Great Couples Counseling in Sacramento, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Strong and loving partnerships require commitment, respect, honesty, and a willingness to work as a team. I can teach you new ways to communicate with your partner that will allow you to resolve the recurring stressors in your relationship, handle disagreements with love and respect, and bring you to peaceful resolution. I also specialize in sexual issues and can help you bring a renewed and revitalized intimacy to your relationship.

It can happen to any of us...everyday stressors we bring home to get taken out on the wrong person - - the one person who means more to us than anything. It leaves you both feeling awful. Maybe you are not getting enough attention, conversation, physical intimacy. The focus of relationship counseling is to change the negative path to a positive one: learn to listen to each other, support each others needs and goals, be willing to compromise, make family and relationship decisions together, stop keeping score, reconnect, relax, and enjoy each other If you reading this, you have already begun to move forward. Please call me so I can help you work through your issues and reconnect.

In Couple's therapy your relationship is our focus. I work from an Attachment perspective to help you and your partner develop better communication skills, trust, and a secure bond with one another so that you can get your needs met. I am comfortable working with a wide range of couple's experiences, including: conflict, communication problems, affairs, sex life or sexuality, parenting, separation or divorce. This is not an exhaustive list, but some examples.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

Couples therapy often triggers roadblocks in communication. In being shaped by prior relationships, we create various meaning from our experiences as well as receiving and giving instructions on how to live. When we form new relationships of any kind, this gets challenged; coming together and finding a path forward that celebrates all involved is the key to success. My specialty is interracial couples; regardless of if you both come from different backgrounds, the goal is to create shared meaning that is co-constructed. I can help with this process.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

The “mechanics” of healthy healing relationships is often easier said than done. We all need a valuing mirror to validate our core experience, and this is where the healing work of therapy comes in. I emphasize a valuing approach to each person’s experience as a foundation for assisting couples in strengthening the “mechanics” of what we know facilitates healthy satisfying relationships. I am repeatedly impressed to the power of Compassion for supercharging the many brilliant tools made available to us by the likes of Harville Hendrix, John Gottman to get relationships back on track to promote the healing and growth are meant to fulfill in our personal and interpersonal relationships.

In my work with couples I focus on helping the couple create a safe and secure connection to one another. The couple will become aware of: 1. The pattern of communication between them that disrupts connection. 2. The underlying often vulnerable feelings that are not expressed. 3. What it is that triggers each person's fear, anger or hurt. 4. Learn patterns of communication that create a safe and secure connection. Conflict will always be a part of relationships. What is key to creating a nurturing safe connection with one another is how we handle these conflicts when they occur.

When working with couples, I take a very attachment based approach. We all seek to feel loved, supported, and secure in our relationships. Couples develop problems when something happens to damage this or threatens to damage this. Often times couples get into negative cycles or have been hurt by each other in the past and so come to expect to be hurt by one another. When working with couples it is my job to help each individual express their underlying emotions, fears, and insecurities, while also helping to grow empathy for one another. This ultimately helps couples to understand how their negative interactions are mostly the result of fear of getting hurt or abandoned.

Every relationship is unique and has different challenges. I treat the relationship as the client and work towards making that "client" healthy and able to thrive. I work with all types of couples including trans* couples and same sex couples. Working to make the relationship healthy, often requires work for each member of the relationship as each brings a lot to the relationship. A good relationship can be the rock when you hit hard times and be the inspiration to build a wonderful future. Call now to start strengthening your relationship!

I use a combination of tried and true couples communication techniques to help couples create and build effective communication into their relationship. I also spend time on exploring sexual compatability and communication, when the couple wants their sexual lintimacy enhanced. IF there is lack of desire or an imbalance of desires, we address the roots of this.With couples who come for pre-marital counseling, we focus on communication skills and on common needs and wants the couple have for their impending marriage and family unit. We also look at any red flags that are showing up in the relationship.