Anger Management and Counseling in Villa Park, CA.

Anger is a common issue when you were raised by someone who was angry or you have trauma that causes your fear and anger to be easily triggered. I help you determine the root causes of your anger and treat both the symptom of anger and the root cause to maximize your success at overcoming anger! I also use proven anger management techniques in addition to holistic treatments for trauma, relationship problems, parenting, etc. I offer an individualized, holistic and creative approach to working with your anger issues. Call me! I can help!

Activating the fight-flight system is the single most challenging factor in managing anger, stress, & interpersonal conflict. When anger stems from childhood trauma, EMDR may be useful. When it originates from an over-active limbic system (e.g, in ADD), neurofeedback and/or medication may be indicated. Regardless of the source, some crucial elements are: learning an effective relaxation/self-soothing method, knowing how to check one's pulse so that time-out can be taken to use the self-soothing tools to calm down when elevating (rather than after full escalation), and employing a cardio exercise program. A good Mindfulness practice can be beneficial as well for those who are so inclined.

I have worked with many clients in understanding the root to their anger, triggers, and how to manage their anger in different situations. In most cases, I don't think anger is an isolated feeling. I view it as a result of connecting to something deeper. Which could be an unresolved pain, loss, repression of emotions, etc. I have helped clients to understand what is causing them to be angry and to work through to find the words of their experiences. I have also helped clients to learn how to cope with these feelings and to explore alternatives to express their feelings in ways that helps the client to feel good about themselves.

Anger is a normal emotion that we all feel, however if your anger is interfering with you relationships at home or at work it is important to get help. Destructive anger is often a mask for feeling of helplessness, poor self image, and depression that can be traced back to our earliest relationships. I will help you to identify the roots of your anger and take specific steps to handling situations differently. You can learn to talk about your feelings and needs without attacking. You can learn to hear disagreement from your partner or co-workers without feeling defensive. I have worked with anger issues all my professional life and I can help.

Whether your anger is towards friends, family, or co-workers, there are successful ways to control this emotion. You no longer have to feel bottled up or explode at the wrong time. No two people have the same ways of reacting to anger, so you will get a custom made plan that works specifically for you. Call us now and see for yourself how effective our counseling can be.

When I work with those who are struggling with anger issues, I believe it is important to address the root of the anger, as well as develop constructive coping skills that you can draw on in the moment. In therapy, we can identify triggers that will help you anticipate and better prepare for your feelings. It is important for you to find healthy outlets for this energy as well as gain awareness into how others are impacted by your reactions.

Anger does not define you. I help my client bring their anger under control, but I never forget that they are a PERSON FIRST. I treat each of my client with respect and dignity. I believe only when people feel truly cared for that they can start to transcend the negative patterns they are stuck in. Finding the right person to help you is a lot to do with chemistry. Please call me at (949) 288-3123 if you have any questions at all. I want your therapy journey to be as successful as possible.

You do not have to be a victim of your anger and anger responses. Often we learn from caregivers how to handle our hurt and anger. Other times, anger can be a symptom of undiagnosed depression. Learning to respond in a way you can feel proud of is something that is not only possible, but if you are motivated, can change easily. After determining the root of your anger, we can work together to change the behaviors and after effects of your rage.

Realizing that anger is a secondary emotion, we are able to delve deeper to assess for the primary emotion prior to anger. Many times the root emotions are fear, pain, or hurt. In acknowledging what the root emotion to anger is, it gives us the freedom to see our part in it so that we can make different choices, which comes from a place of power vs. victimhood.

With a partner, I have developed a new and effective model of anger management that teaches you eight proven tools for anger control. These skill-based tools include; (1) reducing stress in your life, (2) developing empathy, (3)learning to respond instead of react, (4) changing self-talk, (5) communicating assertively, (6) adjusting expectations, (7) learning to forgive, and (8) retreating and thinking things over. These tools are taught to clients both in individual consultation and in anger management classes. They are also taught in online anger management programs I have produced.

Often our relationship with anger can transform from 'management' to recovery, when we allow ourselves to work through the themes that generated the anger in the first place. Anger keeps us stuck and directs too much of our energy in a non-productive manner. I can help you work it through so your energy can flow in a more profitable direction. An internal shift of this type and magnitude can represent the difference between getting through life with anger and resentment and fully enjoying your life.

If you and your partner are feeling emotionally disconnected, you may find yourself drawn into repeated arguments with each other about seemingly unrelated issues -- such as money, parenting, chores, and sex. Hiding within these disagreements are painful questions: Can I reach you? Do I matter to you? Can I count on you if I need you? Once these deep, hidden questions are calmed, and you both feel safe and loved, you and your partner will find it much easier to resolve other issues.

Being angry is part of being alive! The challenge is directing your anger in productive and assertive ways, rather than in a reactive or self-destructive manner. Get help from an experienced Psychologist and learn how to express yourself in healthy ways without withdrawing or damaging your most important relationships. Please visit my website at www.orange.county.counseling-psychologist.com