Family Counseling Services in Martinez, CA.

I provide family therapy for a variety of families including those with young children, teens and young adults. I help by having everyone present in the session to hear each other and to support each family member in being heard and understood. I help each person understand the underlying feelings that are often not seen, but have an impact when they are expressed as frustration or anger. Understanding each other to improve the closeness between family members can help resolve conflicts and provide a sense of safety and security.

Conflicts in a family can become so routine that it may be difficult for you to determine which issues are important and which have become automatic battles. I can provide your family a safe place to work through this with an objective and neutral perspective that allows everyone to hear and everyone to be heard. Frequent arguing, nagging, complaining - all intensify the stress of daily life. Your family can learn to live harmoniously - not perfectly without ever having conflict - but without the need for "winners" and "losers" in constant tug of wars. It is exhausting and unhealthy to live with tension in your home. Call me today and let's begin easing that tension and regaining calm.

My experience practicing family therapy is magical: taking a positive view and seeing the family as a system seeking happiness, I have been able to radically improve a child's life and increase their family's happiness through simple changes to a family's interactions. One example was a 10-year old boy whose behavior was so extreme he was prohibited from public and private schools and headed to a permanent psychiatric institution. In 12 sessions he returned to total normalcy and public school. Since training at Ackerman Family Institute (with Olga Silverstein) and the Washington Family Institute (with Chloe Madanes & Jay Haley), I have practiced family therapy for over thirty-years.

The most frequent family issues I see are problems with parenting (agreeing on limits/ consequences, either parent feeling supported by the other), difficulty with issues of adolescence (self-injury, eating disorder, suicidality, substance abuse, abusive relationships, bullying), and arguing/ yelling at one another. Any of these issues are difficult to handle; often times they occur as a bundle of issues. This can feel overwhelming to both parent and child. The whole system suffers and feelings of fear, hopelessness, guilt, anger, and resentment are free-floating with no useful direction. We will find strategies that work for your family so that you enjoy one another again.

Family counseling is often a great way to help support family members working through a wide range of difficulties. Each member of a family is growing and developing at their own pace and in their own way. Often times conflict will arise between members due to insufficient understanding and a lack of proper communication. Family therapy can help clearly identify the conflict and how it is affecting ALL members of the family. It puts the power and responsibility for change on each member. Family therapy provides a compassionate, supportive place for members to hear, feel heard and build stronger, healthier connections.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I found that the skills that my Couples learn from me: how to speak and listen in a way that allows real intimacy to digest on the gut level is extremely useful in working with families. Many times family members love each other but that love does not digest. Often there is a child or teenager that is acting out and when the parents learn how to connect with their child on a deeper level, the need for the acting out behaviors goes away. Parents sometimes need help being on the same team to BOTH provide the necessary structure (rules) AND do it in a way so the child (or teen) digests the love. Your children appreciate the rules from a loving team (even if they pretend they hate them)!

Matt Lindgren offers family therapy in Oakland to help adults & children adjust to deaths, births, child behavioral problems, & attachment problems, & childhood trauma. Why not use therapy to build & strengthen your relationships with family and friends? Have someone help you move past stumbling blocks & old resentments and pain toward healthy relationship of love and respect. Can you think of a better way to invest your time & money than to grow closer to the people you love? I practice systems theory, a scientific theory that describes how complex systems, like ecosystems function. Systems theory focuses on how families find balance between resisting change and adapting to new information.

Having your family all in one room talking openly about personal issues with a therapist may sound like the worst possible way to spend an hour. Families are complicated and sometimes communication can almost completely break down. I can help each member of your family to feel heard and understood. By listening deeply to your past and present personal family history we can collaborate to make meaningful links and identify where communication might be breaking down. By creating effective communication we can generate movement around family issues and dynamics that may have felt stuck or impossible to understand. My style is warm, nonjudgmental, and active.

Family counseling is designed to strengthen the bonds within the relationship. Many times families will be struggling with day-to-day living (small problems will start to add up to larger problems). We tend to fall into ruts of the way we do things and sometimes that creates resentments and conflict that are not communicated in a way that helps others within the family to understand your concerns. By bringing everyone together. we can work on communication, division of labor, finances, and other issues that may be making home life not the sanctuary that we all want our homes to be.

One of my main specialities is family counseling. I work with families of all varieties; sisters, fathers, daughters sons, mothers, cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles, or your "family of choice" etc. I also work with business associates. Straight as well as members of the LBGTQ community. I enjoy this work immensely and have helped many families find more closeness, safety, compassion, ease and care for each other. No matter how old and deep the problems are in your relationship, I can help you finally move past these issues for good.

Family therapy is a process that targets relationships between and among members of an immediate or extended family. I recommend that families pursue therapy when a family member experiences problems which upsets family dynamics. This includes, but is not limited to, illness of a family member, a separation or divorce, a child experiencing problems that impact the family and the challenges inherent in blending families. My purpose is to help each family member learn to interact more effectively and handle conflicts within the family both positively and constructively. I work with both the adults and children in the family as they work together to function successfully as a family unit.

Healthy communication is the foundation for any strong relationship, building trust and supportive boundaries in the process. Sometimes, communication in a familial context becomes fractured-simply because of our busy lives and schedules or because of a major event like divorce. No matter what brings a family system into my office, I am excited to begin helping everyone involved begin to really listen to one another, hear one another, and find a way to understand and support one another without feeling their own needs threatened or unmet.