Anger Management and Counselling in Cloverdale, BC.

Angela understands that anger is a normal feeling and that everyone experiences anger from time to time; however, when anger begins to negatively affect our relationships, our self-esteem, our job/school performance or our role in community, it may suggest it's time to seek counselling support to gain new insight and skills to change unwanted patterns. Angela provides both individual and specialized women and men's group anger management sessions. She provides a safe, non-judgmental environment to increase skills related to self-awareness, communication, assertiveness, self-control, anxiety & stress management. Angela welcomes you to call today for your free consultation.

In many situations, it is most helpful to find the wound under the anger, the place where the person took the hit. Then, we can attend to the wound. We see what needs help in that place and what it might need to begin healing instead of festering. Many times the same place is getting hit over and over, without any resolution. It is also helpful to have some effective coping strategies for what to do to deal with anger when it comes. Working from both ends, anger begins to subside and leaves room for forward movement and new life experiences.

Anger is a surface level emotion. There is nothing wrong with anger as it serves a useful purpose alerting us to how passionately we feel about a given circumstance. It is when we lose control of ourselves and react instead of creating a purposeful action to that event. Looking to our deeper beliefs, emotions, and values is key to understanding our anger and being able to use it in a constructive way. Your emotions are real and legitimate; don’t let anyone take them away from you. However, you have the responsibility to communicate them constructively and use them in ways that enrich your life. By learning how to use your anger as an alarm that tells you to communicate your thoughts, values ....

Anger is a powerful emotion that many of us learn to suppress in childhood. It then erupts in adulthood as the stresses of life build and we ignore anger's underlying issues. my role is to help you understand where your anger comes from, which emotions lie underneath, and tools for how you can express yourself differently when anger arises.

Anger mangement is primarily based on Cogntitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), though is integrated with other approches considering the needs, age and situation of the individual. Art and Play therapy may be used with children, (as well as Art Therapy for adults) in the understanding, expression and processing of anger in intent to reduce the experience of anger and its expression. Positive coping and management are promoted and families (parents+kids) in conflict can expect to explore ideas / models of conflict reduction. In this way, parents of kids should expect to be involved in learnining how to deal with anger and how to assit their children in learning improved ways of anger management

Individuals struggling to manage anger can be exhausting and overwhelming; often there is a significant negative effect on others in their life. We will work to uncover where the intense anger is originating from and heal. We will also wok to develop new skills and tools to manage emotional situations in a more positive an effective way. It is also important to work to heal the damage to loved ones whom have been affected.

Using a Response-Based Approach, I can help clients see that they have choice in their actions. Anger can sometimes feel like it is an uncontrollable response and clients may feel they 'blackout' and lose control, but through intentional work, you can see that you are in fact in control of your behaviour and are capable of making better choices. While this can feel challenging at times, trust and mutual respect is an important component in the therapeutic relationship.

It is my hope that clients will learn strategies to assist them in more effectively managing emotions of anger and the accompanying negative behaviours. Clients will explore and identify underlying causes of such emotions, as well as situational “triggers”. It is also my hope that clients will develop communication skills that will promote healthy interactions and successful resolutions of conflicts should they occur.

Anger is a reaction we have. I help clients to better understand what triggers this reaction, help them heal from what's causing them to react this way, and grow their toolbox of coping mechanisms, so they feel they have more choice in how their reaction is experienced by themselves, and those around them. With talk therapy I explore the above processes with clients, incorporating EMDR to allow us to anchor in the client's positive coping mechanisms, and heal from the "stuck" reactions that are often felt to be automatic, instigating anger.