Anger Management and Counseling in Bell Gardens, CA.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

Anger comes from someplace deep inside. I work not only at helping the person control their anger but the cause so it can permentely be deleated. Each person is uniquely different and we will work together to understand how to deal with its root causes. Most clients can learn in a couple sessions what to do in the moment to get anger under control. The rest takes longer

Anger is very closely correlated to depression and is in fact one of its symptoms. When people get labeled as having "anger issues" I as a therapist suspect that there is some form of underlying depression and in most cases early childhood trauma. I use cognitive behavioral therapy, but I also use psycho-dynamic psychotherapy to get down to the root of the underlying reasons for the anger.

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.

Anger can be a difficult beast to manage that can fracture or relationships and create guilt and shame, but it is possible to treat it. With the aid of tools like EMDR CBT and guided visualizations I can help you overcome this issue and heal from the issues that drive it. Additionally, I can provide tools, coping skills, and other resources to help you manage this particular issue.

Anger management counseling will help you recognize what makes you angry, as well as many other intense emotions felt throughout the body. We will explore thought processes, triggers, raise awareness and provide tools for each individual case. Counseling will help create problem solving techniques as well as identify different communication styles (assertive vs. aggressive). Everyone feels angry, the anger is not the problem, rather the forms of expression.

Frustration can sometimes lead to aggression. Cognitive-behavior therapy, as practiced by Dr. Levine, is a valuable tool in reducing the impact of frustration and reducing the resulting degree of anger. He will work with you to help you alter your reaction to frustration and develop alternative mechanisms to react to these events. Once your anger response is reduced your relationships with your family and friends are also likely to change in a much more positive direction.

I help people struggling with anger management by working with them to develop awareness of their anger experience in their body and mind and how it is impacting their body. I help you learn and practice strategies for regulating your body and mind so you do not lose control of the anger. I help you to learn healthy communication of anger, and the development of conflict resolution skills. I support you in exploring issues of transference from past relationships and experiences that may be contributing to your strong feelings of anger in present circumstances and relationships. We create safety, increase positive expression of anger, and reduce or eliminate sources of anger when possible!

Anger is a legitimate emotion in response to injury or for self-defense. But if survival defenses are out of conscious control, it is then considered lack of impulse control. Your anger by passes the rational part of your brain and you react instantly without thinking or choosing how to react. In order to interrupt that automatic reaction, you must slow it down. Do that by taking deep breaths until you have calmed down and are able to make a rational decision of how to react.

All of us experience anger from time to time. It is a normal, commonly experienced emotion. However, anger can be incredibly destructive if we do not know how to control it. Frequent or misplaced anger can hurt our reputation, destroy our relationships, limit our opportunities, and damage our physical health. Acknowledging that anger has become an issue is the first step. Getting help is the second. I have worked with individuals and groups helping them to first identify, acknowledge, and then manage their anger for many years. I will help you gain the emotional skills and tools needed to control and manage your anger and help you to live a more harmonious life. Please feel free to call.

Anger is not only something to "manage." The feelings in anger need to be recognized, understood, and responding to in a way that make sense. You're not bad because you are angry, you treat yourself and others badly when your trapped in intense feelings. I help people come out of the shame of being labeled in negative ways because they struggle with anger. Anger becomes less of a struggle when you're not alone in it.

For men and teens, anger is one of the few acceptable emotions but when it gets out of hand, it can hurt those we love and endanger our relationships. I work with men and teens to explore the underlying issues that result in their anger to free them to convert the anger into more useful ways to communicate. This results in more productive and healthier ways to express their needs, fears and desires. With women, I make it easier for them to express their anger, which they have suppressed most of their life. When women realize they have the right to their anger, they are freed to express more and become the person they have always wanted to be, particularly in their relationships.