Anger Management and Counseling in Hacienda Heights, CA.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Everybody gets angry. Anger is a human emotion which can serve both positive and negative ends which, in itself, is neutral. Frustration, fear, feeling threatened or treated unfairly can trigger an angry outburst in any animal. Anger is a normal human emotion. It can be an appropriate response to injustice, unfairness or discrimination. However, what we need to achieve is a way of expressing anger that is reasonable, measured and proportionate. Cognitive behavioral therapy provides one of many possible answers to managing anger. Feelings are often created by our thoughts and examining our thought processes to see if they are reasonable and rational can help us with emotional regulation.

You do not have to be a victim of your anger and anger responses. Often we learn from caregivers how to handle our hurt and anger. Other times, anger can be a symptom of undiagnosed depression. Learning to respond in a way you can feel proud of is something that is not only possible, but if you are motivated, can change easily. After determining the root of your anger, we can work together to change the behaviors and after effects of your rage.

I have worked with clients who have had a difficult relationship with anger throughout their lives and have found that it is often accompanied by shame, blame, judgement, or guilt. These problems have a powerful voice that works to drown out a person's preferences and unique outcomes, placing them far into the background, and deeming them unimportant. It is remarkable to find out what values clients have managed to hold onto despite anger's seemingly all consuming presence. The excavation of moments of holding onto values in the face of adversity is an opportunity to approach anger from a place of agency and empowerment versus blame or shame.

Anger can be an ally and not a detriment. Individuals need to learn how they create and contribute to their feelings of anger and how to control the expressions of anger so it benefits them rather than hurts them. When a hose is leaking, you might need to turn off the power from the connection to the house, or you may need to relieve the pressure by adjusting the nozzle. Similarly, we all need to learn how we create excessive anger -- AND we need to learn how to control the expression of that anger.

Do you feel angry all the time? Do your levels of frustration interfere with your work and personal relationships? Do you feel like you might explode? You do not have to go through this alone. Together, we will work to improve your frustration tolerance and to reclaim your life from your anger. By working from an evidence-based approach, we will help you to cope.

Is your anger out of control? Is anger getting in the way of your relationships and stopping you from getting everything you want? How do you manage anger? What are those triggers that set you off? There are many tools that can be gained from treatment. These tools can help you find your way through anger learn as you learn effective ways to respond when activated.

Anger is a healthy expression of emotion. When anger and rage become the dominating emotion that rules our actions, a potentially serious problem exists. When this occurs we feel out of control, even frightened by the intensity of feeling. Scared by life altering actions and repercussions. We become lost and confused. We know this is not me but yet it is. This mystery is solvable. Sometimes when negative experiences happen we hide and bury them, We do this so well we forget why the anger is there. Over the years these experiences multiply, fester and grow. A time bomb waiting to be triggered. We can help you unearth the issues, defuse and help you to dismantle the bomb. Call! We can help.

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

IS ANGER MAKING YOUR LIFE MORE DIFFICULT? Are concerned about losing your relationships or job due to anger? Have you tried ways to control it but nothing worked? I can help you learn effective strategies to manage your mental state so that you will be in control of your life instead of being the slave of your emotions. Call me for a free telephone consultation session today to be one step closer to the kind of life you truly want.

Anger is a normal emotion. Mild forms of anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to criticism, threat or frustration we may become angry - and usually this is a healthy response. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Work with me and we will learn new ways to handle the way you express your anger. Together we will work with your judgment of life events so you will express yourself in a more reasonable way.

Anger is a very strong emotion. Anger can be highly destructive in many aspects of a person's life. I would help clients to separate themselves from their anger, so that it does not have the power to define their identity or their relationships. I would also help clients to increase anger management skills by exploring the source of their anger, mapping the influence of their anger, identifying triggers, and exploring the progression of their anger. In addition, I would help enhance client relaxation strategies by practicing breathing techniques, mindfulness meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation.

There's no shame in asking for help with anger management. What causes shame is the damage you cause others when your anger spills out onto them. In any healthy relationship, disagreements are to be expected. But decisions need to be discussed and negotiated, not forced or made on the sly. Anger management is about learning how to regulate negative emotions, ask directly for what we need, and tolerate the frustration and disappointment that come with being in relationship with others. If you are struggling to hold it together without blasting people you care about, you need help with anger management.