Anger Management and Counseling in Mercer Island, WA.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is a natural reaction but do you feel your anger leads to emotional dysregulation that affects your relaitonships? I do not judge you based on your anger. I simply provide an empathetic ear to your situation as well as give you context to help you through situations where you may be reacting to your anger. Oftentimes, we get angry in a situation but are unaware or afraid to tap into the primary emotions that stir the anger. Feelings of abandonment, emptiness, fear, and hurt that lie below the secondary emotion of anger can be processed.

When someone is angry, there's often a belief that something wrong is happening that must be corrected and the way to get someone's attention to correct it is with a loud voice and/or harsh words. Unfortunately, this rarely solves anything and creates barriers to relationships and goals. Dr. Bill Roedel helps clients understand the root causes of their anger, acquire skills to manage the anger and create a plan for approaching the issue, and gain communication and negotiation skills so an agreeable, workable solution can be found. When the anger is grounded in the past, Dr. Roedel helps clients safely express their hurt and find ways to release resentments so they can move forward.

We feel anger because we feel that something is not fair, something is not working out the way we thought it should, our boundaries have been crossed, or we feel we have been treated badly, or missed out. Anger can be frustrating if you don't know how to address the underlying issue. I specialize in helping those whose anger is related to social anxiety, isolation, bullying, harassment or lack of important social skills.

Sometimes we all lose our cool. An annoyance or irritation can mount to a growing frustration--which can then lead to anger--and sometimes explode into rage or violence. Sometimes this is a slow, brewing process...and other times it moves like a speed train to anger explosions. If you or someone you love has lost control in the heat of anger like this, you know how devastating the results can be for you and those around you--sometimes the ones you care most deeply about. At Mill Creek Family Services, we get at the heart of the issues, ideas and behaviors that fuel the anger, and help you build the skills needed to cool the fire and learn more about yourself in the process.

When you cross a line in expressing your anger, you face consequences you may not have thought about in the heat of the moment. Perhaps you have developed a pattern of acting out your anger in inappropriate ways. This needs to be addressed sooner rather than later. If you have been told you have anger management problems, get help now so that you will not lose valuable relationships. You may call me at 425 652-1413 to set up an appointment.

If your anger creates problems in your life, it's important to learn some skills to regulate your emtions. I can help you learn emotional regulation which includes how to be mindful and how to manage your anger and express it in a healthy way.I will work withyou to become more emotionally intelligent, so that you can be more effective in relationships. You will learn to become more aware of your own feelings and undertand where there feelings are coming from while being able to be in another's shoes and respecting and being considerate of that person and their way of thinking and feeling.

If you are in relationship with an angry partner, therapy can help! Understanding and learning how to set boundaries and communicate in a way that your partner can hear is important. Often when we grow up in angry families we can end up in relationships that mirror our childhood. I can teach you ways to be authentic, use your voice, and stay safe. If you find yourself getting angry and you want to find other tools and strategies to express yourself I can help.