Anger Management and Counseling in Las Flores, CA.

Realizing that anger is a secondary emotion, we are able to delve deeper to assess for the primary emotion prior to anger. Many times the root emotions are fear, pain, or hurt. In acknowledging what the root emotion to anger is, it gives us the freedom to see our part in it so that we can make different choices, which comes from a place of power vs. victimhood.

Anger when used appropriately can be a useful tool to give us the aggressive energy we need to take action when we are feeling helpless or victimized. Unfortunately, it is often misused and becomes abusive, creating whole new problems for relationships and careers. I work with clients to first learn to control their emotional expressions, define the underlying feelings creating the hostility, and learn new skills to better utilize their feelings to resolve conflict in more adult ways.

I have found that formal anger management classes provide excellent tools, but that most of those tools go out the window when emotionally provoking events occur. I help people work out the underlying feelings that trigger anger that has been out of control. But I also help people use their anger effectively. Many persons are angry and are not aware of it and they could effectively utilize their anger towards constructive ends. Anger is merely a signal that something is wrong, etc. Thus, the anger is not the problem, it is what you do with it. I will help you "manage" your signals of anger in more effective ways through each phase of the process.

You do not have to be a victim of your anger and anger responses. Often we learn from caregivers how to handle our hurt and anger. Other times, anger can be a symptom of undiagnosed depression. Learning to respond in a way you can feel proud of is something that is not only possible, but if you are motivated, can change easily. After determining the root of your anger, we can work together to change the behaviors and after effects of your rage.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

While anger is a healthy emotion, it can be unleashed in a very unhealthy manner. Learning tools for effective expression and communication can allow your anger to be heard and understood. Without good communication skills and methods of coping, it often feels as though one is up a creek without a paddle. Good intentions can be hijacked. I will increase your awareness and understanding of the triggers and physical cues that are fueling your anger thus allowing you to make different choices. Together, we will uncover distorted patterns of thinking and reacting, learn new techniques of responding and restore your confidence and personal dignity.

We offer Anger Management classes to both court ordered and volunteer clients. Our program is 52 weeks of new material each week. It is evidence based and helps facilitate change if the client chooses to apply the principles taught. The work book and tools used in class are effective in helping clients find an alternative way of communicating their feelings or anger, frustration and even hurt. By implementing the tools taught, many clients have seen dramatic change in their relationships.

Anger is a problem when it is too intense, frequent, lasts too long, or impacts relationships at work or home. Drawing from anger research, an understanding of emotions, and years of working with court-referred angry people, we've created a respectful and effective series of anger management courses designed to help clients understand the roots of their anger. Clients will identify toxic and useful forms of anger, disrupt long-established patterns of escalation, deal with wounds and resentments from the past, replace aggressiveness with assertiveness, overcome feelings of shame, and gain confidence in newly acquired skills that work. Change is possible!

Dr. Laura Adams is a licensed MFT and Psychoanalyst in South Orange County with private practices in Mission Viejo and Newport Beach CA. Dr. Adams specializes in anger issues and anger management and uses a psychodynamic approach to help the individual get in touch with underlying experience that may be working beneath the surface. For more information on Dr. Adams please go to www.SouthOCTherapist.com and call for an appointment at (949) 244-1992.

Anger is a normal part of day to day life. It is hard, if not impossible, to avoid the irritating people and situations that make us angry. While you can not change them, you can learn to control your reactions to upsetting circumstances. Let me help to reduce the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that your anger causes. Let's regain control of your life!

Anger is a normal emotion. Mild forms of anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to criticism, threat or frustration we may become angry - and usually this is a healthy response. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Work with me and we will learn new ways to handle the way you express your anger. Together we will work with your judgment of life events so you will express yourself in a more reasonable way.

Through my numerous years of experience with working clients with anger issues, the core element is hurt and and disappointment. Some people have difficulty saying that they are hurt and instead lash oout or react in unhealthy behaviors. I have worked with clients that have either damaged their relationships and or hurt themselves in the process. Training and implementing instruction to clients in order to manage anger through court appointed measures or simply clients who desire a change in thought and behavior can be achieved simply by coaching with cognitive behavioral therapy.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.