Anger Management and Counselling in Lethbridge, AB.

Many therapists see anger as a secondary emotion. Underneath is hurt and pain. Perhaps it is injustice and abuse that you suffered. Getting to what is fuelling the anger is an important step in anger management. I will work with you to find safe and appropriate ways to express your feelings without doing damage to your relationships and yourself. We all have strong emotions. It is our awareness of what they are and how to put words to them that makes a difference. Don't delay learning this important skill of emotional regulation that will allow you to have a safe and fulfilling life.

Anger doesn’t need “managing” so much as it needs to be “paid attention to”. Emotions serve the purpose of “signalling” the owner of those emotions and are governed by two immutable laws: #1 we will feel (no choice); #2 we will express emotions (here we have choice of expression). Of the vast spectrum of choices people make for expressing their anger (which is a secondary emotion), the healthiest choice is to trace the anger back to its primary source(s) of either Hurt (emotional or physical), Frustration (goals blocked) or Fear (real or perceived) and process it there. The anger signal is then no longer needed and must be “Shut Off”, until needed for another situation.

Our anger can be a sentry, a protector and a wise indicator that our boundaries have been transgressed or that something vitally important to us is threatened. It can also be a raging tyrant, a short fuse, a simmering internalisation that off-gases through passive-aggression, or a childish tantrum. Becoming intimate with our anger is synonymous with becoming intimidate with our power. In anger therapy, we will work to understand the unique way your anger process happens through somatic awareness, mindfulness and emotional intimacy. We will look at your history with anger, your family lineage, and you will learn tools to channel this fire in ways that support rather than hinder your life.

I can help my clients with anger management and work on short and long-term goals when they are ready to make some life changes. In the short term, it is important to increase awareness of the patterns of anger in your life, identify the pain and hurt that is fueling anger, learn to verbalize angry feelings in a controlled way, decrease angry outbursts and how past ways of expressing anger have had a negative impact. Some longer-term goals are to decrease the intensity and frequency of angry feelings, develop an awareness of the origin and alternatives to aggression, and learn to accept angry feelings while working on control and maintaining peace.

Anger can often feel like an untamed force within, disrupting your peace and straining your connections with those closest to you. In your sessions with me, we'll dive deep into the core of your anger, uncovering its roots and transforming it into a tool for positive growth. I'll guide you in gaining insights into your emotional triggers and help you learn effective and practical emotional regulation techniques. Our journey will be about more than just controlling your anger; it will be about reshaping it into a constructive part of your life that enhances your relationships and fosters a sense of deep peace and fulfillment.

If you find that anger is often the driver in your life’s journey, causing bumps on the road, I want you to know that anger management can be your supportive copilot. By understanding the triggers and learning new coping strategies, anger management can help turn those reactions that feel like an uncontrollable thunderstorm into a manageable breeze. It's not just about damping down the flames of anger; it's about nurturing a space of calm within you. Through our work together, we will explore techniques that can diffuse tension and promote clear, calm communication. It's a chance to regain control and steer your life towards more peaceful interactions and healthier relationships.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

When we can learn to investigate anger, build acceptance and tolerance for uncomfortable feelings, and find ways to soothe ourselves, we can manage anger in ways that are supportive of our relationships and supportive of ourselves. Learning anger management can involve building skills in multiple areas including communication, needs identification, distress tolerance, and/or emotional regulation.

Anger can be tricky to understand as there are many underlying emotions that can cause anger. By exploring the purpose of the emotion and knowing how to work with the emotion can solve many problems that affect one's life. Learning the importance of creating healthy coping strategies can help recover from betrayal, grief, and unresolved traumas. I am trained in EMDR to help others work with their anger and to process the difficulty of what lies beneath anger.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

You did it again. You lost your cool and you blew up. And this time, the consequences are serious. Your job is at risk, your family is hurt, or your partner has finally said, “this is it.” But for some reason, you just can’t seem to stop it. One minute you’re fine, then BOOM – 0 to 100. Know this: there is a path to change. Using evidence-based and cutting-edge techniques, I can help you: cool down from intense stress, communicate with others in a way that inspires both love AND respect, catch anger-flare-ups (before they happen), and have healthy outlets for when they do. Together let's keep your relationships, career, and emotions in harmony. There is an answer to anger.