Grief and Loss Counseling in National City, CA.

Grief and loss is, unfortunately, a normal part of living. There is no single "correct" way to grieve: different cultures and even individuals from the same culture grieve differently. The only consistent feature is that grief takes time. The most effective thing anyone can do for someone grieving is to be there—to listen, to empathize, to walk along with the grief. There is no "fixing" grief. But counseling can help prevent normal grief from developing into major depression or other mental health conditions.

Grief and loss are a part of life and how we deal with it are our feelings around it is very important for internal relief. I help clients undue unwilled and unwanted unbearable aloneness. This can come from many different areas in our lives such as past or present trauma, loss of a relationship, death of a loved one, etc.. Helping clients move through the grief and loss process with support and care is a priority to me.

Everyone at one time or another experiences loss and goes through the grief process. What helps a person through this is to cognitively process the event. An excellent way to do this is through the EMDR technique. I have received training through the EMDR institute (Emdria) and can assist individuals through times of loss and help them through the grief process. EMDR is one of the most effective methods to help process the loss, allow the person to experience the wave of emotions and bring the feeling and belief of resolve and completion which will help the person move forward.

Your unresolved grief, whether from a death, divorce, or the many other types of loss is individual and unique. For over 20 years, I have been assisting survivors recover. Grief is a natural part of life; however, if your sadness, insomnia, anxiety, fears, avoidance and perhaps anger are overwhelming, my experience, understanding and specialty in treating anxiety disorders with cognitive behavioral and compassion-focused counseling will help you gain specific strategies to manage your painful symptoms and come out the other side. To move forward in your recovery, call me at 619-542-0536

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

There are many forms of loss that can significantly impact a person's life (i.e. losing a job, friendship, home, death of a loved one, giving up a destructive habit or addiction). The pain that accompanies grief and loss can be so overwhelming that it takes all of our will power just to get through the day. Depending on the nature of the loss, it can feel like purpose and passion for living are missing. I assist clients in a 3 step process which involves acceptance of the loss, finding meaning to the pain they are experiencing, and developing goals to help the client continue productively on their life journey.

Grief is a force that requires great care and self-compassion. No one grieves in the same way. Grief is not always linked to the death of a loved one. Grief and loss can happen because of a job loss, moving, death of a pet, completing college or a graduate degree program, or even loss of a career. We will practice ways of integrating the loss into your loss, so it isn't this consuming force. For many, the goal of grief counseling is to simply "learn how to live with it." We will practice ways of living with the loss in a way that honors yourself, your experience, and your future plans.

Grief can be a difficulty beast to manage, a beast which can surface at any moment without warning and often comes in waves. When I’ve been grieving I’ve felt like I was in an emotional pong ball. With the aid of tools like EMDR CBT and guided visualizations I can help you to heal and leave the pain, loss, and grief in the past while holding on to the happy memories. Additionally, I can provide tools, coping skills, and other resources to help you manage this particular issue.

Grief and loss is a part of so much more than many recognize in every day life. Most folks are familiar with the Kubler-Ross stages, but processing grief is much more than those five stages. There are tasks of mourning that can be explored and expanded with support in therapy. There are secondary losses as a result of an initial loss. Grief impacts how open we feel to new relationships in our lives. I work with clients to help them understand their responses to grief, move through their grief and feelings through expressive arts and verbal processing.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

Grief and loss are a part of life yet can feel overwhelming! If you are suffering from illness, the death of a loved one, loss of a job or relationship, or going through life transitions, therapy can assist in your healing. Grief can be isolating. Individuals, couples, and families can learn to stay connected rather than be torn apart during these difficult times. Learning to cope with your situation in an accepting atmosphere can help you develop a renewed sense of hope and renewed connection, first to yourself and then to significant others. You do not need to go through your pain alone!

My practice is centered around helping my clients find their own unique paths to healing from grief and loss. I use a combination of psychoanalytically-informed therapy and psychodynamic therapy to help people find the courage to be with and move through their pain. My goal is to provide comfort and support to my patients, while also helping them to uncover their hidden strengths and resources. I believe in the power of meaningful relationships and strive to create a safe and secure space for my patients to explore their feelings and experiences.

I use an empathetic and compassionate approach combined with a range of specialized therapeutic techniques, including sensorimotor psychotherapy and internal family systems, to address Grief & Loss. Together we will master the intricacies of the grief process to enable a personalized and profound healing journey for those grappling with one of life's most challenging transitions. Clients will find solace and strength in my care, and I will create a safe space for exploration and growth, fostering resilience and understanding during grief. My methods not only alleviate the immediate pain of loss but also nurture a path towards long-term emotional well-being and empowerment.