Anger Management and Counseling in Lennox, CA.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I use Trauma Therapy and Communication tools to find new ways of awareness to express oneself appropriately. I have been trained to find the "triggers" that mean someone may go "ballistic" because of these triggers, then find a way to change the way this energy is expressed. In my over twenty years of training I have a great many tools in my tool box. I know I can help!

Anger is a healthy expression of emotion. When anger and rage become the dominating emotion that rules our actions, a potentially serious problem exists. When this occurs we feel out of control, even frightened by the intensity of feeling. Scared by life altering actions and repercussions. We become lost and confused. We know this is not me but yet it is. This mystery is solvable. Sometimes when negative experiences happen we hide and bury them, We do this so well we forget why the anger is there. Over the years these experiences multiply, fester and grow. A time bomb waiting to be triggered. We can help you unearth the issues, defuse and help you to dismantle the bomb. Call! We can help.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I have helped many clients with anger issues, by helping them to see--and work through--the deep sadness that lies underneath chronic excessive anger. Rage can arise from humiliations, from feeling cheated by others, from shame, and from loss. Whatever the main source, anger can be a less-unpleasant substitute for the helplessness that these experiences bring with them. Clients benefit when they are able to replace the move-into-rage with a sober curiosity about just what is going on inside and outside at that moment.

I have worked with many individuals who are having a lot of difficulty coping with their big feelings around anger. Much of the time, behind the anger are other feeling of hurt, frustration and an umbrella of sadness. Anger can be very debilitating and can get in the way of having successful and positive relationships both personally and professionally. In my practice, I work with my clients to understand the origin of the anger as well as to develop ways to alleviate it with the goal of living a happier life.

Anger is actually quite useful and can give us a lot of information about how we are feeling. Anger is not really a feeling but a reaction to other feelings. It provides energy when we are not being treated well. It tells us when we are in pain or have been hurt. When we fearful we can become angry. When anger is not allowed to be expressed or goes on too long it is not healthy. Once you learn what anger is telling you and get in touch with the underlying feelings you can learn to manage anger appropriately.

Most people who have difficulties controling their anger attempt to suppress the anger by various means, which often leads to future eruptions. A more effect approach is to explore the causes of the anger by discussing your feelings with an objective psychologist. Ironically, anger control is gained not through "control of anger" but through feeling and understanding the anger.

Do you find that you are prone to angry outbursts in your relationships? Do you have a hard time with frustration tolerance? Through an empathic and collaborative approach, you will learn how to identify and understand your feelings and triggers, develop the capacity for frustration tolerance, and strengthen your coping skills so that your anger is no longer a destructive force in your life.

Anger is a necessary emotion. However, many people are unable to manage their anger in a healthy way. This can lead to problems in relationships, family, and work. More seriously, this can lead to problems with the law. I am a Certified Anger Management Specialist. I run groups and executive anger management services to help court mandated and self referred individuals get a handle on their anger.

Anger can be a scary emotion. It can be frightening for the person expressing it and frightening for the person receiving it. Anger is a healthy emotion when used appropriately but sometimes, a person's anger feels out of control. That is when help is needed to look at ways of controlling the anger and perhaps, why such anger exists. When a person comes to see me with issues of anger management, we look ways to improve impulse control and look at why the anger is occurring in the first place. Hopefully, the client will get some insight and understanding into his/her issues, anger management skills will be taught, and, as a result, the anger be decreased and expressed appropriately.

I have a great deal of experience working with anger issues and domestic violence situations. DV is especially important to address because of the reaction of the children pulled into this dynamic. Cognitive Behavioral methods are taught which are easy to implement. We will look for the source of anger and find different redirected behaviors to replace anger. Mindfullness and various relaxation methods will be discussed. However, you will have input and final say in setting goals and in laying out our approaches to dealing with anger. We work together as equals, without judment.