Great Couples Counselling in Quinte West, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples coming to counselling are asked to be honest about their own motivation levels, skepticism and hopes for therapy as part of the assessment. Problems are initially identified in both one on one sessions, and then lead into mutual encounters which are guided to elicit authentic feelings and engender empathy, understanding & appreciation. If a relationship is badly damaged (such as by infidelity) exercises for unraveling contempt are presented. Often in couples work, individuals become aware of certain cultural, inter-generational or early life patterns that get played out and learn strategies to manage them. When a relationship has run its course the work may be about "farewell".

When communication breaks down in relationships it can often lead to a disconnection from our partners which can seem irreparable. This can lead to a lack of intimacy, resentment, or mistrust towards each other. When a couple agrees to reach out for help, it shows a commitment to each other and an openness to change. When doing couples work it is a priority for me that each partner’s concerns and feelings are heard and addressed. This involves ensuring equal time for each person to talk about their concerns and needs as well as their goals for our work together. I have experience in working with heterosexual as well as same sex couples. Book a free consultation today.

Does it feel like you keep having the same fights over and over again? Have you noticed there is more distance, less intimacy, and a sense of being 'apart' in your relationship? My approach to couples therapy includes thoroughly assessing the state of the relationship to uncover where the strengths and challenges lie. The goals are tailored to each unique relationship, but might include decreasing distance and increasing connection, uncovering problematic communication patterns and improving overall communication, building intimacy, working on future conflict management, creating shared visions, and enhancing safety and trust.

When it comes to couples, the total is greater than the sum of its parts. Therefore, in couple therapy, the focus is not on the two sides of the equation. Rather, the object of inquiry and therapy is the relationship between those two sides. The therapy examines the interpersonal relationship and treats it as a third space. Therefore, the goal is not to change the individuals but to change the way they communicate, understand, and accept each other. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

I aim to help couples and relational partnerships uncover the root causes of their disagreements and conflicts, and collaborative work together to find solutions. I also believe couples can get buried under society’s pressure of a perfect relationship; I hope to help you get closer to the relationship that feels the most authentic and real for you as a partnership. I use Emotion-Focused and Solution Focused Therapy to help couple’s highlight their unique strengths and work toward a better understanding of one another. Book a free consultation to explore if we are a good fit.

Conflict and loneliness can be most painful when they arise in our most cherished relationship. Therapy can provide a supportive space to explore your concerns in an open and honest way with your partner. My approach to couples therapy acknowledges the importance of relationships in our lives and focuses on strengthening these relationships by fostering safe, honest and open communication. Contact me to start your healing journey and book a free consultation