Anger Management and Counseling in Bloomfield Hills, MI.

You cannot have high self-esteem and be angry at the same time. The lower your self-esteem, the more vulnerable you are to being angry. Showing your anger in reactive ways doesn't communicate what you really are trying to say. We teach clients how to raise their self-esteem and how what angers them is related to something they believe about themselves. We also offer cognitive-behavioral tools to help individuals and couples address, express and feel their anger.

Aristotle famously stated that getting angry was easy, but doing so in the right way, and for the right reasons, and to the right degree was not so easy. To this day, those words are a truth. It is a problem that has yet to be universally solved, but instead, must be done individually, in the course of one's life. However, there are keys and tools and understandings that are universal. Providing these tools is a large part of my work, as I work extensively with men and women struggling with anger problems and domestic violence.

Anger is generally a surface emotion. It provides us with some sense of control or power and can easily act as a defense mechanism from experiencing deeper emotions. Hypnotherapy is effective in helping clients understand the source of where the anger is stemming from. In working with me, you will develop an understanding of what is underneath the anger, how to emotionally regulate/prevent anger outbursts, and create a new healthy set of communication skills to help improve communication and healthy interactions with others.

Anger and depression go hand in hand. My goal is to help you discover what are the triggers and then learn new skills to help you cope more effectively. I will help you to learn how to express your anger appropriately and end the ongoing battle with those you love. Learning a new skills takes times as well as gaining insight into your problems. I can help guide you.

A common misconception is that anger is negative/bad but in reality there is nothing wrong with feeling angry. It is a normal and sometimes necessary emotion. Anger is not the problem, what we do with that anger is the key feature. Out-of-control anger can really hurt yourself and people around you as well as can cause issues in your daily life in school, work and in your personal/professional life.

I provide anger management therapy and drug and alcohol counseling. I am privileged to be a resource for many criminal defense and family attorneys. Anger management strategies include: Relaxation (yoga, mindfulness, meditation, sleep, music), cognitive restructuring (changing the way you think), journaling, problem solving, communication, life skills, gratitude, and wellness.

Out-of-control feelings are common when modern day life leaves many people feeling stressed out and overwhelmed. I can help you to understand the roots and triggers of your anger and then help you to cope more effectively when you feel frustration and anger. Anger is the emotion we need to protect ourselves; it’s what we feel when our rights have been violated. However, when not expressed appropriately or if we are out of control with anger, then it often causes our trouble in our relationships. Psychotherapy can help you to cope more effectively and calm your nervous system.

I am a psychotherapist who understands life can feel like a daily struggle. No one should have to endure these feelings alone. I compassionately listen and support clients as well as offer a therapeutic relationship that provides clients the opportunity to emotionally move forward and bring a healthy balance back into their lives. Counseling empowers clients to gain healthy coping skills, experience self care and process new ways to work through personal difficulties. Understanding feelings behind anger allow clients to feel more relaxed, have increased energy, feel less stressed, become motivated, experience satisfaction in relationships, and cope with difficulties in life easier.

Our therapists utilize psychological therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger and aggression can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state. Anger management techniques include relaxation techniques, cognitive restructuring, problem solving, and improving communication strategies.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Certified Anger Management Classes are provided to Teens and Adults by a Certified Anger Management Specialist. Classes focus on emotional skill building and increasing coping skills. Clients are encouraged to identify their triggers, increase their awareness of feelings and learn techniques to change their reactions to triggers. Classes are 8 weeks and each session is one hour long. Call for days and times.

Anger Management is an important tool to have in all aspects of your life. Some people run away from their anger and others can become aggressive and violent with their anger. In working on this issue, we would need to find out where your anger stems from and where you learned to deal with your anger in negative ways. People often confuse aggression with assertiveness. One does not have to be aggressive when one is assertive. Learning the difference is very important, just as learning that you don't have make others feel like less for you to feel whole. I can help you learn strategies to make changes to have healthier relationships and communications.

The Lord says, "Be Angry and sin not." Being angry isn't the problem. It's what we do with our anger that is. For many, how they have displayed their anger has created more damage to their relationships than whatever they were originally upset about. I work with many clients struggling with anger, with a goal to not just divert your anger but to dissolve it. All things are possible with God.

I have worked in the field of Anger Management for at least for 15 years working with couples, individuals, and families. I have worked a lot with the court systems and individuals who are gotten into with the legal system. We dig into what individuals have learned from their families of origin and how we can use new tools to have a better way of dealing with life.

I often will tell people that our feelings have a way of being heard, whether we want them to or not! You might try to deny your anger or to bury it deep within yourself, but it will almost always find a way to express itself! And really, anger is NOT your enemy, though it might feel that way now. Anger has a place and a purpose in your life, but not if you're using it as a weapon against yourself or your loved ones. You can learn to cope with it so it's not a destructive force in your life! I like to teach people ways to more effectively manage their emotions, and then we can explore where the anger is coming from to try and resolve some of those issues as well.

Anger is destructive to relationships, both in the work place and at home. Many times expressed anger is a form of defensiveness against the hurts of life. In therapy, we will explore your history of anger outbursts, discuss the difference between rage and anger and explore the other 2 major emotions; glad and sad. Resources used include The Anger Workbook by Les Carter and The Lies you Believe and the Truths You Must Believe by C. Thurman. I encourage journaling and role-playing. In order to stop a certain behavior, one needs to learn to replace with healthier behaviors. Patterns of relating and living are explored and help will be offered to change and replace unhealthy anger patterns.