Anger Management and Counseling in New York City, NY.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger is a natural reaction to a hurtful or threatening situation. When it becomes uncontrollable, constant, and extreme, unhealthy anger can wreak havoc on our lives. Some people can manage anger with self-taught techniques, reading materials, and other resources. Yet, anger management therapy is considered the most effective treatment option to address these anger issues and adopt healthy coping strategies to handle them when they arise.

Dysfunctional anger often goes hand-in-hand with other problems, such as posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, or alcohol problems. Therapy can help treat those conditions while also providing strategies for managing the anger that goes along with them. Several large analyses of the published research suggest that overall, approximately 75% of people receiving anger management therapy improved as a result. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) helps to identify unhelpful or negative thought patterns and change inaccurate beliefs. Plan on examining the triggers that set you off and exploring how your experiences of anger are helpful or harmful, both in the short-term and in the long-

You will learn to create a moment before your anger spikes where you can make a conscious decision to act a different way. You will learn skills to manage growing anger before it becomes too overwhelming to control. You can learn to understand the effects your anger has had on others and work to repair damage that may have been done in the past. You will grow from your challenges and learn a new way of reacting to difficult situations and emotions.

I work with anger management for anger that is not physically abusive and not required by the courts. We will look at the root causes - is this a way that you keep others at bay? Are there other ways to cope with anger? Is this an approach to conflict that you learned in your family? We will talk about your thoughts, experiences, and expectations regarding conflicts. I will help you to understand and articulate the cause your anger so that you are less likely to feel out of control.

Many people don’t know that anger is a healthy emotion! We all feel angry from time to time. They key is learning how to manage our anger appropriately, so that it doesn’t impact our relationships or daily functioning. I have experience conducting group and individual treatment of anger management. This is a no-judgement zone and I’m here to help.

I follow a specific 12-week program for those coming for Anger Management. While the curriculum followed is more structured, the conversation can flow organically and address all the topics covered so that each person gets the most out of the time spent working on their anger. The curriculum allows for exploration of anger triggers, becoming more aware of family dynamics, as well as giving tools to manage anger. My work outside of the specific curriculum can help aid in this as well to find additional tools that could help find what works for the individual seeking this treatment.

Having anger is not a problem. The problem is how one deals with the feeling of anger. What does one do when one is angry? Is the anger realistic or is it not? What are the events associated with the anger? One can learn to manage one's anger effectively through the use of effective anger management skills. Is one angry because one has communication problems and cannot express oneself assertively? Is one angry because of persistent unfairness that one has experienced? Come and let us explore the source of your anger and help you manage it effectively.

We all experience anger at different levels, and just like any other emotion, you can learn to manage anger: with some support and guidance in seeing emotions as they connect to the situation, your thoughts, and your behaviors. Anger deserves its space and needs to be expressed; it is more about learning to express your anger in a way that is productive and understood by others. Session work includes breathing techniques, analyzing current triggers and warning signs, exploring assertiveness versus aggressiveness, boundary setting, visualization techniques, incorporating physical activity, mental exercises, and increasing communication skills; All with art as my secret weapon.

"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but your words will break my heart." Many people with anger issues know the damage that can be done to a relationship with even one outburst. Mastering anger is necessary to having the affection and trust of the people we care about. It has been accurately referred to as 'restraint of pen and tongue' in some literature. While it may seem like an effort one undertakes for others, the primary benefits are to the person who handles their anger. If you are reading this, and the thought "I wouldn't get angry if so-and-so didn't do such-and-such" consider yourself a primary candidate for this work. Discovering how to escape from anger will set you free.

Anger is an amazing tool. Often when we hang out in anger it's because we either don't know other tools that are available or because we have some deep unresolved hurt that we have yet to resolve. In working together, we will both unveil the other emotional tools in your toolbox, and uncover any unresolved feelings beneath the anger. We will build a sense of safety within based on your own sense of worth.