming feelings. Families, work, friendships and one’s personal well-being can be destroyed unintentionally along the way. Although we cannot control anger provoking situations, we can learn step by step techniques for successfully and efficiently managing them. Through counselling we will work to access the issues provoking anger and outbursts, and develop tools to identify and effectively manage emotional triggers. When needed, we will also work with families and...(view profile to read more)

Maybe you're not an angry person, maybe you're just exhausted, overwhelmed and overstimulated. You've been carrying too much, giving too much, and running on empty for too long. Now you find yourself snapping at your partner, getting irritated with your kids, feeling easily frustrated, or becoming short-tempered over things that appear silly or unnecessary. The aftermath of that is guilt and shame, and not liking the person you've become. Well, I see the person underneath the anger. In our work together, we'll look beyond the reaction to understand what's leaving you so drained, what your anger is trying to communicate, and how you can respond differently without constantly feeling bad

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Anger can take over quickly, leaving you saying or doing things you regret, shutting people out, or getting caught in conflicts that never seem to resolve. Often, anger is protecting something more vulnerable underneath — hurt, fear, rejection, shame or the feeling that you don’t matter. I offer anger management counselling that helps you understand your triggers and what your anger is trying to communicate, not simply control or suppress it. Using an emotion-focused approach, we can work toward responding differently when you’re triggered, communicating what you really need, and creating safer, healthier relationships with the people who matter most.

Although anger is a very natural human experience, what you do with it and how you channel that anger is what matters. Emotional regulation techniques are a forte of mine, and so much of it is learned behaviour from childhood experiences; learned behaviour from caregivers in your life and/or not providing the teaching skills required to manage angry emotions healthily. We will uncover this through therapeutic sessions.