Anger Management and Counseling in Midway City, CA.

Through my numerous years of experience with working clients with anger issues, the core element is hurt and and disappointment. Some people have difficulty saying that they are hurt and instead lash oout or react in unhealthy behaviors. I have worked with clients that have either damaged their relationships and or hurt themselves in the process. Training and implementing instruction to clients in order to manage anger through court appointed measures or simply clients who desire a change in thought and behavior can be achieved simply by coaching with cognitive behavioral therapy.

You do not have to be a victim of your anger and anger responses. Often we learn from caregivers how to handle our hurt and anger. Other times, anger can be a symptom of undiagnosed depression. Learning to respond in a way you can feel proud of is something that is not only possible, but if you are motivated, can change easily. After determining the root of your anger, we can work together to change the behaviors and after effects of your rage.

Often our relationship with anger can transform from 'management' to recovery, when we allow ourselves to work through the themes that generated the anger in the first place. Anger keeps us stuck and directs too much of our energy in a non-productive manner. I can help you work it through so your energy can flow in a more profitable direction. An internal shift of this type and magnitude can represent the difference between getting through life with anger and resentment and fully enjoying your life.

Being angry is part of being alive! The challenge is directing your anger in productive and assertive ways, rather than in a reactive or self-destructive manner. Get help from an experienced Psychologist and learn how to express yourself in healthy ways without withdrawing or damaging your most important relationships. Please visit my website at www.orange.county.counseling-psychologist.com

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.

Anger is a normal emotion. Mild forms of anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to criticism, threat or frustration we may become angry - and usually this is a healthy response. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Work with me and we will learn new ways to handle the way you express your anger. Together we will work with your judgment of life events so you will express yourself in a more reasonable way.

Realizing that anger is a secondary emotion, we are able to delve deeper to assess for the primary emotion prior to anger. Many times the root emotions are fear, pain, or hurt. In acknowledging what the root emotion to anger is, it gives us the freedom to see our part in it so that we can make different choices, which comes from a place of power vs. victimhood.

Anger when used appropriately can be a useful tool to give us the aggressive energy we need to take action when we are feeling helpless or victimized. Unfortunately, it is often misused and becomes abusive, creating whole new problems for relationships and careers. I work with clients to first learn to control their emotional expressions, define the underlying feelings creating the hostility, and learn new skills to better utilize their feelings to resolve conflict in more adult ways.

We provide therapy to treat anger management. Anger is a psychological defense mechanism to feeling threatened either emotionally or physically. We teach our clients how to identify their own feelings, so they are better able to communicate the offensive behavior or words which they heard. Then we teach the client how to respectfully express themselves.

Anger is a feeling that we all have experienced. However, when we have a difficult time controlling angry outbursts or when we become physically or emotionally abusive, we need to get help. Uncontrolled anger can push the people we love away, and ultimately lead to painful feelings of guilt and/or shame. Let us look at what has happened in your early relationships, that has contributed to your inability to control your anger and find other, more healthy ways for you to manage.

Activating the fight-flight system is the single most challenging factor in managing anger, stress, & interpersonal conflict. When anger stems from childhood trauma, EMDR may be useful. When it originates from an over-active limbic system (e.g, in ADD), neurofeedback and/or medication may be indicated. Regardless of the source, some crucial elements are: learning an effective relaxation/self-soothing method, knowing how to check one's pulse so that time-out can be taken to use the self-soothing tools to calm down when elevating (rather than after full escalation), and employing a cardio exercise program. A good Mindfulness practice can be beneficial as well for those who are so inclined.

There is nothing wrong with the emotion of anger. We all get angry at times. However, it is critical to know how to express your anger in heathy ways. If you have lossed a relationship or been in legal trouble due to your anger, then you are in serious need of anger management counseling. Others may simply feel the need to get better control of their anger. In either case, anger is typically an emotion that is a cover up to other more vulnerable types of emotions and frustrations over unmet needs. When anger is out of control, you need new ways to express this anger that leads to peaceful outcomes. Please call today to learn step-by-step, how to choose a new path and outlet for your anger.

Anger is a healthy expression of emotion. When anger and rage become the dominating emotion that rules our actions, a potentially serious problem exists. When this occurs we feel out of control, even frightened by the intensity of feeling. Scared by life altering actions and repercussions. We become lost and confused. We know this is not me but yet it is. This mystery is solvable. Sometimes when negative experiences happen we hide and bury them, We do this so well we forget why the anger is there. Over the years these experiences multiply, fester and grow. A time bomb waiting to be triggered. We can help you unearth the issues, defuse and help you to dismantle the bomb. Call! We can help.