Anger Management and Counseling in Lawndale, CA.

Anger is a healthy expression of emotion. When anger and rage become the dominating emotion that rules our actions, a potentially serious problem exists. When this occurs we feel out of control, even frightened by the intensity of feeling. Scared by life altering actions and repercussions. We become lost and confused. We know this is not me but yet it is. This mystery is solvable. Sometimes when negative experiences happen we hide and bury them, We do this so well we forget why the anger is there. Over the years these experiences multiply, fester and grow. A time bomb waiting to be triggered. We can help you unearth the issues, defuse and help you to dismantle the bomb. Call! We can help.

Anger is not the problem any more than the warning light on your dashboard is the problem. Just like your dashboard warning light, anger is an indicator that something is wrong and needs to change. The problem comes, whether in a car or a human, when we try to fix only the indicator. If you disconnect the engine warning light, your engine will still blow up. If you attempt to control your anger without understanding the root cause of it, you'll still blow up. Working to understand the deeper causes of your anger while learning tools to manage your out-of-control behavior is the best approach.

Is your anger out of control? Is anger getting in the way of your relationships and stopping you from getting everything you want? How do you manage anger? What are those triggers that set you off? There are many tools that can be gained from treatment. These tools can help you find your way through anger learn as you learn effective ways to respond when activated.

Anger comes in many forms. Some of us default to frequent anger towards others, which can damage meaningful relationships and work opportunities. We can also direct anger inward towards ourselves in the form of recurrent self-criticism, negative judgment, and self-destructive behaviors. Anger is an important and healthy emotion that can bring attention to other more difficult underlying emotions and unmet needs. Such as feeling ashamed, sad, invalidated, or lonely. My approach to helping others more effectively manage anger is to better identify and understand emotions in general. Then learn to respond to difficult experiences with intentional, skillful action vs. emotional reactivity.

Is your anger ruining your relationships? Are yo struggling at work because you get inpatient and have outbursts? Underneath anger is pain. Identify the pain, heal it and your anger will come under control. Group therapy offers a safe space for you to learn how to manage your anger. In group therapy, you have the opportunity to understand where your anger comes from and how it affects others.

We offer Anger Management classes to both court ordered and volunteer clients. Our program is 52 weeks of new material each week. It is evidence based and helps facilitate change if the client chooses to apply the principles taught. The work book and tools used in class are effective in helping clients find an alternative way of communicating their feelings or anger, frustration and even hurt. By implementing the tools taught, many clients have seen dramatic change in their relationships.

When I ask a child if anger is bad, their immediate answer is "yes". When I tell them it isn't bad, they look puzzled and horrified. I explain to them that it's what we do when we are angry that can make it bad or okay. I draw concepts from the book A Volcano in My Tummy to point out the helpful terms "clean" and "dirty" anger, i.e. punching a ball verses punching a teacher. I approach adults with the same concepts only on a more advanced level of course. God created us with a diverse set of emotions that signal warnings to us at times. Anger is one of those necessary emotions, but it does need to be released in healthy ways. I help clients explore acceptable ways to express it.

In many cases, anger is ignited when a person perceives rejection or invalidation. Where or not that is the message intended by the speaker, the angry person feels that his or her dignity has been demeaned, a loss of respect is perceived, or not being heard. A high percent of rage occurs when you don’t perceive you are getting what you want. Often times anger is a cover for insecurity, powerlessness from childhood, relational emptiness, a craving to be loved. We all have an intricate system of needs that must be satisfactorily addressed if we are to have emotional well-being. When our essential needs are not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. We feel hurt and angry. When we compare our list of personal needs with...(view profile to read more)

I have worked with clients who have had a difficult relationship with anger throughout their lives and have found that it is often accompanied by shame, blame, judgement, or guilt. These problems have a powerful voice that works to drown out a person's preferences and unique outcomes, placing them far into the background, and deeming them unimportant. It is remarkable to find out what values clients have managed to hold onto despite anger's seemingly all consuming presence. The excavation of moments of holding onto values in the face of adversity is an opportunity to approach anger from a place of agency and empowerment versus blame or shame.

Frustration and anger is a normal part of life but if you find your child or yourself having a negative attitude or pessimistic outlook on life; swearing and cussing at others, yelling and having anger outburst, hitting or throwing things, or driving aggressively, it is definitely time to get help. Learning how to manage your anger and frustration will improve your attitude, your relationships with others, and give you a sense of control over your life. Stop avoiding and blaming others for your negative behavior. Don’t ignore the warning signs, please take a step to improve your life and the lives of those you love.

