Anger Management and Counseling in Seattle, WA.

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions that can results in destruction of self, relationships, career, and life satisfaction. It doesn't have to though. I help client's identify, challenge, and relate to their anger so that they learn how it can be managed. Anger can be channeled and used in productive healthy ways that can increase potential and help understand and achieve goals.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Maybe you've noticed your temper. Or maybe a friend or family member has told you that your temper gets in the way of an ideal relationship. Or maybe everyone around you seems to be angry and you can't understand why. Regardless of the case, anger is real. And it's informative. With my help, we can figure out what your anger is trying to get you to do and what needs to change in your life or in you so you can be more fulfilled.

Anger is often a misunderstood emotion and often looked at as more negative than positive. In applying cognitive behavioral approaches to developing a healthy use and control of anger, therapy will support you in not suppressing anger but recognizing the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger and regaining your mastery over this complex emotion. Often this leads to overall better self understanding and increased confidence as well as improved personal and professional relationships.

If you are angry, or told you are angry, or respond to situations with attached anger, chances are you need to discover a better way to deal with the issues that are causing this reaction. The process is very basic. You and I engage in dialogue about the underneath issues like anxiety, unhappiness and a host of other concerns that cause anger. In time, you develop the perspective to live a happy, creative and meaningful life. My office is located in Bellevue/Kirkland vicinity. And I work with out of area students via telephone. Not an insurance provider or Court mandated Counselor.

Anger is often the result of feeling powerless. It can also be the result of not having well defined boundaries or the inability to effectively convey one's boundaries to others. The majority of my clients with anger issues have never experienced the healthy middle ground of assertiveness. Many experience the other two ends of the spectrum which are passivity or extreme anger. Becoming aware of one's feelings and one's boundaries is the first step toward managing and understanding anger.

Anger feels like it takes over and is a force we're powerless against. Together we'll work together to understand the roots of the anger, what causes it to build and develop strategies to both manage the day-to-day and to heal the underlying wounds. We'll work to establish healthy boundaries that keep you and others safe, while also giving you communication strategies to get your concerns heard.

Anger can become a habit that is developed over the years. You may have grown up in a household where angry outbursts were common. Let me help you develop strategies to calm your anger and choose healthy forms of communication. I can help you get to know the signs that your anger is becoming detrimental to your health and your relationships. Becoming angry is exhausting. Let me help.

You've tried anger management and coping skills, but they rarely work well, especially when we're in the midst of conflict. That's because when your anger gets "triggered," your ability to access coping skills is greatly inhibited, your fight or flight response is activated, and you explode in anger. Did you know it's not your fault? You didn't choose to get triggered, did you? It's not your fault that you have a brain that evolved to keep you safe at any cost, is it? We can help this part of your brain recognize the difference between real or perceived threat, allowing you to respond appropriately. We no longer have to rely solely on coping skills to manage.