Great Couples Counselling in Surrey, BC. Therapy to heal relationships.

Angela supports couples to develop positive new perspectives of their relationship/marriage. Angela has completed advanced (Level 3 training) in the Gottman Method and is committed to helping couples gain renewed hope and connection through the use of activities targeting problematic patterns within the relationship. Couples gain new communication skills, self-awareness & understanding of their partner, conflict resolution skills that foster increased trust, friendship, and intimacy! Bring peace to your relationship and call today!

How much do you know your partner? Most people think they know their partner 80%, but it is usually more like 20%. I can help you get that to 100%. I work with couples individually and together. Each person brings their own background into a relationship, so I work with each person on their own to help them sort out any issues and what they can work on and resolve in themselves. When something needs to be discussed and/or resolved, I help the discussion happen either with or without me in the room. Using our model, we have seen thousands of couples heal unresolved relational pain and build a partnership that is satisfying, fun, and lasting.

Relationships can be difficult to manage when there is a pile of problems. Couples therapy can improve communication and provide a safe environment to approach difficult topics. My practice is informed by The Gottman Method, the works of Dr. Brene Brown, and the Response Based Approach for those who are experiencing violence. I believe couples work can only be done when there is a space where all parties feel worthy and dignified.

In an environment of safety and respect, it is my hope that each person will develop a greater self-awareness and a sincere willingness to change. Couples will learn to listen to and understand the feelings and needs of their partner, as well as to communicate their own more effectively. Couples will identify the repetitive negative patterns in their relationship that create distress and alienate one from the other. Each person also will explore negative thought and behaviour patterns within themselves, and relevant past issues that may be contributing to their difficulties. It is my hope that couples will discover that they do have the capability to build a healthy relationship.

There are now known, research-proven behaviors that predict the success or split of a couple! And we also know that just teaching new skills to couples doesn't ensure the relationship will improve over time. What works best is helping couples learn how to shift out of states of being that keep them from using the skills they learn. If you are on a familiar track of fighting or fleeing, you may find it impossible to use helpful relationship skills unless you can shift your state of mind. It also help couples to get a broader and deeper perspective on what's going on in their relationship, so they can make decisions that work.

Couples therapy starts with becoming aware of patterns, how we persistently engage with each other even though patterns inevitably fail to bring us the results we want. The problem is that our patterns are so deeply embedded that we blindly accept them, not merely as beliefs but as the truth of who we are. Together we will look at your patterns as they are, not as fate but rather as choices, is a freeing experience that opens the door to change. . Through the therapeutic process you begin to discover that you need not be restricted by old habits and past experience; that you can actually choose how you want your relationship to grow and evolve using the tools I provide. I am here for you!

Intimate relationships are not easy. To have a fulfilling relationship, it takes the work of two people to build and sustain a loving, caring & harmonious relationship. I can help you to understand that there will always be arguments, but the arguments don't need to destroy your marriage. Together we can work on ways to resolve the reasons why you fight and to learn to talk to each other in ways that can help you understand each other. You and your partner have your unique views, beliefs and values. These will need to be discussed so you can both go forward creating the relationship you want. My approach is to work with you in a sensible & practical way to help you get a meaningful outcome.

Individual therapy is complementary with couple therapy. Clients come in to get individual therapy and then feel the need to bring their partner/spouse to overcome obstacles that are causing stress. I work with both people to create unhealthy and equally respected environment in the home. Each household is different thereby each need of each person is different, I help clients address their needs with their partner. The clients work through worksheets, role playing, make lists and do other exercises that encouraging positive change and healthy communication skills.

Real intimacy is being vulnerable with your partner and communicating with honesty and openness. Most couples strive for this level of intimacy, but many worry about being hurt or getting into an argument. When we feel like we are being attacked, we put up barriers and become defensive. Intimacy becomes harder and harder to achieve. But, when we do not feel like we have to protect ourselves, it becomes easy to communicate and get intimacy back. Using Lisa's ground breaking techniques, we let go of the need to protect and defend ourselves. Communication becomes easy and intimacy flourishes. When you are ready to make real change, contact Lisa and improve your relationships.

Do you lie in bed looking at the ceiling thinking, "I just can't do this another day"? Are you seeking for ways out? Thinking of alternate life situations? Is looking at porn become a replacement for sex with your spouse? What about romance novels, are you stuck in a world of non-reality, wishing that prince charming would make his acquaintance, and do it fast! Do you hate the way you have to wean through his dirty socks to get to the bed...or deal with her city of bottles on your bathroom vanity counter? Have you breached your marriage vows with someone else, or sought the unhealthy friendship of someone from the opposite sex online or at the office? It is time to take the love back.

I have been in practise for a long time and much of my training and experience is in couples counselling. It is a privilege and opportunity to work with couples and more often than not we see successful outcomes. There is never a more satisfying feeling than seeing couples making important decisions for their future while keeping a priority of each person's own emotional well being!

Even with someone you adore, relationships require communication, compromise, kindness and flexibility. Bringing two people together who have grown up in different families, with different patterns of feeling, thinking and acting, creates challenges. Learning how to ask for what you want, resolve what feels stuck and be kind and respectful to each other is not something we are born with. As an objective person I can provide a new perspective to what feels like the same problem that keeps repeating. I will help you identify the patterns preventing your from enjoying each other to the fullest and learn new ways to enjoy safety, love and satisfaction together.

Couples counselling focuses on developing strong communication skills, conflict resolution techniques, forgiveness, and effective dialogue. Many couples experience frustration at some point in their relationship where they feel they are not heard, valued or even loved any more. A toxic cycle of blaming, fighting and pulling away begins to form, creating distance and fatigue. For others an affair has shaken the very core of the safety and love they once felt in their relationship. It can be an agonizing and terrifying discovery for the partner who has been betrayed, and strong feelings of guilt, shame and a lack of understanding to how it even happened for the offending partner. Whether you are looking for a tune up to build back the excitement and...(view profile to read more)