Anger Management and Counseling in Lennox, CA.

Anger is not only something to "manage." The feelings in anger need to be recognized, understood, and responding to in a way that make sense. You're not bad because you are angry, you treat yourself and others badly when your trapped in intense feelings. I help people come out of the shame of being labeled in negative ways because they struggle with anger. Anger becomes less of a struggle when you're not alone in it.

Most of us have some relationship to anger. In a world that is capable of sudden cruelty and profound injustice, anger can be a powerful ally, helping us to take action that leads to real change. But anger can also try to take over our lives by tricking us into doing things we would rather not do, or getting ourselves into trouble. When anger arrives, we will face it together. Might we flip the script? Is it possible to take control of the relationship with anger, to interrogate it and unmask its motivations, its support, and its insidious methods of taking over?

When I ask a child if anger is bad, their immediate answer is "yes". When I tell them it isn't bad, they look puzzled and horrified. I explain to them that it's what we do when we are angry that can make it bad or okay. I draw concepts from the book A Volcano in My Tummy to point out the helpful terms "clean" and "dirty" anger, i.e. punching a ball verses punching a teacher. I approach adults with the same concepts only on a more advanced level of course. God created us with a diverse set of emotions that signal warnings to us at times. Anger is one of those necessary emotions, but it does need to be released in healthy ways. I help clients explore acceptable ways to express it.

I am a counselor specializing in grief and loss. When a loved one dies anger is often a feeling that looms large and can feel frightening. Anger at God, the person that died, the medical system or other people in your life is a normal feeling after a loss. As a bereavement therapist we will work together to understand these feelings and the myriad of other emotions that accompany a difficult transition.

Do you find yourself angry at the world? Do you become angry from one moment to the next without knowing or understanding what triggered you? When used appropriately and when under control anger can be a healthy way of expressing yourself, however if you find yourself to be explosive, and turning your anger on others your overall health can be impacted and cause irreparable damage to your most valued relationships. Learn healthy age appropriate styles of coping with and expressing anger by changing negative thought processes, implementing relaxation skills to de-escalate and becoming aware of your "buttons" on a daily basis.

In many cases, anger is ignited when a person perceives rejection or invalidation. Where or not that is the message intended by the speaker, the angry person feels that his or her dignity has been demeaned, a loss of respect is perceived, or not being heard. A high percent of rage occurs when you don’t perceive you are getting what you want. Often times anger is a cover for insecurity, powerlessness from childhood, relational emptiness, a craving to be loved. We all have an intricate system of needs that must be satisfactorily addressed if we are to have emotional well-being. When our essential needs are not addressed or when they are invalidated, the result is emotional turmoil. We feel hurt and angry. When we compare our list of personal needs with...(view profile to read more)

Is your anger out of control? Is anger getting in the way of your relationships and stopping you from getting everything you want? How do you manage anger? What are those triggers that set you off? There are many tools that can be gained from treatment. These tools can help you find your way through anger learn as you learn effective ways to respond when activated.

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

Are you notorious for your hot temper? Do you have a short fuse, or find yourself getting into frequent arguments and fights? Explosive anger can have serious consequences for your relationships, your health, & your state of mind. Let’s work together to prevent your anger from hijacking your life. In session, we’ll work together so you can gain insight into the real reasons for your anger. I can introduce you to some effective anger management tools, so you can learn how to express your feelings in healthier ways. I can help you learn to express your emotions without hurting yourself or other. Once you do this you’ll not only feel better, you’ll also be more likely to get your needs met.

Anger is a very strong emotion. Anger can be highly destructive in many aspects of a person's life. I would help clients to separate themselves from their anger, so that it does not have the power to define their identity or their relationships. I would also help clients to increase anger management skills by exploring the source of their anger, mapping the influence of their anger, identifying triggers, and exploring the progression of their anger. In addition, I would help enhance client relaxation strategies by practicing breathing techniques, mindfulness meditation, and progressive muscle relaxation.

While there are thousands of techniques to manage anger, understanding and resolving the source of the anger is imperative. Anger is never a primary emotion. Typically anger is a secondary response to feelings of hurt. A person's feelings are hurt then, perhaps because he or she hasn't learned how do deal with feelings of hurt effectively, those feelings manifest as anger. The more unexpressed hurt held inside, the more anger you feel. Anger stems from feeling unjustly treated and yet when anger is not managed, people still fail to understand and empathize with you. We can work to get to the source of the anger and help you to improve your relationship with self and others. Feel free to call my o....

Sometimes you don't feel like yourself. Your blood starts boiling, You get angry - And you say or do things that you later regret. I'm here to tell you that you're not alone. I'm here to help. In Anger Management Therapy, we'll talk about what triggers you to anger. Then, we'll explore coping skills to regulate your anger. I'll help you explore the underlying fears or sadness that often hide behind anger, and the shame and guilt that often linger after angry outbursts. Together, we'll work towards a better tomorrow. Call me today at (626) 272-4908.

Anger is an adaptive emotion designed to let us know when someone is violating our boundaries, treating us (or someone we care about) unfairly, or trying to take advantage of us. Everyone gets angry. At our offices, one of our therapists will help you uncover what triggers your anger, the difference between aggression and assertiveness, and help you find tools that work for you for appropriately expressing your anger.