Grief and Loss Counseling in Lomita, CA.

Everyone grieves in their own way. You shouldn't feel you are out-of-control because you grieve in unexpected ways or for a longer peroid. Cultural and religious differences in grieving exist which are perfectly acceptible. A therapist must be sensitive to these issues. Grief is said to involve denial, anger, bargaining, deperession and acceptance. We will monitor your reactions to validate those feelings in session. Unhealthy reactions to loss do occur; self-medicating, and isolating oneslef for long periods, experiencing full-blown depression -- these behaviors, can prove detrimental. We will monitor your behaviors and mood changes and deal with negative conditions, should they occur.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

I have lost people close to me and I can understand what you may be experiencing, even if you had violent/sudden loss. I offer a highly supportive environment in which we talk through your loss, share memories, and I can teach you about grief and loss. In addition, I offer a supportive therapy group for bereavement, which has been proven extremely helpful to people grieving. I use energy therapies and other alternative therapies along with more conventional psychotherapy which enhances your healig and working through losses. I offer a holistic approach to therapy through talk therapy, art and creative therapy, group therapy, bibliotherapy and energy therapies. Contact me because I can help!

At some point, everyone experiences the grief and loss of something or someone valuable in life. The key is knowing how to grieve one's loss. Most people don't know how to grieve and our culture does not allow for it. Entering therapy after a loss of a job, relationship, or a loved one can help heal the wounds and help the individual move on with life.

Sometimes loss is unbearable. If you are suffering from a depression brought on by the death of a loved one or the loss of something else immensely important to you, I can help. Maybe you've lost hope, as if there is no reason to get out of bed anymore. Psychotherapy with a caring therapist can help tremendously. Psychotherapy can help you move the stages of grief at a pace that is comfortable for you.

I cannot make your grief disappear, though I sure wish I could. But I can help you learn to live with your loss, so that day by day you can begin to rebuild, move forward, and of course, honor what you have lost. Many clients come to me with a goal of making the grief go away; they want to fast forward to where they don't feel the pain anymore. Having worked with trauma survivors for so long (and your loss is traumatic for you) I know this approach does not work. Those emotions just get buried and they always come back. In therapy you will learn how to create a safe space to grieve without feeling overwhelmed. You will learn how to find new meaning from your experiences and find peace.

I know grief too well, having lost significant, beautiful people in my life. Thus, I am able to help you navigate the complex waves of emotions that overtake us in grief and leave us feeling depleted and empty. 1 Corinthians 12 (Living Bible) states that, "Love never ends". Christ promised we will meet our loved ones again in eternity. This is the greatest comfort one can hold onto in time of grief and loss.

Losing a loved one (human or animal) can make us question our mortality and the meaning in our own life. Everyone has a unique way of grieving, yet we are often expected to grieve in culturally predefined ways. I can help and encourage you to create your own personal way of working through the acceptance of the loss, at whatever timeline feels appropriate to you. I can provide you with a safe, non-judgmental environment for you to mourn. As you reflect on the loss, I will be with you to remember the joyous times with your loved one as well. I can guide you with different exercises, helping you on your way toward recovery.

Losing someone significant in your life can turn your world upside down. Sometimes we need a space to pause, reflect, regroup, and express the often-conflicting thoughts and feelings that have become overwhelming. In order to make sense of loss and move forward, we must "grieve well" by honoring our own very real and difficult feelings, as well as who or what we have lost. I will join you as you process your experience and assist in integrating the past, present and future during this very difficult time.

We are so lucky to have people in our lives that we love and whom have made an impact. It is a painful thing to have to say goodbye to that person. It is a process which is unique to each individual. No one can determine how long you will grieve for or exactly how you will navigate the grieving stages. With understanding, empathy and some tools to help you through the suffering, you can move through grief in a healthy way. If you feel you are struggling with grief then getting professional help is the next step.

No One Should Be Alone in Their Grieving! Grief and loss is a very delicate and personal process. The pain and hurt one experiences through grief and loss is so deep. I believe prayer, reading God’s word, and processing your experience in your own time is helpful. There is no one way to heal from loss. Each individual has their own personal journey, but this is a process where having a supportive, caring, and knowledgeable counselor can be of assistance. No one should deal with loss alone.

Grief and loss is one of the more sensitive subjects that makes its way through a therapists office. Grief and loss can also occur in anyone at any time as a result of any type of loss. When processing grief and loss, empathy is an essential component of the therapeutic process. Grief and loss can also impact one’s sexual wants, needs, and desires. It is essential that grief and loss is thoroughly processed and given the necessary space within one’s life. I appreciate you trusting your therapeutic needs with me.