Anger Management and Counseling in New York City, NY.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but your words will break my heart." Many people with anger issues know the damage that can be done to a relationship with even one outburst. Mastering anger is necessary to having the affection and trust of the people we care about. It has been accurately referred to as 'restraint of pen and tongue' in some literature. While it may seem like an effort one undertakes for others, the primary benefits are to the person who handles their anger. If you are reading this, and the thought "I wouldn't get angry if so-and-so didn't do such-and-such" consider yourself a primary candidate for this work. Discovering how to escape from anger will set you free.

I work with anger management for anger that is not physically abusive and not required by the courts. We will look at the root causes - is this a way that you keep others at bay? Are there other ways to cope with anger? Is this an approach to conflict that you learned in your family? We will talk about your thoughts, experiences, and expectations regarding conflicts. I will help you to understand and articulate the cause your anger so that you are less likely to feel out of control.

Many people don’t know that anger is a healthy emotion! We all feel angry from time to time. They key is learning how to manage our anger appropriately, so that it doesn’t impact our relationships or daily functioning. I have experience conducting group and individual treatment of anger management. This is a no-judgement zone and I’m here to help.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

You will learn to create a moment before your anger spikes where you can make a conscious decision to act a different way. You will learn skills to manage growing anger before it becomes too overwhelming to control. You can learn to understand the effects your anger has had on others and work to repair damage that may have been done in the past. You will grow from your challenges and learn a new way of reacting to difficult situations and emotions.

Anger is neither a good emotion nor is it a bad one. It is sending a message saying to you that a situation (or a person) is unfair, unjust, disrespectful or threatening. It is normal to be angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged. However, it becomes a problem when you let anger out in a way that harms yourself or others. If you feel like your anger is out of your hands and there is little you can do to control it, I provide the help you need to gain control over your anger. During our work, we explore the roots of your anger, and you learn new ways to communicate your feelings and thoughts without hurting yourself or others.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at work, in relationships and in the overall quality of your life. But you don’t have to feel helpless in the face of an unpredictable and destructive force in your life. I work to help you heal the root cause of your anger. You’ll find understanding and compassion for the pain in yourself and your healing can begin. With healing comes understanding and compassion for others, and the return of the sense of control and calm in your life.

Anger Management is a specialty of our center. Research indicates that anger problems can be made worse by therapists practicing ineffective techniques. So you wan to be sure your clinician is practicing the right form of anger management. The good news is there is also plenty of scientific support to show that effective anger management can reduce anger symptoms in as few as 12-20 sessions. In fact, a study published by one of our staff members indicated that in addition to anger being reduced, but depression symptoms decreased as well. If you, or a loved one, suffer from anger problems, please call us with any questions you may have. We understand how far reaching these issues can be.

Anger, typically experienced as an intense feeling of displeasure, is often triggered by an injustice, failure, or stress. Anger can vary in degree from mild irritability to rage. Contrary to popular belief, anger is a health emotion, and when managed correctly, it can be an important component for healthy relationships. When anger is not processed and experienced appropriately, however, it can be alienating and lead to actions that are regrettable. If you or someone you know is struggling with managing anger, I encourage you to reach out for support.

Anger can tell us a lot about ourselves and areas in our life that may be frustrating or upsetting or it may be a sign of deep sadness that we have not paid enough attention to. Working with you in a psychodynamic relational approach, I work collaboratively with you in a non judgmental way to identify and understand your triggers better. Once we've identified the source, we can work together on finding more positive ways of communicating with ourselves and those around us, learning better ways to meet our needs or heal from past, painful wounds. Ultimately, working with clients to find their sources of positive strength and coping in order to see themselves in a new way.