Anger Management and Counseling in Riverside, IL.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I view anger not as something to fear or suppress, but as a powerful and often protective emotion that holds important truths. In therapy, we’ll create a safe, nonjudgmental space to explore what your anger may be guarding—pain, hurt, boundaries, or unmet needs. Together, we’ll gently untangle the layers beneath it, helping you understand its roots and learn how to express it in ways that bring clarity, healing, and connection. Your anger deserves to be heard with compassion.

I've seen many clients over the years with anger management issues. Men require a therapist's sensitivity to the issues they use anger to deal with. Learning the practical skills to deal with anger and understanding the issues of entitlement, humiliation, control, and fear that often provoke rage or it's opposite, suppressing, internalizing it, is my goal in working with clients through individual and couple's counseling. I see many couples where their anger with each other contaminates possibilities of working on common issues so I work with couples to disentangle their disruptive, sometimes abusive communications through a combination of individual and couple's counseling.

While anger is a natural emotion which everyone feels now and then, it can be very destructive when it gets out of control. When that happens, it can easily take a toll on you and those around you, leading to relationship problems, employment problems, and legal problems. The good news is that anger management therapy is a very effective way of getting greater control over your anger. When you see me for anger management therapy, we will identify events contributing to your anger and create a plan together to cope with the anger so that you remain in control. Give me a call today for a free consultation and we can put together a preliminary plan over the telephone.

Our focus on anger management is to identify and address the underlying thoughts and beliefs that trigger anger through cognitive restructuring. We encourage relaxation techniques and strategies to manage anger including deep breathing and identify personal triggers which help change thoughts patterns and responses to anger-inducing situations.  We utilize trigger identification,relaxation techniques and problem solving skills by encouraging clients to record their anger triggers and emotions, 
We expose our clients to situations that trigger their anger in a controlled environment to help them develop coping strategies. 
We tailor the counseling plan to each client

Anger can be a powerful emotion that often masks deeper pain or unmet needs. If anger is affecting your relationships, work, or self-image, I can help you understand its roots and develop healthy tools to manage it. Together, we'll explore triggers, build emotional regulation skills, and find effective ways to express yourself—so you can respond with intention rather than react with regret.

Anger management is an important skill to master in our ever changing world, which brings increasing amounts of stress into our lives. I would utilize two tools: discussing an individual's background to discover possible causes for the behavior, and teaching positive approaches toward stressors. I have assisted both individuals and couples with anger management issues.

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all experience. The way we express anger can be what distinguishes us as being healthy or unhealthy partners, parents, co-workers, employees or managers. Anger is generally a surface emotion. Beneath it lies another strong emotion, usually sadness, hurt, fear or inadequacy. In our efforts to protect ourselves from being vulnerable we often act out in anger, which generally takes us farther away from our true goals. In my work with you I will help you understand your anger in a different way and provide you with techniques and coping skills to manage this strong emotion moving you closer to your ultimate goals and strengthening your relationships.

There is healthy anger and unhealthy anger. Unhealthy anger tends to affect the ones we love the most, our overall mood, and our goals in life. Anger Management is an effective way to get ahold of your anger. I will work with you to help gain insights into your anger and provide you real world tools you can use to manage your anger more effectively.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I support individuals with anger difficulties through empathy/emotion-coaching, as well as teaching them tools and strategies to manage their anger and frustrations. While decreasing and managing anger, we are able to take a deeper look into the individual. I am able to guide them via talk therapy to enable And empower them to help themselves while achieving new insights.

Is your temper raging “out of control”? Do small things set you off? Do you react with sudden outbursts, flinging insults? Or, do you retreat in silent rage? Do you often feel your anger is justified, but upon reflection, regret your behavior? Or, do you find yourself locked in constant battle with people closest to you and those you love? Anger is a natural emotion, but unregulated anger can be destructive. It takes a toll on the individual and those around him or her, eroding self-esteem, wreaking havoc, and perpetuating feelings of disconnection, isolation and even loneliness. We can help you manage angry outbursts, understand your anger’s origins including unknown, underlying painful emotions, identify healthy coping strategies, channel your anger...(view profile to read more)

As a society we tell people they shouldn't be angry. But anger is a hard-wired emotion that's part of our physical and emotional make-up. What we do with that anger however is another thing altogether. Many people with anger management issues, or people who feel overwhelmed or engulf by their anger, come to therapy feeling lost as to how to handle what they are experiencing and regret the aftermath of their "anger management." I will help you understand the deeper meanings and anchors to your anger so that instead of fearing it, mis-using it, or snuffing it out with addiction, you will be able to process and understand it in a healthy manner.