Anger Management and Counseling in Santa Fe Springs, CA.

I have worked with many clients in understanding the root to their anger, triggers, and how to manage their anger in different situations. In most cases, I don't think anger is an isolated feeling. I view it as a result of connecting to something deeper. Which could be an unresolved pain, loss, repression of emotions, etc. I have helped clients to understand what is causing them to be angry and to work through to find the words of their experiences. I have also helped clients to learn how to cope with these feelings and to explore alternatives to express their feelings in ways that helps the client to feel good about themselves.

Anger is a kind of energy, a fuel that can be used for the benefit of yourself and others. But sometimes it can be too much of a good thing. It can morph into something destructive. Excessive anger can also be a mask for feelings of pain, helplessness and being out of control. We would explore what's going on, and I would offer you tools to help bring your anger under control.

When I ask a child if anger is bad, their immediate answer is "yes". When I tell them it isn't bad, they look puzzled and horrified. I explain to them that it's what we do when we are angry that can make it bad or okay. I draw concepts from the book A Volcano in My Tummy to point out the helpful terms "clean" and "dirty" anger, i.e. punching a ball verses punching a teacher. I approach adults with the same concepts only on a more advanced level of course. God created us with a diverse set of emotions that signal warnings to us at times. Anger is one of those necessary emotions, but it does need to be released in healthy ways. I help clients explore acceptable ways to express it.

Do you feel angry all the time? Do your levels of frustration interfere with your work and personal relationships? Do you feel like you might explode? You do not have to go through this alone. Together, we will work to improve your frustration tolerance and to reclaim your life from your anger. By working from an evidence-based approach, we will help you to cope.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger comes from someplace deep inside. I work not only at helping the person control their anger but the cause so it can permentely be deleated. Each person is uniquely different and we will work together to understand how to deal with its root causes. Most clients can learn in a couple sessions what to do in the moment to get anger under control. The rest takes longer

We can retrain ourselves react differently to challenging situations that spawn angry reactions. With a little time and practice, we can learn to regulate our distress by tuning into the cues when we are on overload. Bringing mindfulness to our triggers and our reactions, while slowing down our thoughts, can give us more choice in how we react. Mindfulness can teach us to be the observer to our own inner dialogue and can make room for little shifts that make gradual differences. I work from a somatic place first, giving attention to the indicators of distress. Each person manifests distress differently. Does your face get hot? Does your throat feel tight? We will begin here.

Anger is a normal human emotion. When expressed appropriately anger can be both adaptive and helpful. However, when anger is expressed with inappropriate frequency or intensity or without appropriate controls it can become very destructive to one's relationships or one's self. When this happens it may be very helpful to consult a therapist with skill in dealing with anger management problems. Together we can identify the triggers to anger arousal. We can identify anger maintaining patterns of thought and learn proven methods for stress reduction and respectful assertiveness. You can learn to recognize and use your angry emotions to enhance and deepen your most meaning relationships.

Anger is a problem when it is too intense, frequent, lasts too long, or impacts relationships at work or home. Drawing from anger research, an understanding of emotions, and years of working with court-referred angry people, we've created a respectful and effective series of anger management courses designed to help clients understand the roots of their anger. Clients will identify toxic and useful forms of anger, disrupt long-established patterns of escalation, deal with wounds and resentments from the past, replace aggressiveness with assertiveness, overcome feelings of shame, and gain confidence in newly acquired skills that work. Change is possible!

Anger is a legitimate emotion in response to injury or for self-defense. But if survival defenses are out of conscious control, it is then considered lack of impulse control. Your anger by passes the rational part of your brain and you react instantly without thinking or choosing how to react. In order to interrupt that automatic reaction, you must slow it down. Do that by taking deep breaths until you have calmed down and are able to make a rational decision of how to react.

Your anger turned towards yourself creates depression, but your anger towards others creates resentment. Do you find yourself vacillating between feeling depressed and resentful towards yourself or others in your life? Learning how to deal with your anger is the first step to get you out of that cycle. Counseling along with Mindfulness Meditation are great tools to help you manage anger and find more peace.

Feeling out of control can be extremely distressing, destructive, and can have a lasting impact on your relationships with others. Learning how to manage your emotions and effectively deal with anger is an important goal, and one that can be accomplished through active participation in therapy. The goals is for our clients to leave therapy with the skills and confidence that they can manage the challenges that come with everyday life. Learning such skills will directly help with increasing the quality of your relationships and decrease the negative impact of your anger in areas such as work, school, and family difficulties. It can also potentially help avoid any negative legal outcomes.