Great Couples Counselling in Surrey, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Experience: Throughout my 20 years of professional experience in the human services field I have been driven by a passion for helping others that I now bring to Clinical Counseling. It is rewarding to serve youth, adults, and families, helping them to overcome distressing and traumatic life events while realizing their strengths and resilient qualities. My clinical counselling practice includes supporting individuals who experience anxiety, depression, PTSD, grief and loss, self-harming behaviors, suicide ideation, and those who experienced domestic violence. My lived experiences inform my practice. Being married for 33 years and raising three children, now young adults, has increased my empathy, compassion, and understanding for youth, adults, and...(view profile to read more)

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

The couple relationship holds the potential for deep growth and lasting fulfillment, yet can be the source of so much confusion and anger, self-doubt and blaming. As a trained Marriage and family therapist, working with couples for over eight years, I am able to effectively support couples through hurts, resentments, and challenges to becoming more connected, loving, and passionate.

Do you lie in bed looking at the ceiling thinking, "I just can't do this another day"? Are you seeking for ways out? Thinking of alternate life situations? Is looking at porn become a replacement for sex with your spouse? What about romance novels, are you stuck in a world of non-reality, wishing that prince charming would make his acquaintance, and do it fast! Do you hate the way you have to wean through his dirty socks to get to the bed...or deal with her city of bottles on your bathroom vanity counter? Have you breached your marriage vows with someone else, or sought the unhealthy friendship of someone from the opposite sex online or at the office? It is time to take the love back.

Intimate relationships are not easy. To have a fulfilling relationship, it takes the work of two people to build and sustain a loving, caring & harmonious relationship. I can help you to understand that there will always be arguments, but the arguments don't need to destroy your marriage. Together we can work on ways to resolve the reasons why you fight and to learn to talk to each other in ways that can help you understand each other. You and your partner have your unique views, beliefs and values. These will need to be discussed so you can both go forward creating the relationship you want. My approach is to work with you in a sensible & practical way to help you get a meaningful outcome.

Even with someone you adore, relationships require communication, compromise, kindness and flexibility. Bringing two people together who have grown up in different families, with different patterns of feeling, thinking and acting, creates challenges. Learning how to ask for what you want, resolve what feels stuck and be kind and respectful to each other is not something we are born with. As an objective person I can provide a new perspective to what feels like the same problem that keeps repeating. I will help you identify the patterns preventing your from enjoying each other to the fullest and learn new ways to enjoy safety, love and satisfaction together.

Individual therapy is complementary with couple therapy. Clients come in to get individual therapy and then feel the need to bring their partner/spouse to overcome obstacles that are causing stress. I work with both people to create unhealthy and equally respected environment in the home. Each household is different thereby each need of each person is different, I help clients address their needs with their partner. The clients work through worksheets, role playing, make lists and do other exercises that encouraging positive change and healthy communication skills.

Are you in a committed relationship, but feel like you are acting more like roommates? You miss the connection and conversation that you had when your relationship first started. I can work with you to reach your goals for your relationship. I have been trained in Gottman Couples Method which provides a lot of practical tools and conversation starters to help you connect as friends. I am also trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy which focuses on helping you both identify what your emotional needs are under all the noise, and to help you find that deeper connection you've been looking for in each other.

Charlene has over 10 years experience working with couples. Couples counselling can help to identify the problem issues that each couple is facing and provide them with effective tools to work through these issues. Couples counselling can improve communication between couples, teach couples how to fight fairly and to work together during difficult times. Call Charlene to discuss how she can help you and your partner find your way back to love.

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)

Relationships are far from simple. An individual person is so complex on their own, adding another person into the mix can just be chaos! I work closely with my clients and equip them with tools to better understanding their relationship and how to learn and grow closer together. With my assistance I can help you to navigate through difficult times to find peace, healing and harmonious living.

There are now known, research-proven behaviors that predict the success or split of a couple! And we also know that just teaching new skills to couples doesn't ensure the relationship will improve over time. What works best is helping couples learn how to shift out of states of being that keep them from using the skills they learn. If you are on a familiar track of fighting or fleeing, you may find it impossible to use helpful relationship skills unless you can shift your state of mind. It also help couples to get a broader and deeper perspective on what's going on in their relationship, so they can make decisions that work.

Are you unhappy in your relationship, and maybe even yelling and fighting all the time, but not sure how to create positive change? Are you in a good relationship and want to keep things going well? Or, are you moving in together or getting married and looking for strategies to improve your communication or conflict resolution? I work with couples of all ages and stages using the Gottman Method for relationship counselling. By using this research-based technique, I'm able to help couples effectively build skills and improve the quality of their relationship. If you’re looking for more intimacy, empathy, understanding, affection, and respect, give me a call and let’s get things started today.