Anger Management and Counseling in Santa Fe Springs, CA.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is a kind of energy, a fuel that can be used for the benefit of yourself and others. But sometimes it can be too much of a good thing. It can morph into something destructive. Excessive anger can also be a mask for feelings of pain, helplessness and being out of control. We would explore what's going on, and I would offer you tools to help bring your anger under control.

Most people who have difficulties controling their anger attempt to suppress the anger by various means, which often leads to future eruptions. A more effect approach is to explore the causes of the anger by discussing your feelings with an objective psychologist. Ironically, anger control is gained not through "control of anger" but through feeling and understanding the anger.

When I ask a child if anger is bad, their immediate answer is "yes". When I tell them it isn't bad, they look puzzled and horrified. I explain to them that it's what we do when we are angry that can make it bad or okay. I draw concepts from the book A Volcano in My Tummy to point out the helpful terms "clean" and "dirty" anger, i.e. punching a ball verses punching a teacher. I approach adults with the same concepts only on a more advanced level of course. God created us with a diverse set of emotions that signal warnings to us at times. Anger is one of those necessary emotions, but it does need to be released in healthy ways. I help clients explore acceptable ways to express it.

Through my numerous years of experience with working clients with anger issues, the core element is hurt and and disappointment. Some people have difficulty saying that they are hurt and instead lash oout or react in unhealthy behaviors. I have worked with clients that have either damaged their relationships and or hurt themselves in the process. Training and implementing instruction to clients in order to manage anger through court appointed measures or simply clients who desire a change in thought and behavior can be achieved simply by coaching with cognitive behavioral therapy.

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

Anger is not wrong. How we hurt others or ourselves in anger is damaging. I work with clients to release their anger and frustration in healthy ways prior to interacting with anyone. We then work on how to release tension and understand their feelings so that when they discuss challenges they do not re-ignite and exacerbate the sitaution. We explore the cycle of anger and violence and create saftey measures so this cycle is altered. Self-responsibility is critical. We work on body relaxation, visualization, and breath work to help the client understand their body and utilize it more effectively.

We provide therapy to treat anger management. Anger is a psychological defense mechanism to feeling threatened either emotionally or physically. We teach our clients how to identify their own feelings, so they are better able to communicate the offensive behavior or words which they heard. Then we teach the client how to respectfully express themselves.

Anger does not define you. I help my client bring their anger under control, but I never forget that they are a PERSON FIRST. I treat each of my client with respect and dignity. I believe only when people feel truly cared for that they can start to transcend the negative patterns they are stuck in. Finding the right person to help you is a lot to do with chemistry. Please call me at (949) 288-3123 if you have any questions at all. I want your therapy journey to be as successful as possible.

Anger is a normal human emotion. When expressed appropriately anger can be both adaptive and helpful. However, when anger is expressed with inappropriate frequency or intensity or without appropriate controls it can become very destructive to one's relationships or one's self. When this happens it may be very helpful to consult a therapist with skill in dealing with anger management problems. Together we can identify the triggers to anger arousal. We can identify anger maintaining patterns of thought and learn proven methods for stress reduction and respectful assertiveness. You can learn to recognize and use your angry emotions to enhance and deepen your most meaning relationships.

Anger comes in many forms. Some of us default to frequent anger towards others, which can damage meaningful relationships and work opportunities. We can also direct anger inward towards ourselves in the form of recurrent self-criticism, negative judgment, and self-destructive behaviors. Anger is an important and healthy emotion that can bring attention to other more difficult underlying emotions and unmet needs. Such as feeling ashamed, sad, invalidated, or lonely. My approach to helping others more effectively manage anger is to better identify and understand emotions in general. Then learn to respond to difficult experiences with intentional, skillful action vs. emotional reactivity.

Anger can be an ally and not a detriment. Individuals need to learn how they create and contribute to their feelings of anger and how to control the expressions of anger so it benefits them rather than hurts them. When a hose is leaking, you might need to turn off the power from the connection to the house, or you may need to relieve the pressure by adjusting the nozzle. Similarly, we all need to learn how we create excessive anger -- AND we need to learn how to control the expression of that anger.

We frequently offer courses on Anger Management and have several therapists that specialize in this area. Helping people struggling with anger requires a specialized approach to treatment so make sure you are talking to a therapist that specializes in this area if you are in need of help. Call us and our intake coordinator will have one of our anger management specialists give you a call.