Anger Management and Counseling in Villa Park, CA.

Everybody gets angry. Anger is a human emotion which can serve both positive and negative ends which, in itself, is neutral. Frustration, fear, feeling threatened or treated unfairly can trigger an angry outburst in any animal. Anger is a normal human emotion. It can be an appropriate response to injustice, unfairness or discrimination. However, what we need to achieve is a way of expressing anger that is reasonable, measured and proportionate. Cognitive behavioral therapy provides one of many possible answers to managing anger. Feelings are often created by our thoughts and examining our thought processes to see if they are reasonable and rational can help us with emotional regulation.

Activating the fight-flight system is the single most challenging factor in managing anger, stress, & interpersonal conflict. When anger stems from childhood trauma, EMDR may be useful. When it originates from an over-active limbic system (e.g, in ADD), neurofeedback and/or medication may be indicated. Regardless of the source, some crucial elements are: learning an effective relaxation/self-soothing method, knowing how to check one's pulse so that time-out can be taken to use the self-soothing tools to calm down when elevating (rather than after full escalation), and employing a cardio exercise program. A good Mindfulness practice can be beneficial as well for those who are so inclined.

When I ask a child if anger is bad, their immediate answer is "yes". When I tell them it isn't bad, they look puzzled and horrified. I explain to them that it's what we do when we are angry that can make it bad or okay. I draw concepts from the book A Volcano in My Tummy to point out the helpful terms "clean" and "dirty" anger, i.e. punching a ball verses punching a teacher. I approach adults with the same concepts only on a more advanced level of course. God created us with a diverse set of emotions that signal warnings to us at times. Anger is one of those necessary emotions, but it does need to be released in healthy ways. I help clients explore acceptable ways to express it.

Anger is a healthy expression of emotion. When anger and rage become the dominating emotion that rules our actions, a potentially serious problem exists. When this occurs we feel out of control, even frightened by the intensity of feeling. Scared by life altering actions and repercussions. We become lost and confused. We know this is not me but yet it is. This mystery is solvable. Sometimes when negative experiences happen we hide and bury them, We do this so well we forget why the anger is there. Over the years these experiences multiply, fester and grow. A time bomb waiting to be triggered. We can help you unearth the issues, defuse and help you to dismantle the bomb. Call! We can help.

Being angry is part of being alive! The challenge is directing your anger in productive and assertive ways, rather than in a reactive or self-destructive manner. Get help from an experienced Psychologist and learn how to express yourself in healthy ways without withdrawing or damaging your most important relationships. Please visit my website at www.orange.county.counseling-psychologist.com

Frustration and anger are normal parts of the human experience, but when they become chronic, uncontrollable, and hurtful, they can do untold damage to relationships, families, and ourselves physically. I work with patients to understand the roots of anger, and to develop strategies for anger management by facilitating recognition of hurt, helplessness, and lack of control that underlie rage and excessive anger. Healing comes both from clear introspection and also the use of effective tools to better express hurt, anger, and need.

Realizing that anger is a secondary emotion, we are able to delve deeper to assess for the primary emotion prior to anger. Many times the root emotions are fear, pain, or hurt. In acknowledging what the root emotion to anger is, it gives us the freedom to see our part in it so that we can make different choices, which comes from a place of power vs. victimhood.

There is nothing wrong with the emotion of anger. We all get angry at times. However, it is critical to know how to express your anger in heathy ways. If you have lossed a relationship or been in legal trouble due to your anger, then you are in serious need of anger management counseling. Others may simply feel the need to get better control of their anger. In either case, anger is typically an emotion that is a cover up to other more vulnerable types of emotions and frustrations over unmet needs. When anger is out of control, you need new ways to express this anger that leads to peaceful outcomes. Please call today to learn step-by-step, how to choose a new path and outlet for your anger.

I encourage you to express your anger without violence to others while finding how you can harness this emotion to help yourself instead of self-destruction. You have a right to be as angry as you feel and to learn to evaluate the costs of bottling it up or feeling out of cotnrol. The expression of anger and its energy can be used to help you improve your life if you are willing to learn more about it.

Often our relationship with anger can transform from 'management' to recovery, when we allow ourselves to work through the themes that generated the anger in the first place. Anger keeps us stuck and directs too much of our energy in a non-productive manner. I can help you work it through so your energy can flow in a more profitable direction. An internal shift of this type and magnitude can represent the difference between getting through life with anger and resentment and fully enjoying your life.

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Whether your anger is towards friends, family, or co-workers, there are successful ways to control this emotion. You no longer have to feel bottled up or explode at the wrong time. No two people have the same ways of reacting to anger, so you will get a custom made plan that works specifically for you. Call us now and see for yourself how effective our counseling can be.