Great Couples Counseling in New York City, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

Coming to counseling as a couple is fraught with risk. Will the therapist be fair? Will I be heard? Will I feel a connection with the therapist? What will be involved? Most couples seek therapy well into the conflict--yes, never too late, but more challenging to heal. It is the responsibility of the therapist to hear both stories. Each partner comes with his/her own histories that have become part of the narrative. We need to take a look at this to see how it has impacted the relationship. We need to highlight the need for empathy in our relationships—we may not agree, but can we understand and feel how our partner may be experiencing the matter at hand? Can we have compassion?

Dr. Vaughan has been working with couples for over 15 years. Treatment aims to identify unwanted relational patterns and to help couples to work through and prevent such patterns. Partners establish relational tools necessary for clearly conveying needs and desires and for effectively meeting the needs of their significant others. Over the course of treatment, couples feel more trusting, connected, and understood.

Christopher sees couples (married, re-marriage or otherwise) understanding that close relationships are important in our lives. We are also all human, and at times these relationships do not live up to what we had hoped for. Together, with different techniques and appropriate help, issues can be addressed and the relationship can be continued (or, if desired, terminated) so that everyone has a sense of wholeness and peace within this important dimension of their lives. Christopher will guide your as you explore what is going on and though the journey to wholeness.

You will learn the complicated dynamics that are occurring in your relationship on several different levels - emotion, behavior, and cognitive. You will each learn what you bring to the relationship as individuals and how that fits with your partner. You will learn communication skills and how to listen to your partner for content and emotion. You will have a safe space to talk about difficult issues. You may find increased intimacy with your partner. Couples counseling is not just for romantic relationships. Business and creative partners can also benefit from couples therapy.

Every couple is unique in the way the partners relate, communicate, and approach conflict---or fail to do so. For that reason I treat every couple according to its own very specific issues. If you feel you’ve been coming up against the same problems with no resolution, or have had a new crisis emerge in your relationship, getting help sooner rather than waiting can often repair and strengthen the relationship. I work short term and am solution-focused.

Are you and your partner stuck in an unhealthy power struggle? Do you cycle through the same arguments? Do you point the finger of blame rather than take responsibility for the role you play in an unhealthy dynamic? Let’s create a warm and supportive environment to explore the triggers that lead to your dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors. I work with all kinds of couples, married, living together, gay and straight. Please visit my website lhorowitz.com for more information.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

We can say that life is measured in our relationships, and those are an art as much as a science. It's extremely helpful to have a third person in the room, which lets you and your partner understand the world from the other partner's point of view. I've facilitated so many couples to break out of their unproductive, defensive orientations, hear what the other is truly saying, and come up with a mutual language for moving forward. On a personal note, I've been married for over twenty years, so from my both professional orientation as well as my relational experience, I know how important it is for couples to develop creative solutions to move forward in a positive way.

Relationships are hard, as any news site will eagerly tell you. Stories of celebrity affairs, break-ups and other scandals are so common that there doesn’t seem to be much hope for the rest of us. I’m here to tell you that there is hope, even after years of tension, conflict, or emotional distance for any couple—straight, gay, dating, married, post-divorce—from any racial, ethnic, or spiritual background. Conflict happens in all relationships. But it isn’t inevitable, even after years of bad feeling. I help couples step outside of their pain and frustration to see each of their roles in these conflicts. From there, couple can begin to communicate and finally have conversations that have productive outcomes leading to greater intimacy.

Relationships play a role in almost every aspect of life. If any of the following questions apply to you: Do you want more out of your relationships? Are you experiencing conflict in your intimate relationships? Are you afraid of loosing a relationship? Are you lonely? Are you frustrated by looking for a love relationship? Have you just lost a relationship? I can help individuals look inward and understand more about themselves and what is getting in the way, so that you can take steps forward towards being more fulfilled.

Couples often go through ups and downs. While this can be normal, many of us have discovered at times that we may not have the emotional, interpersonal, or practical skills to navigate this as well as we would like. There is a great deal of evidence that cognitive behavioral couples therapy is effective for increasing relationship satisfaction. There is even evidence that effective couples therapy can help to reduce depression symptoms. While a romantic relationship may require work, we also want it to be a source of support. Learning skills to effectively communicate, problem solve, and accept the situations a couple faces can significantly improve both partners' satisfaction.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Careers and children each place enormous stress on a couple’s ability to be together in an intimate and satisfying way. Every couple has different ways of dealing with the challenges, and counseling can provide the perspective and encouragement to re-create a shared vision for the future. For something as important as this, it is surprising how little training and preparation is provided; family therapy fills in the blanks, and resolves the confusion.