Great Couples Counseling in Livermore, CA. Therapy to heal relationships.

Do you and your loved one seem to be moving farther and father apart? Do you notice that you are arguing more, feeling more distant, or feeling cut off completely from this person that you had once found so much joy in? The relationship with a significant other is one of the most profound that you will ever experience. It is responsible for keeping us centered emotionally in stressful times, and it is responsible for helping us to feel joy and connection in the world. Learn to communicate with your partner and how to get your needs met and figure out the primary needs of your partner. Rebuild trust and friendship and learn skills and tools to avoid the biggest relationship killers!

FRUSTRATED ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIPS? Stressed out about what to do next? Are you considering breakup or divorce but really want to give it a last chance? Would you like to take one more look before making any permanent decision? I can help you gain clarity, confidence in your decision making in regards to a very important matter in your life through a brief and focused counseling process.

One of my favorite subspecialties is working with couples. This comes out of my own experience of having been happily married for 35 years, and knowing that relationships are the crucible of transformation. Nothing in my life has returned more reward and more wisdom than the process of struggling along with my wife to figure out how to be in relationship with another human being. Relationships involve merging, separating, leading, following, and getting into a state of attunement. Most of us were not born knowing how to do these things. Couples therapy becomes an exciting exploration of these spiritual skills. After abandoning blame and shame we can actually be very happy together!

Tired of the same old arguments? Sad or even scared about the growing disconnect? Want to change but can't seem to stop the same old cycle from happening again and again? Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) transforms couples in a powerfully and emotionally engaging way , and is now considered one of the best validated couples interventions approach by leading experts all over the country. So often all of our arguments or disconnects have at their core a desire to know, "Are you there for me?" Or, " Do I really matter to you?" EFT addresses the fears that keep us apart and allows us to move close in ways that beautifully work. To learn more please visit my website right now.

I teach couples constructive paths through the inevitable relationship conflicts and challenges we all experience. By coaching them through the researched base principals and practices for creating successful relationships, I support them in achieving their goals of creating loving companionship and respect for themselves and for each other. And as a couple embodies these relationships tools they become empowered to prevent or work through most relationship challenges going forward.

I am certified in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy which is based on 30 years of research into what works for couples. 90% of couples who go through Emotionally Focused Therapy report an improvement in their relationship. Sometimes it can seem like the same argument happens over and over, even though the topic might seem different. Often partners don't feel that they are understood or heard. I help couples understand, see, and hear their own and their partner's more vulnerable feelings which underlie the stuck pattern of arguments. The closeness you used to have can be regained and is often improved as you understand and know each other better than you ever did before

I am trained and certified in Prepare / Enrich assessment. This questionnaire is used as a tool to help me find the couples' strengths & areas for growth. I use those strengths to help them with the areas for growth. This tool covers over eight areas of a marriage - communication, conflict resolution, sexuality, parenting, leisure activities and friends, spirituality, finances and family of origin.

Couples may they be in a dating relationship, living together, engaged to marry, married, in business together, separating, divorcing, fighting over children, property, alimony or visitation, are often confronted with a breakdown in communication and an inability to resolve conflicts. Couple counseling aims to reveal the disconnect within a couple that often once had the ability to connect and function in harmony. Couples can quickly get off track with one another and need skilled guidance to help them learn to resolve conflicts, once again listen and communicate effectively as well as to be able to disagree without forcing the relationship to end.

Are you feeling helpless and hopeless about your relationship? Do you often feel frustrated and defeated, opting to withdraw from your partner or emotionally lash out in ways you know are hurtful? Do you wish you could rekindle the passion and romance you used to feel in your relationship when you were dating, but can't seem to find any hope in making it happen? Has having children changed your relationship for the worse. I offer a research based assessment and treatment process that clearly guides couples better ways to express emotion, deal with conflict, and rekindle the love that brought them together. Contact me for a free consultation appointment.

My goal in couple’s therapy is to help two people reestablish a healthy bond, mutual respect, and open communication. Often life gets busy, and different stressors such as financial, infidelity, and or parenting challenges can cause a relationship to become fractured or strained. In couples therapy we will work together to rekindle the bonds that tie us and learn to strengthen friendship. We will spend time working on fixing the broken bonds and repairing the hardships between the couple.

Are you overwhelmed, frustrated, demoralized, afraid, fed-up, worried, unsure, or feeling hopeless about your relationship? Have you stopped talking about things or does everything turn into a fight? Do you feel alone even when you are together? Perhaps you are concerned about your own feelings and behavior. Maybe all of this is true. You are not alone, and I can probably help. Whether the dissatisfaction, the growing distance, the tension, and the arguments are about money, intimacy, a lack of communication, the kids, or broken promises, people often find themselves stuck, even trapped in painful situations. I offer practical and lasting help for couples who are in these situation....

I provide couples counseling which can be beneficial whether you are married or in a long term partnership. Therapy can be helpful for all couples to open up communication, gain mutual understanding and have a safe place to be vulnerable. Engaging in couples therapy can valuable whether there is a specific issue needing focus or just the desire to gain better communication. I look forward to supporting through with this process.

We practice Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT). This model believes that we are all hard wired for attachment and connection. We need love and security and how we deal with this vulnerability is what determines how we are in relationships. When love doesn’t work, it hurts, and secure emotional attachment is the cure. We facilitate a couples development of a secure attachment by helping them come together and break the negative patterns of insecurity. After the negative patterns of communication, behavior, and perceptions have identified and broken, we then help the couple to create new emotional experiences that help to replace the old out-dated patterns and solve there problems.