Anger Management and Counseling in Las Flores, CA.

Anger is a normal emotion. Mild forms of anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to criticism, threat or frustration we may become angry - and usually this is a healthy response. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Work with me and we will learn new ways to handle the way you express your anger. Together we will work with your judgment of life events so you will express yourself in a more reasonable way.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is a very powerful emotion that can stem from feelings of frustration, hurt, annoyance, or disappointment. It is a normal human emotion that can range from slight irritation to strong rage. Anger can be harmful or helpful, depending upon how it is expressed. Knowing how to recognize and express anger in appropriate ways can help people to reach goals, handle emergencies, and solve problems. However, problems can occur if people fail to recognize and understand their anger.

Anger when used appropriately can be a useful tool to give us the aggressive energy we need to take action when we are feeling helpless or victimized. Unfortunately, it is often misused and becomes abusive, creating whole new problems for relationships and careers. I work with clients to first learn to control their emotional expressions, define the underlying feelings creating the hostility, and learn new skills to better utilize their feelings to resolve conflict in more adult ways.

You do not have to be a victim of your anger and anger responses. Often we learn from caregivers how to handle our hurt and anger. Other times, anger can be a symptom of undiagnosed depression. Learning to respond in a way you can feel proud of is something that is not only possible, but if you are motivated, can change easily. After determining the root of your anger, we can work together to change the behaviors and after effects of your rage.

Anger is a normal emotion that we all feel, however if your anger is interfering with you relationships at home or at work it is important to get help. Destructive anger is often a mask for feeling of helplessness, poor self image, and depression that can be traced back to our earliest relationships. I will help you to identify the roots of your anger and take specific steps to handling situations differently. You can learn to talk about your feelings and needs without attacking. You can learn to hear disagreement from your partner or co-workers without feeling defensive. I have worked with anger issues all my professional life and I can help.

There is nothing wrong with the emotion of anger. We all get angry at times. However, it is critical to know how to express your anger in heathy ways. If you have lossed a relationship or been in legal trouble due to your anger, then you are in serious need of anger management counseling. Others may simply feel the need to get better control of their anger. In either case, anger is typically an emotion that is a cover up to other more vulnerable types of emotions and frustrations over unmet needs. When anger is out of control, you need new ways to express this anger that leads to peaceful outcomes. Please call today to learn step-by-step, how to choose a new path and outlet for your anger.

Using tools for anger issues accelerates your capacity to truly heal, when just saying no or talking to yourself isn't enough! And let's face it, good advice doesn't work with anger! Tools help you use the healthier, highest-functioning part of your personality to manage your moods and reactions. Anger is often a result of triggered feelings that have been buried and surface in your adult life as explosive reactions. Yes there are tools to use to manage these triggered reactions. Talk therapy and good advice is not enough!

Realizing that anger is a secondary emotion, we are able to delve deeper to assess for the primary emotion prior to anger. Many times the root emotions are fear, pain, or hurt. In acknowledging what the root emotion to anger is, it gives us the freedom to see our part in it so that we can make different choices, which comes from a place of power vs. victimhood.

Anger is a normal part of day to day life. It is hard, if not impossible, to avoid the irritating people and situations that make us angry. While you can not change them, you can learn to control your reactions to upsetting circumstances. Let me help to reduce the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that your anger causes. Let's regain control of your life!

We offer Anger Management classes to both court ordered and volunteer clients. Our program is 52 weeks of new material each week. It is evidence based and helps facilitate change if the client chooses to apply the principles taught. The work book and tools used in class are effective in helping clients find an alternative way of communicating their feelings or anger, frustration and even hurt. By implementing the tools taught, many clients have seen dramatic change in their relationships.

Whether your anger is towards friends, family, or co-workers, there are successful ways to control this emotion. You no longer have to feel bottled up or explode at the wrong time. No two people have the same ways of reacting to anger, so you will get a custom made plan that works specifically for you. Call us now and see for yourself how effective our counseling can be.

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.