Anger Management and Counselling in Raymond, AB.

Anger doesn’t need “managing” so much as it needs to be “paid attention to”. Emotions serve the purpose of “signalling” the owner of those emotions and are governed by two immutable laws: #1 we will feel (no choice); #2 we will express emotions (here we have choice of expression). Of the vast spectrum of choices people make for expressing their anger (which is a secondary emotion), the healthiest choice is to trace the anger back to its primary source(s) of either Hurt (emotional or physical), Frustration (goals blocked) or Fear (real or perceived) and process it there. The anger signal is then no longer needed and must be “Shut Off”, until needed for another situation.

I can help my clients with anger management and work on short and long-term goals when they are ready to make some life changes. In the short term, it is important to increase awareness of the patterns of anger in your life, identify the pain and hurt that is fueling anger, learn to verbalize angry feelings in a controlled way, decrease angry outbursts and how past ways of expressing anger have had a negative impact. Some longer-term goals are to decrease the intensity and frequency of angry feelings, develop an awareness of the origin and alternatives to aggression, and learn to accept angry feelings while working on control and maintaining peace.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Anger can often feel like an untamed force within, disrupting your peace and straining your connections with those closest to you. In your sessions with me, we'll dive deep into the core of your anger, uncovering its roots and transforming it into a tool for positive growth. I'll guide you in gaining insights into your emotional triggers and help you learn effective and practical emotional regulation techniques. Our journey will be about more than just controlling your anger; it will be about reshaping it into a constructive part of your life that enhances your relationships and fosters a sense of deep peace and fulfillment.

Many therapists see anger as a secondary emotion. Underneath is hurt and pain. Perhaps it is injustice and abuse that you suffered. Getting to what is fuelling the anger is an important step in anger management. I will work with you to find safe and appropriate ways to express your feelings without doing damage to your relationships and yourself. We all have strong emotions. It is our awareness of what they are and how to put words to them that makes a difference. Don't delay learning this important skill of emotional regulation that will allow you to have a safe and fulfilling life.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger can be tricky to understand as there are many underlying emotions that can cause anger. By exploring the purpose of the emotion and knowing how to work with the emotion can solve many problems that affect one's life. Learning the importance of creating healthy coping strategies can help recover from betrayal, grief, and unresolved traumas. I am trained in EMDR to help others work with their anger and to process the difficulty of what lies beneath anger.

If you find that anger is often the driver in your life’s journey, causing bumps on the road, I want you to know that anger management can be your supportive copilot. By understanding the triggers and learning new coping strategies, anger management can help turn those reactions that feel like an uncontrollable thunderstorm into a manageable breeze. It's not just about damping down the flames of anger; it's about nurturing a space of calm within you. Through our work together, we will explore techniques that can diffuse tension and promote clear, calm communication. It's a chance to regain control and steer your life towards more peaceful interactions and healthier relationships.

You did it again. You lost your cool and you blew up. And this time, the consequences are serious. Your job is at risk, your family is hurt, or your partner has finally said, “this is it.” But for some reason, you just can’t seem to stop it. One minute you’re fine, then BOOM – 0 to 100. Know this: there is a path to change. Using evidence-based and cutting-edge techniques, I can help you: cool down from intense stress, communicate with others in a way that inspires both love AND respect, catch anger-flare-ups (before they happen), and have healthy outlets for when they do. Together let's keep your relationships, career, and emotions in harmony. There is an answer to anger.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.