Family Counselling Services in Fort Langley, BC.

Working with families is complex, yet an essential part of building a healthy foundation for all family members. Using a Family Systems's approach to therapy helps members of a family understand that all people in the family affect the quality of the relationships within the family unit. Families are like a mobile, as one part moves, all the other parts are affected to some degree. Using the concepts of the Drama Triangle is valuable in helping family members understand the role he/she/they typically plays when interacting with others. Emeshment and triangulation are explored. One person is not viewed as the scapegoat but rather seen as one spoke in the "family wheel" of a larger system.

I provide services that work towards establishing a strong foundation of mental wellness for all members of the family. Among generations within a diverse multicultural society in Canada, it is hard to find common ground when there are conflicts in the family. I offer an empathetic approach to find the most essential needs for each other. Everyone can use a little support sometimes. I provide private sessions with parents only and separate sessions for children only. And last session, all family members gather together for opening up. The purpose is to understand each other’s thoughts and actions. I can help families that are going through challenging times.

The first step in my family therapy is figure out what has changed in the dynamics of the family. There are many reasons that cause a family to become unbalanced. There are times that roles may need to change and change in itself can be very difficult for many people. It may be that separate sessions are held so that this one person can learn to communicate their thoughts and feelings to the rest of the family. The goal is to always have the family work together to learn to become a cohesive and authentic unit.

Family therapy is important for those that are having a hard time connecting with someone in your family(partner, sibling, parent, child) and it can be quiet distressful. It also is important that if you are alone working yourself and others family members have similar therapeutic goals. My treatment plans involves understanding the belief system of the unity, and how people within that system communicate and relate to one another. We peel the onions together, and bring on healing to create unity and uniformity within the family system.

In family therapy everyone has a voice. Going around the circle in the family and hearing everyone's opinion and thoughts about the situation that the family is dealing with is how healing occurs. Families are viewed as a system, what one family member does or does not do impacts the whole family. Understanding this is how family members help heal each other.

Families are very intricate systems. Like other systems, families unconsciously like to maintain the status quo and keep the existing patterns. This is the primary reason why many families remain stuck in dysfunctional patterns for years. My goal is to help families recognize the patter they are stuck in, the role each person plays in the pattern, and how they can change that role.

In family therapy I focus on creating secure emotional bonds. I help family members identify and express their emotions, fostering understanding and empathy. By exploring negative interaction patterns and underlying emotions, I guide families to reconnect and strengthen their relationships. My goal is to transform negative cycles into positive, supportive interactions, enhancing emotional connection and resolving conflicts. This approach helps families build a foundation of trust and security, promoting healthier, more resilient relationships.

When family relationships become strained, it can leave everyone involved feeling deeply misunderstood, frustrated, or completely exhausted. Rather than pointing fingers or figuring out who is to blame, I provide a warm, neutral, and safe space where your family can untangle these difficult dynamics together. We will look at the hidden patterns, cultural expectations, and communication blocks that might be causing friction between you and your loved ones. By combining compassionate modern counseling with simple mindfulness tools, I help family members safely drop their defenses, listen to one another with fresh eyes, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild a true sense of emotional closeness.

I work closely with all family members within an empathetic and confidential environment, to help facilitate more effective communication amongst each individual. My goal in therapy is to ensure that every family member feels valued, respected and listened to, without reservation or fear of judgment. Families and myself will towards what they hope to achieve out of counselling, and I can help provide them with strategies to help them achieve a more cohesive and collaborative family unit.

My hope for clients who are experiencing challenges in their family relationships is that they will create greater understanding and acceptance of one another. Clients will build healthy communication skills that will assist them in resolving current issues, as well as preventing future conflicts from occurring. It is my hope that each family member will develop a willingness to accept the uniqueness of the other members in the family, as well as a willingness to listen and understand one another. Through this process of learning how to come together with openness, each person will be affirmed that he/she matters and has a voice in the family.

Can some one PLEASE give me an example or definition of a DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY? I think it might look like the families we've all grown up in. What does your family of origin look like? How does that affect how you function in your family today? Lets look together at ways of communicating, listening, and loving each other. "But your families different you say?" I welcome the challenge. Let's all put on gloves and high rubber boots and jump into the muck together - shall we? Lets face it, families are WORK, real WORK!! It is better to work smarter not harder. Let me share my tool box with you, and see if you would like to adapt to using some of these tools in your family dynamics.

Humans are social beings, we are wired to live and connect with other humans. The first humans we come into contact with are the families we grow up in. Using attachment theory, I work with clients to help understand where they came from and how this has shaped experiences with themselves, others, and how they see the world. Families are systems and it is important to view them in this way - whether I am working with one individual family member or multiple, I approach this work by continually understanding how one piece of the system affects the others.

Despite the best intentions of ourselves and our family members, we are often tangled in patterns of invalidation, rejection, frustration and blame. It can feel so messy that we operate in a constant state of fear and a crippling sense of unworthiness. In 2008 I started my counselling career as a family therapist. A combination of individual and joint sessions will take place to allow the space for all voices to be respectfully heard, while helping to identify bigger ‘systems’ patterns that keep you stuck in pain and finger-pointing. I will help to smooth out communication, make room for wants and needs and to heal the old wounds holding you back from having a healthier relationship.