I have helped many clients with anger issues, by helping them to see--and work through--the deep sadness that lies underneath chronic excessive anger. Rage can arise from humiliations, from feeling cheated by others, from shame, and from loss. Whatever the main source, anger can be a less-unpleasant substitute for the helplessness that these experiences bring with them. Clients benefit when they are able to replace the move-into-rage with a sober curiosity about just what is going on inside and outside at that moment.

Clients from various backgrounds take many different approaches to think about, feel and express anger. However, when anger negatively impacts one’s relationships, it is important to explore what is contributing to an unhealthy experience of anger. In my collaboration with clients, we venture out to explore the conscious and unconscious factors that may need to be brought to light, in the context of perhaps other biopsychosocial (biological, psychological or social) factors that may need attention. Clients who learn to understand, better identify and manage their impulses, cultivate insight and explore opportunities to practice developing skills to have an improved sense of self-mastery.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is a common reason for people seeking out therapy. Anger is a normal emotion that has a purpose yet sometimes it seems like we aren't able to manage it or it comes out in ways/situations that we don't understand. Sometimes anger can come from not being able to express our thoughts or emotions that then come out after letting those things build up. I'd be happy to help you understand what thoughts or feelings might actually be underlying the anger and help you learn ways to be able to express whatever those thoughts/emotions might be. I can help you regain your ability to deal with frustrations that seem to take up space in your mind and body.

Anger Management = dealing with unexpressed feelings that are buried, such as shame, grief, or fear, in a way that is acceptable to yourself and the world. I have worked with many individuals on anger relief - from perpetrators to people who feel victimized. I help you unearth the root of the anger/pain, and teach you coping tools to improve your life.

Do you find that you are prone to angry outbursts in your relationships? Do you have a hard time with frustration tolerance? Through an empathic and collaborative approach, you will learn how to identify and understand your feelings and triggers, develop the capacity for frustration tolerance, and strengthen your coping skills so that your anger is no longer a destructive force in your life.

We frequently offer courses on Anger Management and have several therapists that specialize in this area. Helping people struggling with anger requires a specialized approach to treatment so make sure you are talking to a therapist that specializes in this area if you are in need of help. Call us and our intake coordinator will have one of our anger management specialists give you a call.

Your anger turned towards yourself creates depression, but your anger towards others creates resentment. Do you find yourself vacillating between feeling depressed and resentful towards yourself or others in your life? Learning how to deal with your anger is the first step to get you out of that cycle. Counseling along with Mindfulness Meditation are great tools to help you manage anger and find more peace.

Feeling out of control can be extremely distressing, destructive, and can have a lasting impact on your relationships with others. Learning how to manage your emotions and effectively deal with anger is an important goal, and one that can be accomplished through active participation in therapy. The goals is for our clients to leave therapy with the skills and confidence that they can manage the challenges that come with everyday life. Learning such skills will directly help with increasing the quality of your relationships and decrease the negative impact of your anger in areas such as work, school, and family difficulties. It can also potentially help avoid any negative legal outcomes.

Anger is a normal response when we feel unjustly, unfairly or poorly treated. Anger towards ourselves is also a normal response, but comes with it a different consequence. It is what we do with the anger and how we act when angered that makes the most difference. Anger should not be something that weighs on you or the ones that you love. I will help you identify how to monitor your body and mind for what angers you. Then, we will work together to take control of your anger so that you and the people you love will no longer let harmful anger have a place in your life. You will live without the burden of being "pissed off" all the time, your loved ones will get a happier and freer you.

Anger is usually triggered when individuals have difficulties verbally expressing their feelings of frustration. All those feelings can lead to a violent physical altercation due to not being release the undesirable anger thru the use of communication. With a therapist support, skills can be learned on how to manage your strong undesired feeling and release them in a healthy manner.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I have extensive experience treating anger management issues. I have conducted anger management groups that teach and reinforce skills for managing anger. My approach to the treatment of anger issues consists of: assisting client's in understanding the Nonproductive Anger Cycle that perpetuates destructive behavior, educating about the different types of anger, teaching anger management skills, and helping clients explore pain and fear that perpetuates their ineffective expression of anger. Anger management treatment includes helping clients learn to accept their emotions and learn how to tolerate and express their emotions more effectively.