Grief and Loss Counselling in Cranbrook, BC.

Grief and loss, while universal aspects of human experience, manifest themselves very differently depending upon the nature of the relationship with the person we have lost, the circumstances surrounding the loss, and our own stage in development. Grief often involves not only loss due to death, but the also loss of identity that accompanies a chronic health condition, relationships ending, the transition to retirement, or the loss of a beloved pet. The transition through grief involves a highly individual process of finding closure, bringing a sense of meaning to the loss, and re-investing in life following the loss.

When losing someone or something important to us, it can take lots time to adjust and learn to live our life without that person, thing or way of life. Either it is the death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, loss of a pet, loss of a job or important possessions, change to your way of life, grieving is a normal response to a life event and bottling it up can create damage or even harm to a person. It can take time to adjust and accept to learn to live life without that person, thing or way of life. When it gets too challenging or overwhelming, or if it gets in a way of living a healthy life, sometimes turning to professional support can help getting through this challenging event.

If you have lost someone, I offer a compassionate and supportive space to explore your unique experience of loss. Listening carefully to your story, there's an opportunity to identify and honour your feelings, your memories and your relationship. Through gentle conversation and questions, there's a chance to rewrite your grief story, discover strengths, attend to resilience and find meaning amidst your pain. You can begin to acknowledge what you've been through while promoting healing, growth, a continued bond with the one who has passed and learning to live with loss

While grief and transition are a natural part of life, we are still often overwhelmed by sadness, anger and all the confusing emotions that come with loss. There is no right or wrong way to grieve—just your body and mind doing what it can to process the pain of major life change and the loss of how things were. Working with me means compassionate care that helps you to approach and feel your feelings in a safe way, taking things one step at a time. I promise you that all grief can be transformed into a gentle honouring of who or what was lost. I would be happy to team up with you in your journey towards peace and acceptance.

Grief can leave you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally numb, stuck in regret, or disconnected from yourself and others. In our work together, we'll create space to gently explore the different parts of you that may be carrying sadness, anger, guilt, fear, or longing while also paying attention to how grief is held in your body. Using a blend of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and somatic approaches, therapy can help you process loss at your own pace, reconnect with yourself, cultivate self-compassion, and find a way to move forward while continuing to honour what matters most to you.

Grief is a natural and complex emotional response to loss, typically associated with the death of a loved one. However, grief can also stem from a variety of other losses, such as the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or even the loss of a cherished pet. Dealing with grief can be an intensely challenging experience, often affecting various aspects of a person's life, including their mental, emotional, and physical well-being. In such times of profound sorrow, therapy emerges as a crucial tool for navigating the intricate web of emotions, allowing individuals to process their feelings and find a path towards healing.

Grief and loss can be caused by many different events in life and we all respond to our feelings of grief and loss differently. Grief and loss can include: Death of a loved one, separation or divorce, loss of a relationship, loss of a job, empty nest transitions, retirement, job relocation or loss of a pet, to name a few. Bettina will compassionately help you through this difficult time of grief and loss, so you are able to move through the difficult stages with more support, compassion and understanding of yourself.

In grief and loss counseling, I create a flexible space that adapts to your needs. Whether you need patient listening or feel stuck and need guidance through open-ended questions, I meet you where you are. I'm genuinely curious about understanding you as a whole person and your unique loss—there's no shallow or rushed approach here, no platitudes or quick fixes. Something resourceful I offer is a therapeutic goodbye letter adapted from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's work, helping you express complex, contradictory emotions—what you regret and don't regret, miss and don't miss. What makes this different is it honors the fullness of ambivalent feelings. Clients report feeling truly heard, not judged or rushed, as they move forward in their own time.