Grief and Loss Counseling in Sacramento, CA.

I tell my clients that everyone grieves in their own, unique way, and that there is no "right way" to grieve. Sooner or later, we all face major losses of loved ones, and the grief involved can feel devastating. I provide loving support and help my clients connect with grief and loss support groups and other supports. We explore what the loss means for my client and ways to honor the memories of the loved one. We also explore and process unfinished, incomplete, or difficult losses that involve anger, shame, resentment, and deep disappointment.

As someone who has dealt with grief and loss in my own life, I am able to hold space for the many different experiences and emotions that grief can express itself as. Sometimes we just need someone to witness our experience. In our culture, we rush grief. It can be a slow process, and I respect that. Additionally, I often use art therapy in grief work as it helps us express what we cannot find the words for.

Grief and Loss are a part of life, but that does not make it any easier to get through it. We experience Grief and Loss in many different ways and we each go through the experience at our own unique pace. Let me help you find your way through the grief. We can work through it together. Many people do not realize how often we actually deal with grief and loss issues. From grieving the loss of a dream to grieving the loss of someone close to you, we experience it daily. Let us work together to find a healthy way to work through your grief and loss.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Most of us are familiar with Elizabeth Kubler Ross' model of grief with the 5 stages. While this is helpful information, this model does not fit everyone. I practice from the Winslade and Hedtke model of grief which practices "Remembering". I find that using this model or this model in conjunction with the 5 stage grief model is helpful to helping clients explore loss and grief in finding a pathway forward that honors their own experiences.

Although grief is an inevitable experience in life, coping with loss can be immobilizing. Because each individual is unique, finding the support you need to move through to a place of peace and acceptance is vital. I work with clients to help them process the pain of loss by addressing the physical, emotional, and spiritual issues that may be keeping them from resolving their pain and moving forward to a place of healing and acceptance. We work together to build a structure that both motivates and enables the healing process to begin and ultimately gives them the opportunity to overcome and triumph over grief.

Grief and Loss are some of the most real and difficult emotions and feelings to deal with and to cope and live with. Loss of a beloved family relationship, dear friend, mentor, as well as a beloved pet can cause a shock and vast loss that is seemingly impossible to overcome. Grief and loss therapy is very important to me and has been a major part of my decades of counseling. Grief and loss therapy is not a band aid to the pain. It is a process for working to create closure and a continued internal relationship which can still sustain life after loss. When relationships are important, grief and loss are a process of dealing with the depths of love and attachment which are key to being human.

Grief and loss comes in many shapes and forms and can take a toll on various aspects of your life. Processing grief and loss takes time and is different for everyone but doesn’t have to be done alone. I will offer support, empathy, and a safe space for you to process your emotions openly. Together we will get through this difficult time in your life. You are not alone.

Grief is a natural response to loss. You may associate it with the death of a loved one- and that type of loss does often cause the most intense emotions. But any loss can cause grief, including: a relationship breakup, loss of health, losing a job, loss of financial stability, a miscarriage, death of a pet, loss of safety after trauma, a loved one's serious illness Please note that there is no "normal" timetable for grieving. As an experienced therapist, I can help you work through your intense emotions and overcome obstacles to your grieving.

I believe we are meant to love. But as loving human beings, the loss of important people in our lives is one of our most difficult challenges. Let me help you move through your grief, staying gently with you as you mourn. Grief has it's own timeline, with healing occurring quietly and inconsistently. Over time and with support, you will begin to experience hope, and even joy again.